Izingane ezinokwethenjelwa zisencane zithola amakhono asheshayo lokho kubasiza ukuba bavuthwe ngokulinganisela nenjabulo. Kodwa-ke, kusobala kithi sonke ukuthi ingane ngayinye inezinga layo lokuvuthwa, nokuthi akuzona zonke ezilandela izikhathi ezifanayo.
Manje, lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele siyibukele phansi inkinga yokuzibophezela, ngoba siyakholelwa noma qha, imfundo iqala ezinyangeni zokuqala zempiloInqubo elula yokubanikeza iziqondiso, ukuphumula, ukudla, nemikhuba yokuzijabulisa, isivele isungula izindinganiso ezicacile zalokho okulindeleke kubo, nokuthi bangayifinyelela kanjani inhlalakahle yabo kanye nalezo zifinyezo ezincane zansuku zonke. Ukufundisa kuyinto ejabulisayo, futhi kokuthi "Omama Namuhla" sifuna ukukubonisa ukuthi singakwenza kanjani khulisa umthwalo wemfanelo ezinganeni.
Sisho ukuthini ngesibopho? Ebuntwaneni, umthwalo wemfanelo qaphela imiphumela salokho esikwenzayo nesihlulekayo ukukwenza (okungenziwanga), kithina nakwabanye. Yakhiwe ngokwenza kwansuku zonke futhi isekelwa izinsika ezintathu ezibalulekile: ukuzethemba emakhonweni abo (ukuzethemba kondlekile ngokubuka kwethu), ukwamukela ukuvumelana okuncane ezifanele iminyaka yabo futhi ukubekezela ukusimamisa umzamo kuze kube kufinyelelwa izinhloso ezingokoqobo.
Izingane ezinesibopho kufanele zikwazi ukunquma
Kukhona obaba nomama abacabanga ngokungeyikho, lokho Umthwalo wemfanelo ufakwa ngokulalela okuqinile kakhulu. Akulona iqiniso, ngakho-ke kufanele sibheke lezi zinto ezilandelayo:
Ukufundisa akusho ukulawula. Ukufundisa kukwazi ukuthi ungabeka kanjani isibonelo, ukuba ngumqondisi onomthwalo okwazi ukukhuthaza ukufunda ngothando nokwethembana
- Uma silandela uhlobo lwemfundo olususelwa ekulaleleni nasemithethweni engaguquguquki elawula zonke izici zengane, sizobe sivotela ikhono labo lokuzibophezela. Ngokuphambene nalokho esizenza ngathi.
- Lapho sivikela ngokweqile, izingane ziba ezingavikelekile, nokungazethembi kwenza izingane zizibone zingakwazi ukwenza izinto eziningi zodwa.
- Kumele sibavumele ukuthi bakwazi ukunikeza umbono wabo, bakwazi ukuzimela usuku nosuku ukuze baqonde ukubaluleka komzamo. Okwakho, udinga ukubanikeza ukuzethemba nokukhuluma okuhle njengoba "Ungakwenza", "umdala ngokwanele ukuthi uzokwazi ukubhekelela izinto zakho."
- Lapho izingane zethu zikwazi ukukhetha into eyodwa kunenye, kuzobenza babone ukuthi ngabe baqinisile noma ngabe benze iphutha. Kubalulekile ukuthi ngezikhathi ezithile sibavumele ukuthi "benze amaphutha" ukuze bathole okungcono kakhulu kokufunda ngale ndlela.
- Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi lapho ubeka amazinga, isibonelo nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho kunamandla amaningi kunokukhuluma okulula. Kuya ngokuthi baneminyaka emingaki, kuzohlala kulula ukubanikeza amalayisense athile, izimvume ezithile nazo ezithwala umthwalo ophelele.
Ukunquma kufundisa ngaphezu kokulalela. Kungakho kuwumqondo omuhle ukunikeza izinketho ezilula nezicacile (isibonelo, thatha manje noma ngemva kokudla okulula) bese uhambisana nazo imiphumela yemvelo noma logic esikhundleni isijeziso. Uma unquma ukungapakishi ubhaka wakho, umphumela ungase ukhohlwe ukudla kwasemini; lokho okuhlangenwe nakho kwangempela, waphila ngaphandle kwedrama, iqinisa isibopho kakhulu kunentshumayelo.
