Ukuxhashazwa noma ukuxhashazwa kuyindaba ebucayi kakhulu futhi akunjalo akuyona inkinga 'yezingane' njengoba abaningi becabanga ukuthethelela imikhuba emibi yabafana abathile lapho behlukumeza abanye. Lokhu kuziphatha okungalungile nokungamukeleki ezimweni eziningi kufundwa endaweni esondele kakhulu yengane, njengasekhaya. Uma ungumzali okhathazekile nge ukuxhashazwa noma ukuhlukumeza, udinga ukufunda ukubona izimpawu zokuthi ingane iyisiqhwaga, kodwa futhi nezimpawu eziveza ukuthi ingane iyahlukunyezwa.
Lapho izingane zinomahluko othile, inkinga yokufunda noma ukuphazamiseka okwenza umehluko kwabanye, kungenzeka ukuthi ingane yakho ingaba sengcupheni yokuxhashazwa noma ukuxhashazwa uma ingenawo amathuluzi enele okubhekana nayo noma uma ungenayo ube nokuzethemba okuhle. Kungenxa yakho konke lokhu lapho abazali kufanele baqaphele futhi babheke ushintsho olungaba khona ekuziphatheni kwezingane zabo.
Abaningi izisulu bangazisi abazali babo noma othisha ukuthi bayahlukunyezwa, lokho kubenza bazizwe benamahloni, ukuthi bayabahleka, ukuthi bayabaphoxa futhi nokuthi babahlasela ngokomzimba nangamazwi. Bangacabanga ukuthi abantu abadala ngeke babasize futhi bangaze bacabange nokuthi uma bekhuluma ngakho nomuntu ukuthi ukuhlukunyezwa komhlukumezi kuzoba yinto engabekezeleleki nakakhulu nokuthi akekho umuntu ongenza noma yini ukulungisa lokho. Ngokolunye uhlangothi, iziqhwaga ngeke zitshele ngokuziphatha kwazo okungalungile futhi uma zitholakele, kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi zikuphike lokho.
Izimpawu zokuthi ingane yakho iyisisulu
Kunezimpawu ezithile nokuziphatha ekhaya okukhombisa ukuthi ingane yakho kusho ukusondelanaoy ukuthi uhlangabezana nokuxhashazwa:
- Uza esikoleni enezingubo ezidabukile noma ezixakile
- Uphule noma onakalise izimpahla zesikole
- Inemihuzuko, uhlevane noma imihuzuko futhi ayikwazi ukukunikeza incazelo enengqondo yokuthi zenziwe kanjani
- Akafuni ukuya esikoleni
- Uyesaba
- Uhlala uphathwa yikhanda nesisu njalo, ikakhulukazi uma kufanele uye esikoleni
- Khetha eminye imizila ongaya ngayo esikoleni
- Ufuna ukuba yedwa futhi azihlukanise nomphakathi
- Unamaphupho amabi noma uyakhala emaphusheni
- Uphelelwa wuthando emsebenzini wesikole bese eqala ukuba namamaki aphansi nokusebenza kabi ezifundweni
- Kubonakala kudabukile noma kucindezelekile
- Unokushintsha kwemizwelo futhi uzizwa ecasukile
- Ucela imali ongazi ukuthi uyichithela kuphi, kungenzeka ukuthi lo oshayelayo uyamphoqa ukuthi amnike imali
- Ubuya esikoleni elambile ngoba isiqhwaga sithathe isidlo sasemini
Izimpawu zokuthi ingane yakho iyisiqhwaga
Ingane ehlukumeza abanye ingabonisa enye yalezi ziphatho ekhaya:
- Inokuziphatha okunolaka nobushiqela
- Unozwela oluncane ngemizwa yabanye
- Inesidingo esikhulu sokubusa nokunqoba abanye
- Sebenzisa izinsongo nolaka ukuthola lokho okufunayo
- Kusabisa izingane zakwethu noma ezinye izingane
- Ibonisa ukuphakama kwangempela noma okucatshangwayo kunezinye izingane
- Uthukuthela kalula futhi uvame ukuthukuthela uma engakutholi akufunayo
- Unamawala
- Inokubekezelela okuphansi kokukhungatheka
- Akafuni ukwamukela izinkambiso ezisunguliwe
- Yisho amanga
- Inokuziphatha okunolaka nokuphikisayo kubantu abadala, kufaka phakathi othisha nabazali.
- Unokuziphatha okungahlangene nomphakathi noma kobugebengu (ukucekela phansi impahla noma ukweba) esemncane
- Imvamisa uthandana nabantu okungezona izinkomba ezinhle
Yini abazali besisulu abangayenza
Uma usola ukuthi ingane yakho iyahlukunyezwa kodwa isikole asikutshelanga, kufanele ulandele amanye amathiphu wokuqeda lesi simo ngokushesha:
- Iya ngokushesha uyokhuluma nothisha ngesikhathi lapho unganqamuki khona nabafundi esikoleni. Udinga ukuthola ukubambisana kwesikole ukuze umise ukuxhashazwa.
- Yiba nengqondo nengane yakho bese uyithatha ngokungathi sína inkinga, ungathathi ngamawala noma weqise.
- Ungasoli indodana yakho. Kudinga ukwesekwa nokuqondiswa kwakho okungenamibandela.
- Funa usizo lochwepheshe uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho iyaludinga, kubalulekile ukuthi izizwe ivikelekile emoyeni.
- Gcina ukuxhumana okuhle nengane yakho, chitha isikhathi esithe xaxa nayo, mnikeze ukusekelwa njalo futhi umtshele nsuku zonke ukuthi ubaluleke kangakanani kuwe nokuthi umthanda kangakanani.
- Fundisa amasu okuphepha ezingane ngaphandle kokuhlukumeza noma udlame.
- Sebenzela ekuzethembeni kwengane yakho futhi uyisize ukubeka inkinga ngendlela efanele hhayi ukuyithatha mathupha.
- Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi yenze abangane abasha ezindaweni eziphephile.
Uma ukuqinela kwenzeka esikoleni kufanele uye esikhungweni ukulungisa isimo bese wenza uhlelo lokuthatha izinyathelo.Ufanele ubhale phansi imininingwane yokuhlukunyezwa bese uxoxa ngayo nothishanhloko wesikole, uzame ukubona isimo ngokufanele futhi unqume ubucayi bendaba. Kumele wenze ingane yakho ibone ukuthi ezimeni zokuhlukunyezwa kwabantu abadala kufanele intervenir ukuxazulula inkinga, ngakho-ke uzodinga ukwazi kahle ukuthi ukhuluma nobani. Khuluma nothisha kuqala, khona-ke nothishanhloko uma ubona ukuthi asikho isixazululo futhi uma kungekho mpendulo kwezemfundo, kufanele uxhumane nommeli ukuthatha izinyathelo zomthetho ngokumelene nesikole. Ukuya ngqo emndenini womhlukumezi akusona isixazululo.
Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane ehluphekayo ukuxhashazwa uzizwe usekelwa futhi usekelwa ngaso sonke isikhathi, kufanele uzwe ukulondeka kumuntu wakho. Uma konke okunye kwehluleka futhi ingane iqhubeka nokuhlupheka esikoleni, kufanele kubhekwe indlela yokugcina yokushintsha izikole ukuze ithole ithuba lokuqala phansi. Ngaphambi kokushintsha kwesikole, kuyadingeka ukuthi ingane iye kochwepheshe be-psychology ukuze ikwazi ukusebenzela amakhono ezenhlalo, ukuzethemba nokuphepha komuntu siqu.