Imvamisa sikhuluma ngomama abangabodwa, ngalabo besifazane abakwaziyo ukukhulisa umndeni bebodwa, ngaphandle kosizo lwanoma ngubani noma ngosizo lwabanye abantu okungebona ubaba wezingane zabo. Kepha kukhona nolunye uhlangothi lwemali olungamemezelwa yiwo wonke umuntu futhi okufanele ukuthi ungalukhohlwa. Sibhekisa kubazali abangabodwa, abesilisa abakwaziyo nokukhulisa umndeni bebodwa.
Ukukhulisa ingane akuyona indlela egcwele ama-rose. Kunezivunguvungu ezinamagagasi amakhulu futhi kwesinye isikhathi kungaba nesimo sezulu esizolile futhi esibalele, kepha kwesinye isikhathi kuphela. Uma ukuba ngumzali kunzima ngokwanele njengombhangqwana, uma kwenziwa wedwa kusabiza okuphindwe kabili kakhulu… Ubunzima bukhuphukela ezingeni elisha ngokuphelele.
Kodwa-ke, kunabazali abaningi abakwaziyo ukukhulisa ngempumelelo izingane zabo bebodwa. Ukuthi uqondisa i-kayak uwedwa lapho kunendawo yomunye akusho ukuthi awukwazi ukufunda ukuhamba kamnandi emanzini amabi wobuzali. Kepha uma udinga iseluleko esithile ukuze ukwazi ukuhambisa kahle ukuzulazula kwakho, ungaphuthelwa yimigqa elandelayo ezokusiza ukuthi uthole ibhalansi enkulu.
Amathiphu okufanele uwagcine kubazali abangabodwa
Nakekela
Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukuze ube umzali omuhle oyedwa ukuzinakekela. Ukuzinakekela ekukhuliseni izingane kubalulekile. Yize kuyiqiniso ukuthi izidingo zezingane zakho zibaluleke kakhulu, kanjalo nezakho. Kulula kuwe ukulingwa ukuthi uyeke, ikakhulukazi uma ungenaso isikhathi esiningi, kodwa Kufanele uhlele isikhathi sakho ukuze uthathe isikhathi esincane sakho, noma ngabe kuyimizuzu eyi-10 ukunambitha ikhofi lakho olithandayo.
Kuyadingeka ukuthi ulale ngokwanele, udle kahle futhi udele okungabalulekile empilweni yakho nokuthi uzithathele isikhathi sekhwalithi. Zama ukufaka izikhathi zokuvivinya umzimba noma ngabe uhamba ibanga ukuya esitolo lapho uhamba khona nomuntu ohamba ngezinyawo.
Hlela kabusha impilo yakho
Uma ungubaba (noma umama) impilo ayisafani nakuqala. Yonke into iyashintsha, futhi izinguquko zibe ngcono. Kepha kufanele ululungele lolu shintsho, ngoba kungale ndlela kuphela ongamukela futhi uthokoze, noma ngabe kunzima ngezinye izikhathi. Kubalulekile ukuthi uwazise umsebenzi owenzayo njengomzali nsuku zonke nokuthi umzamo wakho uzoba nomvuzo ngokuzayo.
Ukwenza lokhu, kuzobaluleka ukuthi uphinde uthole futhi uchaze kabusha impilo yomndeni wakho, izindima zakho emndenini wakho kanye nezibopho onazo empilweni yakho yansuku zonke. Awufuni ukulwa nekusasa elingaqinisekile, vumela isigqi sempilo nemizamo yakho yokuhola indlela. Awufuni ukulindela izehlakalo ngaphambi kokuba zenzeke ngoba kuzokulethela ukukhathazeka nokungakhululeki kuphela.
