Ukuziphatha kwabazali okwenza imfundo ibe nzima

Bonke abazali bafuna izingane zethu zifundiswe kahle futhi zikhule zikhule kahle ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Kungakho sikhathalela ukuthi baye esikoleni esihle, leyo misebenzi yangemva kwesikole lokho abakwenzayo kusezingeni eliphezulu futhi, sifuna ukuba bazizwe ukuthi bayakwazi ukufeza noma yini abazimisele ukuyenza empilweni. Kepha kwesinye isikhathi siyakhohlwa okuthile okubaluleke kakhulu ... Ukuziphatha kwabazali kungenza imfundo nawo wonke umzamo ube nzima.

Noma ufuna ngamandla akho onke ukuthi izingane zakho zifunde kahle, kungenzeka ukuthi ngaphandle kokukuqaphela unezindlela ezithile zokuziphatha empilweni yakho yansuku zonke ezivimbela imfundo enhle yezingane zakho. Yingakho namhlanje ngifuna ukukhuluma nawe ngezinye zalezi zimilo abazali abangaba nazo futhi ezenza imfundo ibe nzima.

Zivikele ngokweqile

Siphila ezweni lapho ingozi izohlala ikhona ekhoneni futhi abazali bazi ukuthi ukuphepha kuza kuqala. Abazali abaningi bahlala ngokwesaba njalo uma kukhona okwenzekayo ezinganeni zabo futhi benza konke okusemandleni ukuzivikela. Kepha ngaphandle kokuqaphela sihlukanise izindlela zokuziphatha ezinobungozi futhi lokhu kube nomthelela omubi ekuguqukeni kwezingane zethu.

Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zithole ukuthi uma ingane ingadlali ngaphandle noma ingavunyelwe ukuba iwele futhi iklwebhe idolo, izokhula ikhule ibe nama-phobias njengomuntu omdala. Izingane zidinga ukuwa ukuze zifunde ukuthi kuyinto ejwayelekile, intsha kungenzeka ukuthi isothandweni futhi izodinga ukukhula ngokomzwelo ukuze ibe nobudlelwano obuhlala isikhathi eside. Uma abazali beqeda ngokuphelele ubungozi ezimpilweni zezingane zabo futhi bezivikela ngokweqile, kungenzeka babe nokuzethemba okuphansi futhi azikhuli kahle ezingeni lomzwelo, ezikudalela izinkinga zomzwelo ngokuzayo.

Ungazivumeli zixazulule izinkinga zakho

Isizukulwane samanje sentsha asikaze sithuthukise amakhono afanayo nentsha yeminyaka engama-30 eyedlule. Lokhu kwenzeka ngoba kunabazali abaningi abanakekela ukuxazulula izinkinga zezingane zabo futhi bazenqabela cishe benganakile ... ithuba lokukhula futhi bazizwe benelisekile ngokuthi bakwazi ukuzixazululela okuthile.  Abazali kufanele babe ngabaqondisi, hhayi abasindisi abaqhubekayo. 

Lapho izingane nentsha zisindiswa futhi zingavunyelwe ukufunda ekuxazululeni izinkinga zazo, ususa isidingo sokuhamba phakathi kobunzima nokuxazulula izinkinga ngokwazo. Noma ucabanga ukuthi kuhle, kusebenza kuphela esikhathini esifushane ngoba esikhathini esizayo uzobe wenza okubi kakhulu kunokuhle. Ngokushesha noma kamuva, izingane zizokujwayela abanye ukuxazulula izinkinga zabo futhi bazocabanga ukuthi akudingeki benze umzamo ngoba abanye bazozixazululela zona. Bazoqala babe nokuziphatha okubi ngoba 'abanye' bazoba nesandla kulokho. Lapho empeleni, lokhu akuyona indlela umhlaba osebenza ngayo futhi wenza ingane yakho ingakwazi ukukhula njengomuntu omdala onekhono.