Imininingwane ebalulekile iwukugcina ukuhambisana kwemizweloImizwa yethu kufanele ifane kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bakhetha ukuthobela noma cha, sigweme ukuthukuthela noma ukucasuka ngokweqile. Ngale ndlela, ingane ifunda ukuthi umphumela uhlobene nesenzo sabo, hhayi isimo sethu sengqondo.
Bakhombise ukuzethemba
Imiphumela yamanothi okugcina kungenzeka ukuthi ayizange ibe mihle. Abazali abangakavuthwa kakhulu abanamakhono amabi okufundisa bazokhawulela ekujeziseni ingane nokuthi kuye kuye "uyaxaka noma uyivila". Akufanele senze ngale ndlela.
- Uma ingane ingazizwa ivikelekile noma yaziwa emkhayeni, iyoba nokuzethemba okungekuhle. Ukungazethembi kuvame ukudala imizwa yokwehluleka, ngalo, kungaba yimbangela yezinkinga.
- Izingane zethu zinelungelo lokwenza izinto ezingalungile, zingenza amaphutha futhi zize zisihlule. Manje, uma impendulo yethu ukusebenzisa ukujeziswa, ukuphoqelelwa noma ukwedelelwa, sizokhiqiza imizwa emibi kakhulu.
- Banikeze amasu okuzethemba nokwenza ngcono. Khuluma nabo, ubabuze ukuthi kwenzekani kodwa ngaphandle kokujeziswa. Ingane ezizwa iphephile futhi inakekelwe ivulekile ngokwengeziwe, inozwela ngokwengeziwe.
- Lapho othile ebona ukuthi abanye bathemba ikhono labo lokwenza ngcono, ukuthuthukisa nokufeza izinto, ukuzibona kwabo kuyathuthuka. Ukuphepha komuntu siqu okukhulu, umthwalo omkhulu. Lokhu yinto okufanele siyisebenze usuku nosuku.
Ukwethemba akusho ukuvumela yonke into; kusho beka okulindelwe okucacile futhi ihambisana neminyaka, ukubanika isikhathi sokuzama, kanye nemibuzo ehambisanayo ekhuthaza ukuzindla: "Ucabanga ukuthi yini ongayenza ngendlela ehlukile kusasa?" Kuyasiza futhi nikeza isaziso kusengaphambili mayelana noshintsho (isb., ukunikeza isaziso semizuzu engu-5-10 ngaphambi kokusuka ekudlaleni uye ekwenzeni imisebenzi yasekhaya) ukunciphisa ukumelana nokuthuthukisa ukuzithiba.
Gwema amalebula omhlaba njengokuthi "vila" noma "okungcolile"; kuwusizo kakhulu ukuyisebenzisa impendulo enencazelo"Ubeke amathoyizi akho namuhla ngingakucelanga. Lokho kuwumthwalo wakho." Ukubona ukuziphatha okuthile kuqinisa esifuna ukukuphinda futhi kwakha ukuzethemba.
Amathuba amasha nsuku zonke
Ukukhula, ukuba nosuku lokuzalwa, kubandakanya hhayi nje ukuthenga izingubo ezintsha. Ukuguga kunenani elengeziwe lokuba nesibopho nsuku zonke, futhi lokhu yinto esizokwazi ukuthi siyiqaphele selokhu bafika emhlabeni. Udinga ukubona ukuthi ingane yakho ikhula kanjani nokuthi yiziphi izidingo ezihlotshaniswa nokuvuthwa kwayo. Akuzona zonke izingane ezifanayo, futhi ngeke basebenzise iseluleko esifanayo ukuze babe nomthwalo wemfanelo.
- Kuzoba nezingane ezingenakho ukuthula, ezikhohlwayo nezithembele kakhulu kithi. Njengoba bekhula, kuzodingeka ukuthi bancike kancane komama babo futhi bathole ukuzimela: bakwazi ukugcina ukuhleleka ekamelweni, ukuzigqoka, ukukhumbula ukufaka konke esikhwameni sesikole ...
