Isihloko esihola lokhu okuthunyelwe yiqiniso elikhulu kakhulu ozolifunda namuhla. Uma ungubaba noma umama, uzokwazi ukuthi lokhu kunjalo nokuthi ukuba ubaba kuyakhathaza kakhulu kepha ngasikhathi sinye kuyinto ezuzisa kakhulu osuyenzile nalokho ozokwenza kukho konke ukuphila kwakho. Ukuba ngubaba noma umama kufaka ingcindezi enkulu ebudlelwaneni babazali ukuze babe nengcindezi enkulu.
Uma ucabanga ukuthi ukuba umzali kuyakhathaza kodwa ube ungakusho kakhulu ukuze bangakuhluleli, ungakhathazeki ngoba wonke umzali emhlabeni uyazi ukuthi kungakhathaza kanjani.
Ukuba umzali kuyakhathaza
Kuyazwakala ngokwengeziwe ukuthi omama bahlupheka kanjani ngemuva kokubeletha, kepha okubi kakhulu ukuthi lokhu kucindezeleka kujwayelekile ngenxa yengcindezi nokukhathala abahlangabezana nakho omama ngemuva kokubeletha, ngenkathi bezama ukululama emiphumeleni yokubeletha nokukhulelwa Izinyanga eziyi-9. Kepha kwe okungakhulunywa kangako ukuthi imizwa engemihle inganweba ngaphezu kwezinyanga zokuqala zokuphila kwengane: zingazwakala ngesikhathi sesikole samabanga aphansi kanye nasebusheni bezingane.
Ukunakekela izingane kuyakhathaza ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Izingane zidinga ukunakekelwa okungapheli (ukondla njalo emahoreni amabili, zivuka kaningi ebusuku izinyanga izinyanga, zidinga imizila, njll). Ukunakekela umuntu othembeke ngokuphelele, ukungalali futhi ezimweni eziningi futhi ukusebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya, kungakwenza obaba nomama bazizwa benganakiwe ngokomzimba futhi bebukeka bekhuluphele ngokuphelele.
Ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi lapho abazali bekhathele futhi bekhathele, kuzothinta inhlalakahle yabo jikelele, kanye namandla abo okuphendula izingane zabo ngokuzwela nokuzethemba. Abazali abakhathele kakhulu futhi bangakhombisa ukukhungatheka nokucasuka ezinganeni zabo kalula kakhulu. Ngokwalesi sizathu, abazali kudingeka bazi ngalokhu ukuze balungise futhi bathuthukise inhlalakahle yabo engokomzwelo, ngaphezu kwakho konke ngenxa yezingane zakho.
Lapho kunokukhathala ngokomzimba kubazali, kukhona nokukhathala kwengqondo, empeleni, zihlala zihamba ndawonye. Ukuba ngumzali kuyakhathaza ngokomzwelo, ngokomqondo nangokwengqondo. Ukugxila emidlalweni yezingane nemisebenzi eqondiswe ezinganeni kungakhathaza, yingakho abazali bavame ukuzizwa bekhathele yize 'bebelokhu bedlala' nezingane zabo. Kubalulekile ukujabulela lezo zikhathi nezingane zakho ukugwema ukuzizwa ukhathele ngokwengqondo.
Kunabazali abasengcupheni yokudangala
Ngenxa yawo wonke umsebenzi ongaphandle nangaphakathi kwendlu nokukhathala ngokweqile ezimweni eziningi, lokhu kungaholela ekucindezelekeni esikhundleni sokujabulela injabulo. Ucwaningo oluningi lukhombisa ukuthi abazali bazizwa benenjabulo yokuba nezingane ezingaphansi kwalabo abangebona abazali. Kepha iqiniso ebusweni balolu cwaningo ukuthi umzali angakhathala emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Kepha ukwaneliseka nohlobo lwenjabulo azizwayo, akazange azizwe ngaphambi kokuba abe umzali. Ngalo mqondo, injabulo eyodwa ayinakuqhathaniswa nenye kusukela kubantu abangebona abazali.
