Lapho izingane ziqala ukukhuluma, kungokwemvelo ukuba zehle futhi zikhulume ngokushelelayo okuncane. Lokhu kungaholela ekubeni abazali bakhathazeke ngokuthi kungenxa yokuthuthuka kwenkulumo okulula noma ukuqala kokungingiza. Kufanele Bakhathazeke Nini Abazali? Ziyini izimpawu nokwelashwa kokungingiza kwengane? Yonke le datha ingatholakala ngezansi.
Izimpawu zokungingiza kwengane
Izinkinga zokushibilika ezinganeni zivamile kakhulu kunalokho kubonakala. Cishe ama-5% anezinkinga ngokuthuthuka kolimi, ikakhulukazi kusuka eminyakeni emi-2 kuye kwengu-5 ubudala, kuyilapho amalimi ehlushwa ngabantu abayi-1% kuphela, futhi iningi lilulama kahle uma liphathwa. Eziningi zalezi zinkinga zihamba zodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Ukuze ukwazi hlukanisa izinkinga zokuqephuza ngokushelelayo Sikukhombisa umehluko othile:
- Ukuphindaphinda: ezimweni zombili kunezimpinda. Emalungeni angingiza noma imisindo iyaphindwa ngenkathi ezinkingeni ezijwayelekile kuphindaphindwa amagama noma amabinzana.
- Ukuvimba: Ukuze kube khona ukungingiza, kufanele kube nokuvaleka okwenza ingane ingakwazi ukuqhubeka nokukhuluma noma ngabe izama kangakanani. Ezinkingeni ezijwayelekile akukho mzamo.
- Zikhombisa ezinye izindlela zokuziphatha: lezi zikhathi zokuvinjelwa zivame ukuhambisana ne-tics (ukunyakaza kweminwe, amahlombe, ikhanda ...)
- Ukungingiza kuhambisana nokuphazamiseka ekuxhumaniseni ukuphefumula nethoni yezwi, nokukhuphuka kwenhliziyo nokuqina kwemisipha.
- Uma iba yimbi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi iyangingiza: Izinkinga ezijwayelekile zivame ukuthuthuka njengoba isikhathi sihamba nokulawulwa kolimi lwakho kukhula.
- Ukungingiza kudala ifayili le- imizwa engathandeki yokukhungatheka, ukuphoxeka, ukukhathazeka nokungakhululeki ukungakwazi ukukhuluma kahle. Izinkinga ezijwayelekile azivezi noma iyiphi yale mizwa engathandeki.
Lezi zimpawu zivame ukuba zimbi kakhulu ezimweni zokucindezeleka, ukwesaba, noma ukukhathala.
Ukwelashwa kokungingiza kwengane
Uma ungabaza ukuthi ingane yakho iyangingiza, kukhonjiswa lokho Iya kuchwepheshe ukuze akwazi ukuhlola izimpawu futhi kungenzeka uqale ukwelashwa ngokushesha okukhulu, ukubhekana nenkinga
Uchwepheshe wezinkulumo uzophakamisa ukwelashwa ngokuya ngohlobo lwamalimi kanye nezidingo zengane, ukuze ikwazi ukubamba iqhaza ekilasini kanye nabangane bayo nozakwabo, imsize athuthukise ukushelela nokuxhumana ngaphandle kwalowo muzwa wokukhungatheka nokungazethembi.
Isibonelo se- Isisekelo sokwelashwa kwamalimi Yilezi: ukwelashwa kokukhuluma, isimilo sokuqonda, ngosizo lwamathuluzi afana nezinto zobuchwepheshe futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abazali bangazisiza kanjani izingane zabo. Izikhathi eziningi ngokufuna ukusiza singayandisa inkinga. Sikunikeza amathiphu okusiza ingane yakho ngokungingiza kwayo:
- Memukele njengoba enjalo. Ungamgxeki, ingasaphathwa eyokubika phambi kwanoma ngubani. Ungamjezisi naye, akulona iphutha lakhe ukuthi unenkinga yokungingiza, ngokuqinisekile ufisa ukuthi ngabe akazange enze njalo. Ungahlekisi ngenkinga yabo. Uthando lwakho olungenamibandela luzomnika ukuphepha futhi uzothola ukwesekwa kwakho, esikhundleni sokugxekwa kwakho.
- Dala umoya okhululekile. Ungamphoqi ukuthi akhulume ukuze angakhuphi izinga lokukhathazeka kwakhe, umshiye inqobo nje uma edinga ngaphandle kweziphazamiso. Dlulisa ukuthula nokuzola, ungakhombisi ukubekezela kwakho ukugwema ukuvinjelwa.
- Musa ukulungisa ngqo. Singakwenza sikholelwa ukuthi siyamsiza kepha kuphambene. Endabeni yokuthi kufanele ukwenze, kwenze kube kuhle.
- Ungaqedi imisho yakho. Kungabukeka sengathi uyamsiza kodwa nguyena okumele aqedele imisho yakhe ukuze anqobe inkinga yakhe.
- Musa ukumkhulumela. Kuyinto eyodwa ukumvimbela ekubhekaneni nomphakathi omkhulu, nokunye ukususa amatshe amancane asendleleni. Kufanele ubhekane nezimpi ezincane ukwakha ukuzethemba.
- Kukhulume. Ingane izokwazi ukuthi inenkinga ezinye izingane ezingenayo. Kuyinto elula ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile ngenkinga, njengento ejwayelekile njengoba kunjalo. Azikho izimfihlo noma ukufihla.
Ngoba khumbula ... nobabili kufanele nibe nesineke sokunqoba le nkinga futhi ninqobe.