Ukweqisa ngokweqile

Kunabazali abadumisa izingane zabo izikhathi eziningi kakhulu ngomzamo wokukhulisa ukuzethemba kwabo noma ukungazizwa kabi ngesikhathi esithile. Kepha iqiniso ukuthi lapho izingane zinconywa kakhulu zenza izingane zizizwe zikhethekile kepha kunemiphumela engakulungele ukukhula kwezingane esikhathini esizayo.

Izingane zizobona njengoba isikhathi sihamba ukuthi abazali bazo yibona kuphela abacabanga ukuthi bayesabeka kanti akekho omunye umuntu ocabanga kanjalo. Bazoqala ukungabaza ukubhekelela kwabazali babo futhi yize bezizwa kamnandi okwamanje, ngeke baxhumane neqiniso. Ngeke bazi ukuthi kufanele yini bazame kanzima ukwenza ngcono noma cha… Uma kunconywa kalula, ukungabi nandaba nokuziphatha okubi nakho kunemiphumela emibi. Izingane ngokuhamba kwesikhathi zifunda ukukopela, ukwenza ihaba nokuqamba amanga ukugwema iqiniso elinzima ngoba azifundisiwe ukubhekana nazo.

Unganikeli okuphikisayo ukugwema umuzwa wecala

Izingane zakho ngeke zikuthande ngawo wonke umzuzu wokuphila kwazo. Izingane kufanele zifunde ukuphatha ukudumazeka noma ukukhungatheka ngoba akudingeki ngaso sonke isikhathi zithole konke ezikufunayo. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuthi 'cha' noma 'hhayi manje' emfundweni yezingane, futhi kaningi. Izingane kufanele ziqonde futhi zihlukanise okuyisifiso kunalokho okuyisidingo.

Abazali abaningi banomkhuba wokunikeza izingane zabo konke abakufunayo noma ukubaklomelisa ngokungaphezulu kwesidingo sokubabona bejabule. Lapho ingane yenza okuthile kahle, sikholwa ukuthi kufanelekile ukuyincoma futhi siyiklomelise njalo. Lokhu akunangqondo futhi kubangela ukuthi ingane iphuthelwe ithuba lokuqonda ukuthi impumelelo incike ezenzweni zethu, okumele ngabe zilungile. Kungakhathalekile ukuthi kunemivuzo ephathekayo noma ukuncoma, ngoba ukwaneliseka komuntu okubaluleke kakhulu. Uma imfundo enezingane zakho isuselwa emiklomelweni yezinto ezibonakalayo, izingane ngeke zithole ukugqugquzeleka okungaphakathi, ngeke zizwe ubizo noma uthando olungenamibandela nganoma yini.

Siphambanisa ubuhlakani nokuvuthwa noma ithalente

Ubuhlakani buvame ukusetshenziswa njengesilinganiso sokuvuthwa kwengane futhi ngenxa yalokho, abazali bacabanga ukuthi ingane yabo ihlakaniphile futhi ilungele ukungena emhlabeni… kepha lokhu akuhlali kunjalo. Abanye abagijimi abangochwepheshe nezinkanyezi zama-movie banethalente elihle kakhulu noma ubuhlakani endaweni eyodwa, kepha bayizinhlekelele ezimpilweni zabo eziyimfihlo.

Ukuthi ubuhlakani bukhona ezimpilweni zezingane akusho ukuthi bugcwele kuzo zonke izindawo. Akunabudala bobuningi obungumlingo noma obukhombisa ukuthi ingane kufanele ibe nenkululeko engakanani noma engaphansi ... kepha kuyadingeka ukuthi ubheke izingane ukuthi zazi ukuthi zingakwazi yini ukuba nenkululeko eyengeziwe noma ukuzimela, noma cha.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi ukuze imfundo yezingane zakho ingathinteki kakhulu, kufanele ube yisibonelo esihle sokuziphatha. Cabanga ngokuziphatha okungenzeka ukuthi akusizi ukuthi akhule futhi athuthuke, futhi uzithuthukise kuwe kuqala.