Cela usizo uma uludinga
Uma udinga ukucela usizo emndenini noma kubangane ngezikhathi ezithile, ungazizwa unekhono lokwenza kanjalo. Abantu abayona imishini esingayenza nawo wonke umuntu futhi kuzoba nezinsuku lapho ungazizwa ungenawo umoya omncane noma unamandla amancane okwenza konke. Lezi zinsuku azizizwa zibuthakathaka, cela usizo kubantu abathembekile noma uqashe izinsiza zomnakekeli wezingane ukuze anakekele izingane zakho isikhashana futhi ukuze ukwazi ukugcwalisa kabusha amabhethri uma kuyilokho okudingayo ngaleso sikhathi.
Ukucela usizo akufani nobuthakathaka, kude nabo. Ukucela usizo kumane kuyindlela yokuzinakekela nokuqonda ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi awukwazi ukwenza konke ngasikhathi sinye ngoba amandla akho ayantengantenga. Futhi, uma ngolunye usuku uyagula noma uzizwe ungaphathekile kahle, uzodinga leso sandla ukuze ukwazi ukusisebenzisa.
Beka phambili futhi ungazizwa kabi ngakho
Ukuze ukwazi ukuphatha kahle ubuzali, kufanele ubeke phambili lokho okubaluleke ngaphezu kokuncane. Kungale ndlela kuphela lapho ungahlela usuku lwakho usuku nosuku ngokuya ngezidingo zakho nezomndeni wakho. Ukubeka phambili phambili kubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakho engokomzwelo nasenhlalakahleni yomndeni wakho. Kuzoba nezinsuku lapho ungeke ukwazi ukubhekana nakho konke, ungahle ungabi naso isikhathi sokuwasha, ukuhlanza, noma ungahle ukwazi ukuletha iphrojekthi emsebenzini ngoba enye yezingane zakho iye yagula futhi kufanele unakekele yena.
Kepha uyazi ini? Lokho akwenzeki. Umhlaba ngeke ume ukujikeleza ngoba awukwazi ukwenza lezo zinto ezisalindile bese uzihlelela olunye usuku. Impilo imayelana nokuthola izixazululo ezimweni ezingabonakala zimnyama, kepha zingenziwa.
Yakha ukuzethemba kwakho
Ukuze ube ngumzali okahle kufanele uzethembe, ngoba ungaba njalo. Kumele nje ufune ukuba. Ukwenza lokhu, bheka izingane zakho, zibuke esibukweni futhi uzizwe ukwazi ukujabulela nomndeni wakho nsuku zonke. Bangamagugu akho futhi nonke nenza iqembu elihamba phambili. Zakhele lokho kwethemba ngokwakho nangomndeni wakho.
Bhekana nezimo ngejubane lakho, ngaphandle kokukhohlwa ijubane lezingane zakho. Yiba nesikhathi osidingayo ukuze ukwazi ukufeza izinhloso zakho bese uziqhenya ngakho konke okwazi ukukufeza.
Imizwelo ibaluleke kakhulu ukuqhubekela phambili
Kulo mphakathi akuqondakali ukuthi abantu besilisa bangaba kanjani nemizwa, kepha bayayenza futhi kufanele bayiqonde ukuze bafunde kubo futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, bakwazi ukuzizwa. Abesifazane bayakhala, kepha nabesilisa bayakhala futhi futhi, kufanele.
Ukuba ngumzali kudinga isethi yamakhono athuthukisiwe aqondiswa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, futhi imizwa onayo ngabo ibaluleke kakhulu. Mhlawumbe uzizwa izinsuku zikhungathekile, abanye bathukuthele kanti abanye bayaziqhenya ngawe nangabantwana bakho ... Kuyadingeka ukuqonda yonke imizwa ukuze ungathatheki yiyo (ikakhulukazi uma uthukuthele noma ucasukile). Lapho nje uyiqonda yonke imizwa yakho uzokwazi ukuthola amasu namakhono amahle kakhulu wokuthuthukisa isimo esiphambi kwakho, noma ngabe siyini.
Udinga ukubeka phambili impilo yakho engokomzwelo neyabantwana bakho ukuze wenze ngcono impilo yakho yonke yomndeni. Imizwelo nemizwa ingokoqobo, ungakwenqabi ngoba kuzokusiza uqonde kangcono indlela okufanele uyilandele.