Abantu abangabazali bangazizwa bezizwa bekhathele ngokwengeziwe nokuthi injabulo etholwa njengomzali yehlukile kunaleyo etholwa ngaphambi kokuba umzali. Kepha kuyakhathaza, ngoba izingane zidinga izidingo ezingokomzwelo kubuzali okuthi kwesinye isikhathi, Kungadlula imivuzo engokomzwelo yokuba nezingane, kwezinye izimo.
Ngenkathi ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kuvame ukuncipha ezinyangeni ezimbalwa kuye onyakeni ngemuva kokuzalwa kwengane, izingqondo zabazali abajwayelekile zingakhuphuka futhi zehle phakathi nesikhathi lapho ingane yabo ihlala ekhaya. Kunezici ezingeziwe, ngaphandle kokukhathala okuhambisana nokunakekela ingane, ezinomthelela kulokhu. Ngenhlanhla, Kunezindlela zokulwa nalo nokujabulela okukhona manje nakho konke lokho izingane ezinikela ngakho kukhulu futhi kunomvuzo ngaphezu kokukhathala. lokho kungazwakala.
Jabulela ukuba ngumzali / ukuba ngumama
Ngaphandle kobufakazi bokuthi ukuba ngumzali kungaba nzima kubantu, abazali nabo baba nezikhathi ezinkulu zokwaneliseka okunzima ukuzinqoba nganoma yisiphi esinye isipiliyoni sempilo. Kwesinye isikhathi kuyizikhathi ezincane zokuba ngumzali, njengalapho ingane yakho iqala ukuhamba, ukukhuluma, lapho ipenda, lapho inezimpumelelo zayo, lapho ithi kuwe 'Ngiyakuthanda', ukwangana okuqotho kwengane, hhayi isizungu nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ... Konke lokhu kungenza umehluko omkhulu enjabulweni yabazali, kukhulise kakhulu inhlalakahle engokomzwelo.
Kepha ukuze lokhu kwenzeke, kufanele wazi ukuthi ungazijabulela kanjani izikhathi ezincane zansuku zonke, nokuthi ukumamatheka kwezingane zakho kungaluguqula kanjani usuku olubi. Ezinye izifundo zithole ukuthi lapho abantu bengabazali abakhuthele, yilezi zikhathi ezithile ngesikhathi ezixhumene namazinga aphezulu enjabulo.
Ukuba nezingane ngokuvamile kuhilela ukuzidela okuthile, futhi abazali abaningi bakhumbuza izingane zabo ngalokhu lapho sezikhulile. Kepha akudingekile ukuthi utshele izingane zakho lokho okwenzelwe zona, ngoba izinzuzo zokuba ngumzali zidlula 'izindleko' ezingaba khona. Ukuzidela okwenzele izingane zakho, kufanele nje uzikhumbuze ngalo lonke uthando (olungenakuqhathaniswa) oluzwa ngabo.
Ukukhulisa ingane nakho kunezindleko eziningi zezezimali, kepha lokhu akucatshangwa nakancane, kwenzeka nje. Lapho abazali begxila kokuhle kunokubi, kulapho baqala khona ukuzwa ukuthi ukuba ngumzali kugcwaliswa kanjani ngokweneliseka.
Esikhundleni sokuzisola ngakho konke okwenzayo noma ukuthi kubiza malini ukuba nezingane, noma ukuthi ukhathele kangakanani noma ukukhathala okukhulu okuzwayo nsuku zonke ... Cabanga ukuthi okutholayo kubo kukhulu kakhulu. Yini enye, ukhulisa abantu abazozibusa, abayinzalo yakho. Bheka izici ezinhle zempilo yakho futhi uzobona ukuthi ukuba ngubaba noma umama kuyakhathaza kodwa futhi kuyinto ezuzisa kakhulu ekhona.