Kusukela besebancane, abafana namantombazane balingisa indlela yokuziphatha, izindima kanye nemibono yobulili abayibona eduze kwabo. Izinkulumo ezinjengokuthi “abafana abakhali” noma “amantombazane kumelwe abe buthakathaka” ayaqhubeka nokuba ingxenye yomphakathi wethu, ekhuthaza ukungezwani okungaholela ekungalinganini nasezimo zengqondo zokucwasa ngokobulili esikhathini esizayo.
Kubalulekile ukufundisa ekhaya nasesikoleni ngamanani we ukulingana, inhlonipho y ukulingana, ukugwema ukuqinisa imibono eyingozi. Kulesi sihloko sikunikeza amasu asebenzayo we Ukuvimbela machismo ezinganeni kanye nokukhuthaza imfundo esekelwe ekulinganeni kobulili.
Kungani kubalulekile ukuqeda i-machismo kusukela ebuntwaneni?
I-Machismo iyinkinga yomphakathi edluliselwa ezizukulwaneni ngezizukulwane. Izingane ezikhulela ezindaweni lapho lezi zindinganiso ziqhutshwa khona zingase ziphindaphindeke ekuphileni kwazo kwabantu abadala, ziqinise ukungalingani kobulili futhi zikhuthaze ukucwasa.
Ngokusho kweWorld Health Organisation (WHO), izingane ezike zachayeka udlame lwasekhaya kanye namazinga we ubulili obuqinile maningi amathuba okuthi babe nokuziphatha okunodlame noma bathethelele udlame ebudlelwaneni babo besikhathi esizayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, amantombazane ahlala ezindaweni zobulili angakwazi ukujwayela ukungalingani nokuzithoba.
Ukuqeda i-machismo kusukela ebuntwaneni kubalulekile ekwakheni umphakathi obandakanya wonke umuntu. kulungile y ngokulinganayo. Ukufundisa ngokulingana nokuhloniphana akugcini nje ukufaka isandla ekuqedweni kodlame lobulili, kodwa futhi kuvumela abafana namantombazane ukuba bathuthukise amandla abo aphelele ngaphandle kwemikhawulo ebekwe yimibono engajwayelekile.
Izihluthulelo zokufundisa ngokulingana nokugwema ukucwasa ngokobulili ezinganeni
1. Buza ngemibono yobulili
Esinye sezinyathelo zokuqala zokugwema ukucwasa ngokobulili ezinganeni ukungabaza izindima ezimisiwe kanye nezinkolelo-ze. Ukubafundisa ukuthi ayikho imisebenzi, imibala noma ubungcweti obukhethekile kubulili obubodwa kubalulekile.
- Bavumele ukuthi badlale nganoma yiluphi uhlobo lwethoyizi kungakhathaliseki ubulili.
- Khuthaza ukukhetha izingubo zokugqoka ngaphandle kokubeka imithetho ngokusekelwe ebulilini.
- Gwema izinkulumo ezinjengokuthi “lokho akukona okwamantombazane” noma “abafana abakwenzi lokho.”
2. Khuthaza ukuveza imizwelo ezinganeni
I-Machismo iphinde ithinte indlela izingane ezifunda ngayo ukuveza imizwelo yazo. Ngenkathi amantombazane evunyelwe khala y khuluma ngemizwa yakho, izingane zivame ukukhuthazwa ukuba ziqine futhi zifihle ubuthakathaka bazo.
- Khuthaza izingane ukuba ziveze imizwa yazo ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwahlulelwa.
- Ikhuthaza inkhulumomphendvulwano evulekile mayelana nemizwa nobudlelwano phakathi kwabantu.
- Yenqaba izinkulumo ezinjengokuthi “amadoda awakhali” noma “ungabi buthakathaka.”
3. Khuthaza ukwabiwa ngokulinganayo kwemisebenzi ekhaya
Kusukela besebancane kubalulekile ukuthi abafana namantombazane babambe iqhaza kuzo imisebenzi yasekhaya, ngaphandle kokwabela imisebenzi ngokusekelwe kubulili.
- Bafundise ukuthi ukupheka, ukuhlanza nokunakekela ikhaya kuyinto umthwalo wawo wonke umuntu.
- Qiniseka ukuthi abafana namantombazane babamba iqhaza emisebenzini yasekhaya efanayo.
- Gwema ukuqinisa umqondo wokuthi imisebenzi ethile ihambisana nobulili obubodwa kuphela.
4. Beka isibonelo ngezimo zengqondo zokulingana
Izingane zifunda ngokulingisa, ngakho kubalulekile ukuthi abantu abadala badlale nabo ukuvumelana futhi uqinise amanani okulingana ekhaya.
- Sabalalisa izibopho ngaphakathi kwekhaya ngokulinganayo.
- Bonisa inhlonipho nokusekela phakathi kwamalungu omkhaya.
- Gwema ukuphawula noma izimo zengqondo ucansi empilweni yansuku zonke.
5. Khetha ezokuzijabulisa eziqinisa ukulingana
Amamuvi, izindaba kanye nezinhlelo zethelevishini kuvame ukuqinisa izinkolelo-ze zobulili. Kubalulekile ukunikeza ezinye izindlela ezikhuthaza ukuhlukahluka nokulingana.
- Khetha izindaba namafilimu anabalingiswa abahlukahlukene besifazane nabesilisa.
- Khuthaza ukufunda izindaba lapho kuneqhaza lobulili ngokulinganayo.
- Khuluma nezingane mayelana imiyalezo abayidlulisayo abezindaba.
6. Thuthukisa ubudlelwano obusekelwe enhlonipho
Kusukela ebuntwaneni, kubalulekile ukuthi abafana namantombazane bafunde ukuthi bonke abantu bafanelwe inhlonipho, kungakhathaliseki ubulili.
- Faka inhlonipho kwabanye kukho konke ukusebenzelana kwansuku zonke.
- Gcizelela umqondo wokuthi akekho onelungelo ukuphoqelela intando yomuntu phezu kwabanye.
- Thuthukisa ukuzwelana nokuxhumana ngokuqiniseka ekhaya nasesikoleni.
Ukufundisa ngokulingana ngobulili akugcini nje ukufaka isandla ekuqedeni i-machismo, kodwa futhi kuvumela abafana namantombazane ukuthi bathuthuke endaweni enempilo, engenalo ubandlululo futhi amathuba amakhulu. Ukusebenzisa la macebiso nsuku zonke kuzokwenza umehluko ekukhuliseni izizukulwane ezizayo ngokusekelwe enhlonipho, ukulingana kanye nobulungiswa.
