Amathuba alinganayo phakathi kobulili kungenye yezimangalo ezikhona kuzo zonke izimemezelo ze Usuku Lomhlaba Wonke Wabafazi.
Umphakathi wanamuhla usagcwele abaningi izinto eziphazamisa ukukhula ngokuphelele kwabantu besifazane: ukungalingani kwamaholo, udlame lobulili, ukungabibikho kokubambisana emsebenzini wasendlini, njll.
Ukuqinisekisa amathuba alinganayo kwabesifazane kusho ukuqhubekela phambili ku umphakathi wentando yeningi kanye nokukhuthaza a imodeli yezenhlalo esekwe kubantu hhayi kubulili babo.
Imfundo yokulingana iqala ekhaya
Kwesinye isikhathi, njengabazali, asazi ukuthi izindima esizabela izingane zethu kanye nezindinganiso esizinika zona abafundisi ngokulingana. Lokhu kunjalo ngoba kuyilokho senze ngaphakathi kusukela ebuntwaneni bethu. Ukusampula inkinobho:
- Intombazane enhle kangaka, uyinkosazana!
- Ndodakazi, ungadlali ngokweqile.
- Qaphela, uzongcola.
- Abafana Abakhali.
- Yiba yindoda.
- Ubuhlengikazi? Uma kuwumsebenzi wamantombazane.
- Ugijima okwentombazane.
Umfana noma intombazane. Ukwelashwa okuhlukile nokulindelwe
Lokhu kwelashwa okwehlukile kuqala ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, lapho nje sibazi ubulili bengane yethu yesikhathi esizayo. Saqala ukucabanga ngekamelo lakhe nezingubo zakhe, imibala epinki noma eye-pastel yamantombazane. Amathoni aluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka noma akhanyayo ezingane.
Yini esiyilindele (ngisho ngokungazi) entombazaneni?
Sifisela amantombazane amnandi, amahle futhi azolile, njengamakhosazana ezinganekwane. Ukuthi bayakujabulela ukudlala indlu namakhishi nonodoli babo. Thanda ukugqoka imigexo namasongo. Nakekela ukubukeka kwakho futhi ube ngothando. Futhi yenza i-ballet, skating noma i-gymnastics yobuciko. Emantombazaneni, kungenzeka ukuthi kungenzeka uzwela, uthando nokulalela.
Yini esiyilindele enganeni?
Kwangathi ngingasebenza, ngiqine futhi ngibe nesibindi, njengabaphangi. Ngamakhono okudlala ibhola (Yimuphi ubaba ongakaze acabange ngokuba nenkanyezi yebhola ekhaya?). Ukudumisa ezemidlalo, izimoto, izithuthuthu, nama-movie wesenzo. Kubantu sibanika amandla, noma ngokungaqondile, ukuncintisana, ukuzimela kanye nolaka.
Ngokusho kochwepheshe alukho uhlobo lwempikiswano yezinto eziphilayo oluchaza lezi zinhlobo zokwehluka.
Singazifundisa kanjani izingane zethu ngokulingana?
Abafana namantombazane zithole ubunikazi bazo ngokuxhumana nendawo ezikuyo.
Izingane zethu kufanele zizizwe bakhululekile ukuveza nokukhetha abakuthandayo nabakuthandayo. Ubulili akufanele bube yisimiso kunoma yikuphi. Ngayinye yezingane zethu, kungaba umfana noma intombazane, ingumuntu omncane ohlukile. Akubona bonke abafana abafanayo, futhi nawo wonke amantombazane awafani. Kucacile! Akuwona wonke amantombazane afuna ukuba amakhosazana, futhi hhayi bonke abafana abafuna ukuba yizigebengu.
Yini esingayenza ekhaya ukukhuthaza imfundo ngokulingana?
- Kubaluleke kakhulu hola ngesibonelo.
- Balekela ulimi kanye ne ukuziphatha ngokobulili osukwini lwethu nosuku.
- Nakekela uhlobo lwamathoyizi nezindaba esinikela ngazo. Khuthaza uhlobo lwamathoyizi athuthukisa ukucabanga, ubuhlakani, imfundo engokomzwelo nokucabanga okunengqondo.
- Thenga izingubo zokunethezeka nezingashintshi.
- Yenza a ukusatshalaliswa ngokulingana yemisebenzi yasendlini nezibopho.
- Phatha izingane zethu ku kuya ngeminyaka yakho kanye ne-idiosyncrasy, hhayi ngokususelwa ebulilini bakho.
Uma unentshisekelo yokungena kulesi sihloko, ngincoma incwadi Akuwona amakhosazana noma abaphangi. Bhukhela ukufundisa abafana namantombazane enkululekweni »(Eumo Editorial, 2016). Umbhali wayo, UNuria Solsona, unguprofesa we-physics futhi ungumcwaningi ku-coeducation. Kule ncwadi, wethula imihlahlandlela namasu athakazelisayo emfundo ngokulingana, ngezikhathi ezahlukahlukene ekukhuleni kwezingane, ukugwema izinkolelo-ze zobulili.