Izingane zomuntu akufanele zihlukaniswe nonina, noma ngehora lokuqala, noma ezinyangeni eziyi-9 ngemuva kokubeletha; namuhla izinzuzo eziningi eza komama nezinsana ziyaziwa ukuhlala uxhumene unomphela. Lesi sigaba sithatha isinqumo sokukhula kwengqondo yakho, futhi kuhlobene kakhulu nokukhula kwengane emzimbeni, ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo.
Ngikhuluma ngani esikwaziyo njengokuqothulwa, futhi yize emasikweni amaningiIzingane zithwalwa ngokwemvelo, umphakathi waseNtshonalanga ubusungula “amagajethi” amashumi eminyaka avumela ingane ukuthi 'iphumule', kube sengathi ingumthwalo. Akufanele sidinge izinqola ezihamba ngezinyawo, ama-cribs, ama-hammock, ama-bassinets, ... kepha siyazisebenzisa; kufanele sinikeze ukuthintana okungapheli ngokomzimba, kepha esikhundleni salokho sivuka emasontweni ayi-16 ngemuva kokubeletha, yize sinethemba lokuthi singaselula isikhathi ngekhefu leholide nelokuncelisa.
Ukukhishwa komzimba kusho ukuthi ngemuva kokuzalwa, ingane izodinga cishe izinyanga eziyi-9 ukuthi ithwelwe ezingalweni zikanina. Futhi ungakhathazeki bazali, ngoba yize indawo ekahle yokuhlala kungumzimba kamama (ngaleyo nkathi), kunamathuba amaningi okuhlangana nesidalwa esincane, futhi ngasikhathi sinye unikeze konke ukwesekwa okudingekayo komama. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isibalo sikababa sizoba yisethenjwa esihle eminyakeni edlule.
Kungani izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye?
Izingane ezingabantu azikwazi ukuzondla ngemuva kokuzalwa, noma ezinyangeni ezi-2, 4, 6 ... zidinga ukuvikelwa, ukondliwa, ukuthwalwa
Imvelo ikubone ngale ndlela, yingakho cishe izinyanga eziyi-9, izingane eziningi zifuna ukukhasa, ezinye zingathanda nokuhamba zingawi, yize kusesekuseni lokho. Ukuthuthuka komuntu ngonyaka wokuqala wokuphila kuyathakazelisa, futhi kukhulu kakhulu; kepha ukuxilonga ngaphandle kuvumela ukuqeda ngemuva kokubeletha; Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuzalwa akuyona nje into yokuhamba phakathi kwalezi "zinyanga eziyi-9 ku / izinyanga ezingu-9 ziphumile". Mhlawumbe uzohlangabezana nezwi elingaphezu kwelilodwa elinobungozi elikutshela ukuthi "uma umbamba ezandleni zakho uzojwayela, ungamthathi / umyeke akhale, uzobona ukuthi umhlane wakho ubuhlungu kanjani." 'Imibono' enjalo yembula ukungazi okukhulu ngezidingo zezingane; kepha noma kunjalo angikwazi ukuqonda kahle ukuthi yini inkinga ukuthi isidalwa esingenakuzivikela esinjalo sijwayela okuhle kakhulu, futhi maqondana nezinye izitatimende ... kungcono ngithule.
Uzokwazi kanjani, futhi uma ungazi, ngizokutshela, Kungamanga ukuthi kuyodingeka uhlale uyiphatha ezandleni zakho, nokuthi kuzoncika kuwe ngaphandle kokuvuthwa nokukwazi ukuzimela. Nginendodana kanye nendodakazi esakhula 'emasangweni' waleso sigaba, futhi ngiyakuqinisekisa ukuthi ukuphatha izingalo zami akuzenzi izingane zithembele lapho sezikhulile; Kepha ungangikholwa nje, landela imizwa yakho, khuluma nabanye omama, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke funa imininingwane ezokuphelezela ngale ndlela yokuhamba nengane yakho ngenkathi ikhula izinyanga zokuqala zokutholakala kwayo. Kuyafaneleka, ngiyakuqinisekisa.
Ngiyaqhubeka nenhloso yami: ilukuluku engilizwa ngalezi zihloko lingisizile ukuthi ngithole lokho isikhathi sokukhulelwa sifinyeziwe kubantu, kuze kufike ezingeni lokuthi lapho sifika emhlabeni sinokukhula kwengqondo okungamaphesenti angama-25 kuphela. Ezinye izazi emkhakheni zibheka ukuthi ukukhulelwa kufanele kuhlale isikhathi eside, kepha ukuziphendukela kwemvelo kudale ukuthi sibe nekhanda elikhudlwana, ngakho-ke uma ukukhulelwa bekukude, bekungeke kudlule emseleni wesitho sangasese sowesifazane. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, selokhu sasukuma izithombisi, ithambo labesifazane nalo selinciphile. Konke lokhu kuthethelela isikhathi sokukhulelwa (amasonto angama-37 kuye kwangama-42), kanye nesidingo sokuhlonipha isikhathi sokuxoshwa.
Isikhathi sezingalo, nezinzuzo eziningi
Uyazi? Lapho ubamba ingane yakho ezandleni zakho, ukhipha i-oxytocin, futhi leyo yi-hormone yothando, nayo exhumene nokuncelisa ibele; Ngaphezu kwalokho, phakathi neminyaka yokuqala yempilo, ukukhula okuningi kobuchopho kwenzeka,okungcono kunokuhlinzeka ngendawo engenakho ukucindezeleka (ngokuhlukaniswa nenani lokunamathiselwe) enikeza izingane lokho ezikudingayo! Ngokuzigqoka, senza kube lula ukuzivumelanisa nezwe langaphandle, futhi lokhu kuvumela ukulawulwa kwezinhlelo ezingavuthiwe zosana olusanda kuzalwa.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, kulula ngabo ukulawula isigqi sokulala nokusebenza kwenhliziyo. Ngokombono wokukhula kobuchopho, ukubaluleka ukuthi ukuqashelwa kugxile emzimbeni womama, hhayi ezintweni zangaphandle ezingahlangabezani nezidingo.
Kumama kuyanelisa kakhulu futhi kuyathandeka, noma ngabe kuhlanganiswa ukuthwala nomsebenzi womsebenzi
Iseluleko esisodwa, uma ufuna ukubamba umntwana wakho osanda kuzalwa ngangokunokwenzeka kodwa wesaba ukuthi izingalo noma umqolo wakho kuzogcina kulimaza, funa uhlelo lokufaka izinto ezikufanelayo. Kunezinhlobo eziningana, futhi ngokuqinisekile uthola eyodwa evumelana nezidingo zakho, futhi engashintsha nawe. Ngisebenzise isikhwama samahlombe, ubhaka we-ergo nesikhafu; Kepha okuhlangenwe nakho kwami akufani nokwakho, futhi namuhla kunezikhungo eziningi ezikhethekile (kokubili mathupha kanye naku-inthanethi) ezizokweluleka futhi zikunikeze umkhiqizo ofanele kakhulu.
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