Uma ngesikhathi soSuku Lwezincwadi Lwentsha sikutshele ukuthi ziyini okuthandwa ngumphakathi wentsha maqondana nokufundwa kwayo, namuhla ngithanda ukugxila ezinganeni nasezinganeni ezisencane kakhulu (kuze kufike eminyakeni eyisithupha); kepha ngeke ngikhulume kuphela ngalokho okubahehile, kepha ngizongeza izici esizilindele ezincwadini zale minyaka.
Sengikushilo izolo: kulezi zinsuku sithola izincwadi eziningi zazo zonke izinhlobo ezibhekiswe ebuntwaneni, mhlawumbe ngokweqile; noma singacabanga ukuthi ukwehluka nobuningi, amandla okwenza izinqumo athe xaxa, ezikhathini eziningi sithola ukufundwa okungahlangabezani nezimfuneko ezisezingeni eliphansi ezizenza zifaneleke. Qhubeka ufunde ngoba ngicabanga ukuthi uzoba nentshisekelo.
Okokuqala ngithanda ukunika omama nobaba ivoti lokuzethemba abathi ngesonto ngalinye bakhethe izincwadi emtatsheni wezincwadi, noma bazithenge, bazifundele izingane zakho. Awudingi ukwazi nge-psychology yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, noma wazi bonke abashicileli bezingane, noma yibaphi ababhali abasemfashinini kakhulu emakethe yokushicilela. Kungumqondo ovamile okutshela ukuthi ingane enezinyanga ezinhlanu ubudala iyayithanda leyoncwadi yendwangu ethambile engenamakhasi amane futhi iphathwa ngesibambo esincane.
Kungu "mqondo" ofanayo obona ukuthi ingane eneminyaka emine ubudala iyashoda ngezindaba ezimayelana nezindaba zansuku zonke nezomndeni zabaphikisi ... idinga okuqukethwe okuningi nemifanekiso enamandla. Vumela ukuthi uthathwe "ngokwazi" kwakho njengabazali, futhi ukhumbule ukuthi kusukela emncane kakhulu, uyazi ukuthi ufunani. Kepha njengoba sengikhulume nge-psychology yokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ngiyakutshela ukuthi uPiaget ubesevele ekucabangele, futhi wakusebenzisa ekuvuthweni kokufunda, okwenza umehluko ngezikhathi (futhi ngiyazi ukuthi lokhu kuguquguquka kakhulu, ngoba ukuvuthwa kukodwa futhi akubuswa izindlela zangaphandle):
Ngalesi sikhathi, le ncwadi ayidlulisi nje kuphela ngolimi lwayo, kodwa futhi iba yinto ebajwayela kakhulu, futhi bangayifaka nasemilonyeni yabo.
Incwadi ibuyisa inhloso eyayenzelwe yona: ukuvumela ukuhlola nokuzifaka endabeni
Zifundele futhi uzivumele zifunde… kusukela kubuphi ubudala?
Angizijoyini izincomo ezisabalele kakhulu (futhi mhlawumbe nokuvumelana), ngoba ngicabanga ukuthi bonke obaba nawo wonke umama bangakwazi baqala "ukufundela" ingane lapho befuna: ezinyangeni ezi-3, 4, 6 ithoyizi liyaziwa encwadini, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke ukuba khona komdlali omdala kudlalwa (kulokhu ufunda) nawe, futhi usebenzisa izinsizakusebenza zento, njengamathebhu, izinsizakusebenza ezithambile, njll.
Futhi ukuze ingane ifunde yodwa, ayikho futhi iminyaka “okuvela kuyo”: kuyacaca ukuthi lapho isigaba sokufunda nokubhala sesiphelile, bazokwazi ukusichaza kahle lesi simangaliso sezindaba, nangaphambi kokuba bakwazi ukwenza isipelingi, noma ukubona amalunga, nokuhlanganisa amagama nezithombe. Kuze kube yiminyaka emi-5/6 mincane ukuthi ifundwe yodwa (yize kwabanye kungewona umzamo), kepha kancane kancane, futhi ikakhulukazi kusukela eminyakeni ye-4, bangalandela izindaba ezilandelanayo ezilula.
Izincwadi zabancane endlini.