- Ezinye izingane, ngakolunye uhlangothi, bezilokhu zigxile kakhulu futhi zinomthwalo wemfanelo kusukela zisencane kakhulu. Kulokhu, abazokudinga yizikhuthazi namathuba amasha okukhula ngaphakathi. Kungaba kuhle kakhulu kubo ukubabhalisela izifundo zomculo, ukupenda, noma ezemidlalo. Imayelana nokuwavulela umhlaba ukuze bathole amakhono amasha.
Ngakho-ke, kufanele sicabangele izidingo zengane ngayinye. Akuwona wonke umuntu okhula ngendlela efanayo, akubona bonke abanobuntu obufanayo noma ababona izinto ngokufana nezingane zakwabo. Kumele sazi ukuthi kufanele sisebenzise kanjani i-intuit, sibazi kahle futhi sibanikeze abakufunayo.
Izibopho ezithile ngokweminyaka
Ukukhuthaza isibopho esiqhubekayo, singaphakamisa imisebenzi engokoqobo ngokwesigaba sabo, njalo ngokugadwa kancane kancane kanye nesifiso sokuzuza:
- Iminyaka engu-2-3: susa amathoyizi ngosizo, uphathe izingubo ezingcolile uziyise ku-hamper, ubeke izicubu kubhasikidi wemfucuza, usize ukubeka ama-napkin etafuleni. Umgomo uwukuba iqhaza, hhayi ukuphelela.
- Iminyaka engu-4-6: wendlula umbhede wakho ngendlela elula, bezigqokisa ngosizo oluncane, pakisha ukudla kwasemini esikhwameni (ngokugadwa), adle yedwa ngisho noma zichitheka kancane futhi zisize ukususa itafula.
- Iminyaka engu-7-9: lungisa ubhaka wesikole ngayizolo, Lungisa itafula ngezinto zokusika nezinto ezingaphuli, layisha umshini wokuwasha izitsha, gcina ukuthenga bese ushintsha i-toilet roll. Ukuhamba nenja ephelezelwa umuntu omdala uma uhlobo nemibandela ivuma.
- Iminyaka engu-10-12: Hlanza igumbi lakho nezindawo ezivamile, Siza ekhishini (ukusika izithelo, ukulungisa i-toast noma ijusi ngokugadwa), ukulenga nokusonga izingubo, ndlula umbhede nsuku zonke futhi nihlanganyele emisebenzini emide njengokugeza imoto.
- Ubusha: hlela isikhathi sakho sokufunda nesokuphumula, phatha isabelo ukufunda ukonga, ukunakekela izingane zakini isikhathi esifushane uma benesibopho, futhi nakekela ingadi noma izitshalo (amanzi, hlola inhlabathi) noma ingadi encane yomndeni.
Izibopho zasekhaya zifundisa lokho Ukuphila njengomkhaya kuwumzamo weqembuUngakwazi ukushintshanisa imisebenzi, usethe amashejuli abonakalayo, futhi ugubhe inqubekelaphambili ngamagama agqamisa umzamo.
Hlonipha ubuntu babo, izingane azifani nabazali
Izingane zethu aziwona ama-clones ethu futhi akudingeki ukuthi zihlanganyele izindinganiso zethu ezifanayo noma okuncamelayo. Udaba lobuntu bezingane udaba oluhlala lukhiqiza ukukhathazeka okukhulu kubazali.
Kungani ezoba nolaka futhi angacabangi uma mina noyise sizolile futhi sigxile kakhulu? Lesi ngesinye sezisho ezijwayeleke kakhulu abazali abazenza zona, bemangazwe ukwehluka kokuziphatha kwezingane zabo.
Okuthile njengabazali okufanele sazi ngezingane zethu yilokhu okulandelayo:
- Izingane zethu zingabantu abahlukile nabamangalisayo. Umsebenzi wethu ukwenza indlela yabo nsuku zonke ukuze babe ngabantu abadala abanokwethenjelwa abakwazi ukujabula kukhetho ngalunye abalwenzayo.
- Umsebenzi wethu akukhona ukuhlukanisa indlela yabo noma ukunamathisela amaphiko abo. Uma ingane yakho ingumphuphi futhi ingenalwazi ngandlela thile, ungaphoqeleli ukuthatha amaphupho akhe noma ukujezisa noma ukudelela ukungabi khona kwakhe. Msize ukuthi avuthwe, abe yilokho akufunayo ngenkathi ehlonipha izici zakhe.
