Ukungakholwa, intukuthelo, ukudideka nokuphelelwa yithemba kunqoba kumama ogulayo, into eqondakala ngokuphelele futhi ethembekile.
Lapho ubhekene nokutholakala komdlavuza webele, imvamisa baziwa kangcono ngayo yonke imiphumela yomzimba kunaleyo engokwengqondo. Ngalolu suku olunikezelwe kubo bonke abesifazane abanesibindi nemindeni yabo, sizogxila ekulimaleni kwengqondo komama abanomdlavuza webele.
Ukwesaba umdlavuza webele
Njengowesifazane, kunzima ukubhekana nomdlavuza webele, ikakhulukazi lapho ngidla umndeni imele insika eyisisekelo, ikakhulukazi uma kunezingane. Owesifazane kumele abhekane neqoqo lemizwa engenakuphikiswa efika ngaphandle kokuthola indawo. Umama wesaba ukwehluleka, ukwehluleka, ukuthi kungenzeka alahlekelwe yikusasa nendodana yakhe, ukungafezekisi amaphupho awasebenzele... Ukungakholwa, intukuthelo, ukudideka nokuphelelwa yithemba kuyamnqoba, into eqondakala ngokuphelele futhi ethembekile.
Imizwa engemihle ijwayelekile, futhi noma ngubani ozwa igama elithi umdlavuza inhliziyo yakhe yeqa ukushaya. Kuseseyigama elinamandla nelisabekayo. Ukukhathazeka kuvame ukwenzeka, ukwesaba okuzokwenzeka, noma lapho konke sekuphelile, kusekhona iota yokungaqiniseki uma kungenzeka lesi sifo sibuye ... Ukuba nabantu ababalulekile eduze kwengeza induduzo, nokuhlupheka ngokwehluleka ukugwema ukubakhathaza. the mujer Kumele uzikholelwe ukuthi uyakwazi ukukunqoba futhi ungacabangi ukuthi ubuthakathaka, kunalokho, ukuqhubeka kuwuphawu lwamandla amakhulu.
Umama onomdlavuza webele
Lapho owesifazane ephila nomdlavuza webele ngaphandle kwengane, akufanele abe namandla ngaye, futhi angagcini imibono noma imizwa kuye ukuze angamlimazi.
Lapho kunengane phakathi kwesimo lapho umama ethinteka khona ukugula, umuzwa wokungenzi okwanele weqa izinhlangothi zombili. Amalungu omndeni angaba nomuzwa wokuthi ahluleka ukusiza ngendlela abengathanda ngayo futhi isiguli singase sibe nomuzwa wokuthi kunabantu, kubandakanya nengane, ebakhathalelayo. Ukukhuluma nabanye omama abadlula entweni efanayo, ukushintshana ngamava, kungaba yindlela ephephe kunazo zonke, futhi ngaphandle kokungabaza ukusekelwa okuhle kakhulu.
Umama uhlale ebeka imizwa yendodana yakhe ngaphambi kweyakhe, yingakho bhekana ne ukugula nezingane ayishiyi inkululeko eyanele yokuveza konke ukwesaba ikusasa elingaqinisekile. Inqubo yokwamukelwa kwalesi sifo, yomzabalazo nokwelashwa, kanye nezikhathi ezilandelwayo zokulandelwa nangemva kokuhlinzwa, kuzobonisa ukucindezeleka nokukhathala, mhlawumbe okuxakile nokuqukethwe. Owesifazane kumele afunde ukuhlala nesimo sakhe esisha futhi alulame ngesikhathi esifanele, ikakhulukazi ezingeni lomqondo.
