Yize singakukholwa njengoba sisekhulwini lama-XXI kusekhona izinto emphakathini wethu ezingasimangaza ngenxa yezinga labo eliphakeme lokungazi noma ngenxa nje yokuthi zibuyisela izinto emuva futhi lokho futhi kufanele kungasasebenzi. Kepha yebo, emphakathini wethu kusenemicabango kanye nemicabango emincane enenhlonipho kwabanye. Lokhu kusho ukuthi emfundweni yezingane kusenezindawo ezikhathaza kakhulu.
Lapho abafana namantombazane bengena emhlabeni kubukeka sengathi ubulili babo kufanele buvule indlela ezimpilweni zabo futhi nabantu abadala baphethe ukubafundisa okulungile nokungalungile 'ngokobulili imvelo ebanikeze bona. Okwenzekayo ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi siyakhohlwa ukubaluleka kokuhlonipha izifiso zengane nokufuna ukwazi.
Kubonakala nsuku zonke. Akusekho kangako ezikoleni, kepha kwamanye amakhaya (kepha hhayi wonke). Ngisho izinhlu zamathoyizi ziqala ukushintsha ukuze abazali babone ubunjalo bezingane. AKUFANELE uphoqe abafana ukuthi badlale into eyodwa namantombazane enye, Akudingeki ukuthi uzigqoke ngombala owodwa noma omunye ngoba zingezobulili obuthile. Kufanele uhloniphe ukuthanda kwabo nobuntu babo, uma ingane yakho ifuna unodoli ozodlala nayo, kungani kufanele uyiphike? Uma indodakazi yakho ifuna ukudlala ngemoto yamaphoyisa, kungani ungavumi? Ayinangqondo.
Izingane ziyindwangu engenalutho futhi zakha ubuntu bazo ngokuya ngalokho abanakho okuzungezile nasendleleni abantu abadala abayimakayo, kepha abantu abadala uma bengakuhloniphi lokho izingane ezizizwa ngakho ... Lapho-ke bazobe benqabela ukuba babe yibo uqobo.
Ukubaluleka kwenhlonipho
Abafana namantombazane kufanele bakhule bezungezwe inhlonipho yokuthi bangobani. Ukuzethemba nokuzethemba kungakhula kuye ngokuthi baphathwa kanjani nokuthi umuntu omdala uzihlonipha kanjani izinqumo nemibono yezingane zabo. Abafana namantombazane kufanele bathole ithuba lokuzithathela izinqumo, noma ngabe zincane futhi ziyifanele iminyaka yabo.
Musa ukunquma zonke izingane zakho, makube yibo abangakwazi ukulawula izimpilo zabo, noma ngabe ngezindlela ezincane. Ngokwesibonelo:
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- Vumela ukuthi babe nokulawula okuthile ezimpilweni zabo: uma bengenzi umsebenzi wabo wesikole, kuzofanele bavuke ekuseni kakhulu ukuze bawenze. Kepha banquma ukukwenza manje noma ekuseni ...
- Bavumele banqume ukuthi bafuna ukudlala ini noma ukuthi yimaphi amathoyizi abafuna ukuwathola ngosuku lwabo lokuzalwa
- Hlonipha izinqumo zabo
- Hlonipha indlela yabo yokuphila
- Yamukela ingane yakho njengoba injalo
- Msekele ngaphandle kwemibandela futhi umqondise ngokufanelekile ngokuhlonipha izintshisekelo zakhe
Kwenzeka kanjani ukuba intombazane ingakwazi ukudlala i-hockey nomfana angadanisi?
Lo mbuzo ophinde ube yinhloko yale ndatshana uhlobene kakhulu nenhlonipho esikhulume ngayo ephuzwini eledlule. Kwenzeka kanjani ukuba intombazane ingakwazi ukudlala i-hockey nomfana angakwazi ukudansa? Ngubani okushoyo? Ngubani obeka le mihlahlandlela 'elungile' noma 'engalungile'? Into engalungile ukungavumeli umfana noma intombazane ukuba yenze lo mdlalo abawuthandayo noma ukuzama lowo ongabenza bazizwe kahle ngoba 'kumakiwe' kubafana noma amantombazane. Cha, akulungile.
Ezemidlalo ezemidlalo futhi zilungele wonke umuntu. Akunandaba ukuthi indodakazi yakho ifuna ukudlala i-hockey noma ukuthi indodana yakho ifuna ukudansa. Uma yilokho okuthandayo yilokho abazali okufanele bakusekele. Uma uthembele ekuzimeni komphakathi, uzobe ufundisa ingane yakho ukuthi ibe 'enye nje imvu', uzobe uyifundisa ukuthi ayikwazi ukuba yiyo ngoba lokho kubukelwa phansi, uzobe uyitshela ukuthi uyikhathalela kakhulu lokho abanye abakucabangayo kunemizwa yakhe nezintshisekelo zakho. Le ndlela akuyona elungile, kithina.
Izinhlelo zokuqhekeza
Isikhathi sokubhidliza amaqhinga, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi ubuntu buqale ukubona ukuthi umphakathi uyaguquka nokuthi ngaphezu kwakho konke singabantu. Abantu okumele bazihloniphe futhi bahloniphe nabanye. Vimbela inzondo nentukuthelo ezinhliziyweni zethu futhi siphile ngokukhululeka, ngokuhambisana nokubonga nethuba lokuba yithina.
Kepha ngalokho kufanele wephule izikimu ngoba izingane ziyizinsana. Kumele siguqule imfundo kanye nengqondo engasasebenzi. Imfundo kumele igxile enhlonipheni, ekufundiseni ngokomzwelo nangokuziphatha kahle. Izinsika ezintathu eziyisisekelo zokufunda izingane ukuba yizo ngenkathi zithandwa futhi zihlonishwa ngabathandekayo bazo.
Ngoba uma ingane izizwa ithandwa, ithandwa futhi ihlonishwa yimvelo yayo esondelene kakhulu, ngeke ikhathalele ukuthi umhlaba wonke ucabangani, iyobe isidale ukuzethemba okuqinile kanye nobunikazi obungenakubhubha. Kepha ukufeza lokhu, kudingeka izinguquko ezincane zansuku zonke futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuqonda ukuthi izingane zinezinqumo zazo nokuthi zingahle zibe yizo ezilungile uma abazali bebaqondisa ngenhlonipho hhayi ngokubekwa.
Abafana ngabafana namantombazane amantombazane
Abafana ngabafana namantombazane amantombazane… Bangabantu abamsulwa, abakhululekile abafuna ukuhlola umhlaba wabo bese bethola ukuthi yini abakwaziyo ukulandela izintshisekelo zabo nezinto abazithandayo. Kepha ukuze babe nezintshisekelo kubalulekile ukuthi baqale ukuhlola umhlaba esinawo amathuba namathuba amaningi. Ungabekeli ubuciko babo, inkululeko yabo, noma isifiso sabo sokuba yibo. Jabulela ukuthi banjani nakho konke abakulethela kona empilweni. Izingane zakho zehlukile futhi ukuze zijabule kumele zizizwe zinhle ngabo, uyakuvumela lokho?