Ngiphakamise ukwenza izincomo ezibhekiswe komama nobaba bamantombazane nabafana kuze kube yiminyaka eyi-6: akulula, ngoba kulesi sikhathi izinguquko eziningi zomzimba, zengqondo, zengqondo nezenhlalo ziyenzeka, ezizolungiselela ukudlala nokufunda (Yize eyokugcina inesici sokudlala esicace bha, futhi ibalulekile ezinganeni). Hlala ukhumbula ukuthi ukuma okuvela ngaphambili noma emuva kwezincwadi yilokho (i-orientation) ngoba nguwe owazi kangcono ukuthi amadodana namadodakazi akho anambitheka kanjani.
Ukufundwa kwezingane kuze kube yiminyaka emi-3.
Ukuthuthuka kwengqondo kuyesabeka futhi bathola nemvelo yabo (ngemuva kokwenza okufanayo ngomzimba wakho). Izingane zilalela okutshelwa ngabantu abadala, futhi zijabule nge-carantoñas zazo, nazo zilandela imidwebo yendaba, futhi cishe eminyakeni emibili ubudala zingakwazi ukubona abalingiswa abajwayelekile njengogogo nomkhulu, abangane, isilwane, njll emakhasini . Kufanele uzame ukukhetha izincwadi ezinemifanekiso ehambisana nombhalo kahle, futhi ezihehayo. Ukusuka ezinyangeni ezingama-2 bangalandela futhi bakhumbule ukulandelana okufushane kakhulu, futhi kamuva bazolithuthukisa leli khono.
Kule minyaka yokuqala, ukuzibandakanya okusebenzayo komuntu omdala endabeni kubaluleke kakhulu, okuthi, uma kungenzeka, kuhambisane nokukhuluma komzimba nokushintsha kwezwi lezwi. Ukubala kuwubuciko, kepha awudingi noma yiziphi iziqu, ningabazali futhi lokhu kwanele. Ngemuva kwezinyanga zokuqala, kungenzeka ukuthi usuke ezintanjeni uye ezindabeni ezincane ezimayelana "nokuphila kwansuku zonke", kufaka phakathi ulwazi ngemvelo (imakethe, ipaki, indlu yomalume, izilwane zasemapulazini ...).
Ulimi luvame ukuba nesigqi, futhi kungadingeka ukuthi abalingiswa babe mnandi, futhi imifanekiso ibingeyona eyethusayo
Izinto zokwakha kufanele zimelane ukuze incwadi imelane nokuphonswa, ukuncela noma ukuphathwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele kube khona isiqinisekiso maqondana nokusetshenziswa kwepende engeyona enobuthi; Lapho uthenga ezitolo ezaziwayo, futhi ikakhulukazi imikhiqizo evela kubashicileli abaziwayo, akunankinga.
Ukufundwa kwezingane kuze kube yiminyaka engu-6.
Kwesinye isikhathi kwenzeka phambilini, kepha kusuka ezinyangeni ezingama-36, izingane zethu ziyakwazi ukwakha imisho, nokunabisa imisho zisebenzisa ulimi olungasekelwa ezintweni noma ezimeni zansuku zonke. Ukucabanga ngomlingo kukhona futhi kuyisigaba esihle kakhulu, ngoba engqondweni yakhe "konke kungenzeka". Bangathola izindaba ngamanani amakhulu amafantasy, kepha bafunde kalula futhi beshesha.
Bangase baqale ukuthanda izimfumbe namahlaya, futhi jabulela izinganekwane, izingoma zabantu, izilwane ezenziwe ngabantu, futhi bayaqhubeka nokucela (ngisho nangaphezu kwesigaba esedlule) ngezindaba ezifaka kubantu ababaziwa kakhulu. Ubudlelwano bomndeni nobungane, nobukhona obuqinile bezindinganiso, buvelele ezincwadini zezingane zale minyakas.
Ekugcineni, ngiyakutshela ukuthi uMarcy Axness, umhleli we-Mothering, usitshele eminyakeni embalwa edlule kulokhu okuthunyelwe, ukuthi kule minyaka yokuqala yempilo, izingane kufanele zilalele izincwadi ezinhle emifanekisweni (ngaphandle kwamakhathuni) futhi ezimangalisayo esihlokweni (esingenayo indida noma ukubhuqa) ngoba abancane bangubuhle obumsulwa, futhi konke okufundwayo ngaphambi kokulala kuzothonya amaphupho abo.
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