Siphila ngokwesiko lokuncintisana, lapho abazali lapho bekhulisa izingane zabo bakwenza ukuze babe ngabangcono futhi ngaphandle kokuqaphela, baba ngabazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane. Abazali abaningi bacabanga ukuthi banamakhono amahle obuzali, kepha lokhu kungaphazamisa ikhono labo lokwenza kahle.
Isibonelo, ubaba osiza indodana yakhe ngomsebenzi wesikole lapho ewudinga kuhluke kakhulu kunobaba owenza umsebenzi wakhe wesikole noma ewenza ngaphansi kokuqondisa okuqinile kwabazali.
Ukuba ngumzali kwezindiza ezinophephela emhlane kuthatha amakhono obuzali ngokweqile, ngoba akusizi esikhathini esifushane noma eside. Abazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane baphatha impilo yezingane zabo kungakhathalekile ukuthi imibono noma imizwa yabancane injani. Lokhu kuzodala izinkinga ezinkulu empilweni yabo yabantu abadala, lapho kufanele bazenzele imali.
Kukhona uphenyo oluthi khombisa ukuthi kukhona ukuhlangana nabazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane nezingane ezikhulisa ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, futhi kwaboniswa ukuthi lezi zingane lapho sezikhulile, zinamakhono amancane okubhekana nokubhekana nesimo, zinamandla amancane okucabanga ngokwakha futhi zinezinkinga ezinkulu ngokuxazulula izingxabano.
Baba kanjani ngabazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane?
Isizathu sokuqala sokuthi abazali abaningi babe ngabazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane kungenxa yokuthi bafuna izingane zabo ziphephe futhi ngoba besaba. Futhi lokhu akufanele kube yinto embi uma imikhawulo ibingadlulwa ngokweqiniso. Le ndlela yokukhulisa izingane ngendiza enophephela emhlane ivame ukubonakala lapho umzali ejaha ingane yakhe epaki ngenxa yokwesaba ukulimala, lapho ingane ikwazi ngokwanele ukudlala ngaphandle 'konogada' ngemuva.
Ukwesaba ukulimala
Olunye uvalo lusemthethweni uma kukhulunywa ngokuphepha, kepha abanye abazali badlulisela ukwesaba emikhawulweni engenangqondo. Lapho abazali bezizwa benokwesaba okungafanele, bavame ukuthelela wonke umndeni. Lapho ingane isepaki, kuhle ukuyikhokhela ukuze ingazilimazi, ngoba ngale ndlela izofunda ukuzinakekela ngokwengeziwe.
Ngaphandle kwalokho, izingane kungenzeka zingazi ukuthi zingazinakekela kanjani futhi zigcine zilimale kanzima esikhathini esizayo uma abazali bengekho ukuzitshela ukuthi ziqaphele. Kepha awazi ukuthi ungabaqondisa kanjani futhi uvikele ngokweqile ngaso sonke isikhathi ngaphandle kokubaqondisa kahle ekuzinakekeleni, kuzoba nemiphumela emibi efanayo.
Ukufundisa ukuzinakekela ezindaweni eziphephile kuzobasiza ukuthi bazifundele futhi ufunde ukuzivikela ungazilimazi. Izingane kudingeka zifunde ukuzivikela ukuze zingazilimazi, ngoba abazali bazo ngeke babe khona ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuze babavikele njengoba bekhula.
Ukwesaba ukwehluleka
Abazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane bathanda izingane zabo ngaphezu kwazo zonke izinto njenganoma yimuphi omunye umzali, kepha bayesaba ukwehluleka futhi abafuni ukuthi izingane zabo zehluleke, nganoma iyiphi indlela. Bonke abazali bafuna izingane zabo ziphumelele empilweni, ukuze bazizwe benesibindi sokwenza izinto ngokufanele ezimpilweni zabo. Bafuna okungcono kakhulu ezinganeni zabo nasemakhonweni abo, kepha ukwehluleka kungaba buhlungu.