Imizwa ngokugula
Isiguli sizozwa njengokumemeza, ubunzima bokulala nokuphumula, izinhlungu zaso emzimbeni zizosenza sizizwe sibi kakhulu, futhi nomndeni umuzwa wecala uzokwanda. Lapho owesifazane ephila nomdlavuza webele ngaphandle kwengane, akufanele abe namandla ngaye, futhi angagcini imibono noma imizwa kuye ukuze angamlimazi. Umama nonkosikazi, abanamandla futhi abanesibindi, bangazivumela ukuba bawe, kwesinye isikhathi bazinikele ..., kodwa ngendodana, isibindi sibuya ngomfutho owengeziwe. Ukukhuthaza isiguli kuzoba yinto ebalulekile ukuze singanqabi izikhathi zokwelashwa eziceliwe, noma ukuhlinzwa uma kunesidingo.
Abayeni, abazali babo noma izingane, kufanele basebenzise usizo lwengqondo ukugwema ukubola, futhi bazi ukuthi bangenza kanjani nomuntu ogulayo. Akufanele yahlulelwe, kepha yembethe ngaphandle kwemibandela. Imiphumela engokomzwelo yokudlula kwinqubo edla isikhathi kufanele inciphiswe ngangokunokwenzeka. Impilo enempilo, ezemidlalo, eyiyo ukondla noma izindlela zokuphumula zingakusiza ubhekane kangcono nakho. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, isimo sengqondo nomama omuhle ngaphambi kwalesi sigaba kuzobeka ijubane futhi kukwenze kube nokubekezelela wonke umuntu.
Yabelana nendodana
Ingane kufanele izizwe ilusizo ukuba seduze nomama futhi iphephele komunye nomunye, ngaphandle kwezingcabo noma ukwesaba.
Ngokuya ngeminyaka yengane, umama angachaza ukugula kwakhe, amenze abambe iqhaza kulokho okwenzekayo, amtshele ukuthi uzoba sezinhlungwini futhi ngeke ahlale esimeni esihle futhi ufuna ukuphuma ayokwenza naye izinto . Ingane kumele yazi ukuthi ayinacala futhi nokuthi ngaphandle kobunzima besikhashana, ndawonye futhi njengomndeni, bazokwazi ukuqhubekela phambili.
Kukhona abesifazane okutholakala ukuthi banesithombe sokucindezeleka ngesikhathi noma ngemuva kokudlula kulesi sifo, bekwazi ukuyeka imikhuba emihle yokuphila ejwayelekile. Konke ukwesekwa nezeluleko kubalulekile. Umama onengane yeminyaka emi-3 noma ngaphezulu angamenza aqonde ngokwenzekayo kuye. Kufanele kukhethwe amagama afanele ukuze wazi ukuthi ukhuluma ngani. Ingane ingazizwa ikhululekile ukuthola ukwesekwa okungokomama okuvela kunina, nokuba yisiphephelo komunye nomunye ngezikhathi zosizi.
Ikusasa nezinguquko ngenxa yomdlavuza webele
Owesifazane uzoba nezikhathi zokuba nesizungu nokungaqondi kahle, uzozwa ngisho nokuthi impilo imnika ukubuyisana ebudlelwaneni bakhe, phakathi kwabantu noma emsebenzini. Kwesinye isikhathi abantu abasondelene naye bangambandlulula ngenxa yenqubo abhekene nayo. Ukubukeka okusha komzimba kanye nokwehla ngokwengqondo kunomthelela kowesifazane onomdlavuza webele, futhi kunquma ikusasa lakhe futhi impilo yengqondo, okungafanele babe ngazo, noma bazizwe belahliwe.
Izikhathi kufanele ziphathwe ngowesifazane ngaphandle kwesikhathi. Kubalulekile ukuthi avunyelwe ukwenza, athathe isinqumo futhi ahlonishwe. Ukuba nabasebenzi bezempilo ongaphendukela kubo ngokungabaza nangokwesaba kuzokunika ukuthula kwengqondo. Okunye ukwesaba okukhulu ukuthi isifo sakho siyifa. Konke lokhu ngingakudalula kudokotela wakho. Owesifazane ongumama, Ngaphezu kwalokho, isifuba asigcini ngokubukeka komzimba kuphela, kodwa futhi siyingxenye yomzimba ondla futhi ududuze ingane, futhi kuya ngezimo, uma kuthathwe, kusho ukulahlekelwa okuningi kakhulu.