Uma siphikelela ekushintsheni ubuntu bengane sizodala ingcindezi, umcabango ophansi nentando encane yokuzibophezela. Yizingane ezingazizwa zihlonishwa, futhi lokhu kungazenza ziguqule lokhu kunganeliseki kube yintukuthelo noma ukuhlubuka, noma zingazihoxisa.
Ukuze sifundise izingane ezinesibopho, kuyadingeka ukuthi senze «uhambo lwangaphakathi» lokuzibonakalisa ukucabanga ngalezi zici:
- Kufanele uhlale uyisibonelo esihle kubo.
- Uma abazali bakho benza amaphutha nawe, ungaphoqeleli ukuthi wenze okuhlukile. Beka eceleni ukwesaba kwakho, futhi uzethembe wena, imizwa yakho futhi ikakhulukazi othandweni lwakho ezinganeni zakho. Kwesinye isikhathi "izipoki zakudala" zisibangela ukuba sakhe uvalo olungadingekile.
- Lapho ubeka imithetho, unikezela ngemithwalo yemfanelo, uyavuza, uqinisa noma ujezisa, Kuyadingeka ukuthi nobabili nivumelane ngakho konke.
Ukuze uthuthukise umthwalo wabo wemfanelo ngenkathi uhlonipha isimilo sabo, khomba yabo izinqaba Futhi ncika kuzo: umuntu ojabulela ukuqoqa uzogqugquzelwa ngokubeka amabhuku noma izitsha; uma bethanda ukunyakaza, phakamisa imisebenzi esebenzayo njengokushanela noma ukuhamba nenja. Kuyasiza futhi yenza imisebenzi ibe mnandi: Umculo ongemuva, izinselele ezincane nezikhathi ezichaziwe zishintsha izibopho zibe amandla abekezeleleka kakhudlwana.
Gwema ukufumbathisa nezithembiso ezinjengokuthi "uma wenza lokhu, ngizokunika lokho." Ukuqiniswa kufanele kufike kamuva, ngaphandle kwenkontileka yangaphambili, ukuze ungaguquli umthwalo wemfanelo ube "ukuhwebelana kwezentengiselwano." Kunalokho, sebenzisa ukuqashelwa okuqotho kanye nemiphumela enengqondo okwavunyelwana ngayo ngaphambili.
Imithetho, imikhawulo kanye nemiphumela efundisayo
Imithetho ecacile, engaguquki, futhi ehambisana neminyaka iyahlinzeka ukuphepha kanye nesiqondisoKutuswa ukuzichaza ngomoya ophansi, kanye nemiphumela yazo engase ibe khona, futhi uzivumele zihlangabezane nazo ngaphandle komdlalo. Isibonelo, uma umthetho uthi "ayikho i-TV kuze kube yilapho igumbi lihlelekile," kungcono ukukusho kusengaphambili futhi uhlale ubambelele, hhayi nje lapho sikhathele.
Abanye okhiye ezingokoqobo lowo msebenzi:
- Bavumele bathathe izinqumo futhi bamukele imiphumela engokwemvelo noma enengqondo yezenzo zabo (ukukhohlwa ukudla kwasemini, ukungalethi imishini yezemidlalo, njll.).
- Khuluma ngemiphumela kusengaphambili ukuze bazi ukuthi yini okufanele bayilindele, ehlukanisa ukuziphatha nokufaneleka komuntu siqu.
- Khuluma ngezibopho futhi badlulisele kubo "i-logistics" abangavele bazinakekele (ukulungiselela ubhaka noma izinto zangaphandle kwesikole) kubo esikhundleni sokuthi sikwenze.
- Bavumele ukuthi baxazulule izinkinga ezincane ngokusekelwa: hlola ezinye izindlela, kala okuhle nobubi bese ukhetha okufanele kakhulu.
- Khumbula umgomo wezemfundo: sifundise ukukhetha kahle, singalaleli ngenxa yokwesaba noma ngenxa yokuchichima kwemizwelo yethu.
La ukubekezelela Kubalulekile. Ekuqaleni, kungase kubonakale sengathi asenzi inqubekela phambili, kodwa ukuphindaphinda kuguqula imiyalo ibe imikhuba. Ukunikeza ukwesekwa ngenhlonipho nokuqina, ukugwema izinsongo nokuhlukunyezwa ngamazwi, kwakha isisekelo esiqinile esenza isigaba sokuthomba sibe lula.