Kodwa-ke, ukungavumeli izingane zehluleke kuzozibangela ukuthi zikubekezelele okuphansi ukukhungatheka, ngeke zifunde ukubhekana nokwehluleka, futhi lokhu kuzodalela ezinye izinkinga ngokuzayo. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kungumqondo womzali ongena endleleni. Baningi kakhulu abazali abafuna ukuhumusha ubuntu babo bube bobo babantwana babo futhi babuphoqelele kubo. Laba bazali babona ukwehluleka nempumelelo yezingane zabo njengezabo. Ngakho-ke, bafuna ukusiza ingane yabo iphumelele, yingakho behaba kakhulu kangangokuba abazi ukuthi bahlukanise kanjani ubunikazi babo nobezingane zabo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi laba bazali babone ukuthi bangabantu abahluke ngokuphelele nokuthi izingane zabo zinobuntu bazo kanye nezinto abazithandayo. Kumele babalalele ukuze babe ngabasekeli abalungile ezimpilweni zabo.
Ukukhuliswa kwezindiza ezinophephela emhlane kuphendula izingane zibe 'izimvu'
Umphumela wokugcina wabazali abenza izindiza ezinophephela emhlane ngaphezu kwezingane zabo ukuthi bayasula ubuntu babo futhi izingane zabo ngeke zazi ukuthi zingaba kanjani, zizoba njengezimvu emphakathini futhi kuzoba abanye abaziqondisayo ngaphandle kokuba nobuntu bazo noma bazi ukuthi bafunani.zithola ngokwabo. Ngaphandle kwezifiso, kuzoba izifiso zabanye ezimaka indlela yakho.
Ngeke babe namakhono adingekayo ekuthuthukiseni okuhle
Izingane ezikhula nabazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane azinawo amakhono adingekayo okwenza izinqumo empilweni yazo, ngeke zazi ukuthi zingabhekana kanjani nezimo lapho izinto zingahambi kahle. Ngeke baqonde imiphumela yezinqumo ezimbi nokuziphatha okungalungile.
Abazali babo bebelokhu bezulazula phezu kwabo iminyaka, benza zonke izinqumo, beqedela yonke imisebenzi. nokulawula konke ukuziphatha nokunyakaza kuze kube seqophelweni lokuthi ingane ingakwazanga ukwakha ubunikazi obuhlukile kubazali bayo. Izokhanselwa.
Abazali kumele bahlukanise ukuzazisa kwabo nezingane zabo
Abazali abangazi ukuthi bahlukanise kanjani ukuzazisa kwabo noma ubunikazi babo ezinganeni zabo bazothathela izingane zabo izinqumo, esikhundleni sokunika izingane zabo amandla. Izingane zidinga ukuholwa ngabazali bazo, kepha futhi kufanele zizizwe zilawula nokuthi bayakwazi ukwenza izinto ngokwabo, wonke umuntu kumele ezwe ukwaneliseka kokwenza okulungile kanye nobuhlungu bokuhluleka ukuthola isibindi sokwenza ngcono ngokuzayo.
Abazali kumele babone ukuthi ukuzimela nokwehluleka yizinto ezidingekayo ukuze abantu babe nekhono ezimpilweni zabo futhi babe ngabantu abaphumelelayo. Uma izingane zingakaze zehluleke futhi azikho babe nethuba lokuzenzela izinqumo ngesikhathi sobuntwana, ngeke bazi ukuthi bangakwenza kanjani empilweni yabantu abadala futhi.
Abazali kumele bathembe izingane zabo, bazivumele ukuthi zenze izinto ezikwaziyo ukuzenza, futhi lapho izinto zingahambi kahle ngendlela ebebecabanga ngayo, kuyadingeka ukuthi ufunde emaphutheni, kepha akunakonakala ngokuphelele. Lokhu kuzosiza izingane ukuthi zikwazi ukuzimela, zizethembe, zibe ngabantu abasha abanekhono abazokwazi ukubamba umhlaba.