Igama elithi 'abazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane' laqala ukusetshenziswa nguDkt Haim Ginott encwadini ngo-1969 lapho intsha imtshela ukuthi abazali bayo babephezu kwabo njengendiza enophephela emhlane. Leli gama laqala ukuthandwa eminyakeni edlule njengoba kunemigomo efanayo efana 'ne-hyperparents', 'ukuvikela ngokweqile kukababa nomama', njll.
Ukukhulisa izingane ngendiza enophephela emhlane kubhekisa kwisitayela sabazali lapho abazali begxila kuphela ezinganeni zabo. Abazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane bavame ukuthatha umthwalo omningi kakhulu wokuhlangenwe nakho kwezingane zabo, impumelelo yabo kanye nokwehluleka kwabo. Abazali abalandela lesi sitayela sokuba ngabazali bayabandakanyeka ezimpilweni zezingane ngendlela ezilawula ngokweqile, Bayazivikela ngokweqile futhi bafuna ukuba ngaphezu kwabazali abanesibopho.
Ngubani umzali we-helicopter?
Yize leli gama lisetshenziswa kaningi kobaba nomama babafana namantombazane asakhula, amacala angabonakala nakobaba nakomama babantu abadala. Isibonelo, umfundi wasenyuvesi ongabiza uprofesa ukuthi akhulume ngamamaki amabi futhi ngubaba noma umama ofonayo noma umuntu osemusha okufanele enze inhlolokhono yomsebenzi bese ubaba noma umama eyohlola ukuthi ngabe kubalulekile yini noma cha . Iqiniso ukuthi ukuba ngumzali ngezindiza ezinophephela emhlane akuyona nje eyentsha kuphela, kungasetshenziswa kunoma yisiphi isikhathi.
Ezinganeni ezincane, umzali onophephela emhlane angaba yisithunzi esihlala njalo sengane, ngaso sonke isikhathi eqondisa isimilo sakhe nokubeka imingcele evimbela zonke izinhlobo zenkululeko.
Kungani Ukuzalanisa Izindiza Ezindizayo Kwenzeka
Ukukhulisa izingane ngezindiza ezinophephela emhlane kungathuthukisa izizathu eziningi, kepha kunezinto ezine ezivusa inkanuko okumele zicatshangelwe ukuze kuhlolwe ukuthi ngabe yinto ozoyenza ngempela yini noma cha.
Ukwesaba imiphumela emibi
Abazali bangasaba ukuthi ukukhulisa kwabo izingane kuzoba kubi nokuthi lokhu kuzogcina kube nemiphumela emibi enganeni nakubazali. Imiphumela eminingi abazali abafuna ukuyigwema imvamisa: umzabalazo, ukungajabuli, ukusebenza kanzima ... Bacabanga ukuthi izingane zabo akudingeki zidlule kokubi uma zingakugwema, Kepha abakhohlwayo ukuthi ngale ndlela abaziphethe ngayo abavumeli izingane zabo ukuthi zikhule futhi zifunde emaphutheni abo.
Umsebenzi onzima, umzabalazo, ukungajabuli kwesikhashana… bangothisha abakhulu bezingane, intsha kanye nabantu abadala… abazona izinsongo zokuphila, kepha basenza sazise izinto futhi sizilwele. Uma ungazivumeli izingane zakho ukuba zifunde emaphutheni abo futhi ziphume lapho zikhululekile, zizokwakha abafana namantombazane abangazethembi nabancike kubo.
Imizwa yokukhathazeka
Ukukhathazeka ngemali, umsebenzi, kanye nomhlaba jikelele kungakwenza bafuna ukuvikela ngokweqile izingane zabo nokuthi abahlupheki nganoma yini engabadalela ukungaphatheki kahle. Lokhu kungabenza bafune ukulawula kakhulu izimpilo zezingane zabo. Bacabanga ukuthi ngale ndlela izingane zabo ngeke zikhathazeke noma zidumazeke emhlabeni.
Ukunxephezelwa ngokweqile
Abantu abadala abazizwa bethandwa, ababenganakwa ebuntwaneni babo, futhi baze bazizwe benganakwa ngabazali babo, bangazama ukubuyisela leyo mizwa emibi ngezingane zabo. Ukunakwa ngokweqile nokuqapha kuyimizamo yokulungisa ukuntula ababezizwa ebuntwaneni babo ngabazali babo.
Ukucindezela kontanga okuvela kwabanye abazali
Lapho abazali bebona abanye abazali behileleke ngokweqile, kungadala impendulo efanayo. Kwesinye isikhathi lapho sibheka abanye abazali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane sicabanga ukuthi ukwenza into efanayo kuyinto efanele ukwenziwa nokuthi ukungakwenzi abazali ababi. Ukuba necala kungakwenza ucabange ukuthi awenzi kahle uma ungazivikeli ngokweqile izingane zakho.
Iyini imiphumela yokuzalanisa i-helicopter?
Abazali abaningi bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane baqala ngezinhloso ezinhle. Kungumugqa onzima ukuwuthola, ufuna ukuzivumelanisa nempilo yezingane zakho kepha ubambeke kakhulu uze ulahlekelwe umbono wokuthi izingane zakho zidingani ngempela. Ukuba ngumzali okubandakanyekile kunezinzuzo eziningi ezinganeni, futhi bazothola uthando oluningi, bazizwe bemukelekile, futhi bakhe ukuzethemba. Bazokwazi ukuthi abazali babo ngabeluleki babo futhi bazoba namathuba amaningi okukhula.
Inkinga iba lapho abazali beqondiswa ngokwesaba futhi nezinqumo abazenzayo zincike kokungenzeka kubo futhi izingane ziqala ukuzwa ukwesaba ukwenza izinqumo zabo uma abazali babo bengekho eceleni kwabo ukubaqondisa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Abanayo noma abazizwa benenkululeko, bacabanga ukuthi izinqumo zabo azibalulekile futhi ngeke zibaluleke, akudingeki bacabange noma bakhathazeke ... abanye bazobenzela.
Ukwehluleka nezinselelo kufundisa izingane amakhono amasha nokuthi bangazisingatha kanjani izinkinga nezingxabano. Uma izingane zithola ubuzali bezindiza ezinophephela emhlane ngabazali bazo, ukuzethemba kwabo nokuzethemba kwabo kuzoncipha kakhulu. Inkinga enkulu yalokhu kukhuliswa ukuthi akunamiphumela ngoba umyalezo othunyelwa ezinganeni wukuthi azikwazi ukuzenzela lutho futhi okubi kakhulu, zicabanga ukuthi abazali bazo ababathembi ukuthi bazenzele izinto i-akhawunti yakho.
Lokhu kuzokhulisa nokukhathazeka ezinganeni futhi kufinyelele ngisho nasezingeni lokucindezeleka kwengane. Izingane ngeke zithuthukise amakhono empilo kanti abazali yibo njalo abazoxazulula amavoti ... into ezozenza bazizwe bengelutho futhi bengenawo amakhono empilo.
Gwema ukuba ngumzali we-helicopter
Ungalukhombisa kanjani uthando lwakho ezinganeni zakho ngaphandle kokuvimbela ikhono lazo lokufunda amakhono abalulekile empilo? Njengobaba noma umama, uzoba nomsebenzi onzima ngoba kuzofanele ubheke izingane zakho, wazi ukuthi ziyini izingcindezi, imizwa enamandla ... futhi uzifundise. Ukukufeza kusho ukuthi uyahlupheka nokuthi nabo bayakwenza.
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