Ukuzimela, ukuxazulula izingxabano kanye nokuthatha izinqumo
Ukuzimela okwengeziwe kusho umthwalo owengeziweUkubanika indawo, ukugada ukude, nokungenelela kuphela lapho kudingekile kubavumela ukuba bazilolonge amakhono afana nokuphatha isikhathi, ukubeka phambili imisebenzi, ukuhlehlisa ukuzanelisa (umsebenzi wasekhaya ngaphambi kwemidlalo yevidiyo), kanye nokubhekana namaphutha ngaphandle kokuhlukana.
Ukuxazulula ukungqubuzana kufundwa ngamathuba empilo yangempela. Siqala ngezingxabano ezilula (ngaphezu kwethoyizi) futhi kancane kancane sandise inkimbinkimbi. Njengabantu abadala, kuyasiza hlola ubunzima futhi unqume ukuthi uzohola nini noma nini (ngokwesibonelo, esimweni sokuxhashazwa esikoleni).
Okunikezwayo izinqumo ezinomkhawulo Iyasebenza: "Ungathanda ukuqoqa ideski lakho noma ishalofu lakho lezincwadi kuqala?" Uma benza iphutha ngaphandle kwenhloso embi, siguqula iphutha libe yinto yokufunda, sigwema ukululazeka noma isijeziso.
Kwabasha, i ukuxoxisana Kuyithuluzi eliyisihluthulelo. Kucatshangelwa imithetho, kuvunyelwane ngezimiso, futhi imiphumela iyamiswa, kugcinwe igunya elisekelwe ekuhlonipheni. Inani lokuzimela esibanika lona lincike kubo izinga lomthwalo wemfanelo elibonisiwe.
Amandla esibonelo kanye nemfundo kumagugu
Izingane zifunda nge ukulingisaUma sifuna ukuba zihleleke, zihlangabezane nezikhathi ezimisiwe, noma ziphikelele, kudingeka sikubonise lokho ekuphileni kwethu. Ukuthi "kubalulekile ukufunda" kuyilapho singakaze sibonwe nencwadi kuwumlayezo ophikisanayo. Ukuvumelana phakathi kwesikushoyo nesikwenzayo kwakha igunya elizolile.
Umndeni uyisikole sokuqala samagugu: umthwalo, inhlonipho kanye nokuzibophezela Zenziwa ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Ukusabalalisa imisebenzi ngokwamakhono, ukubonga wonke umuntu ngeminikelo yabo, nokuchaza incazelo yomsebenzi ngamunye ("Ngizothenga ukuze sibe nokudla") kusiza ukuhlanganisa inani elingemuva kwesenzo.
Kuyafundisa futhi ukwethula a isibonelelo noma isibonelelo Izifundo ezihambisana neminyaka yokuzijwayeza ukuphatha, ukonga, kanye nezinqumo zokusebenzisa imali. Uma beyisebenzisa, balinda umjikelezo olandelayo: isifundo esisebenzayo ngemiphumela nokuhlela.
Isimo samanje senhlalo kwesinye isikhathi siwenza ube nzima umsebenzi (umvuzo olula, ukusetshenziswa kwabathengi), kodwa ukunakekela ukwethembana, inhlonipho kanye nokuxhumana njengezinsika nokugubha inqubekelaphambili ngokuqiniswa okuhle kwenza umehluko. Njengesikhumbuzo esikhuthazayo, ukwenza imikhuba emihle namuhla kusho ukugwema izinkinga kusasa.
Izingane ezinomthwalo wemfanelo ngijabule kakhulu ngoba bazizwa benekhono, bewusizo futhi bengabalingiswa bempilo yabo. Ngokuhlanganisa izinqumo eziqondisiwe, imiphumela yemvelo, Ukusekelwa Ngokomzwelo y amamodeli ahambisanayoSiguqula ukulalela okuyimpumputhe kube ukuzimela okwaziyo. Yonke imisebenzi emincane, yonke ingxoxo ezolile, nawo wonke amathuba okulungisa iphutha kuneqhaza ekwakheni isibopho esiqinile nesihlala njalo.