I-hypersexualization yobuntwana iyi-movie yangempela ethusayo. Amantombazane nabafana banamuhla banokufinyelela okungenamkhawulo kulawo mawindi angama-social network noma i-YouTube, lapho ubuchopho babo, abalambele imizwa, bathola imininingwane lapho bengathuthukisa khona ubunikazi babo. Cishe ngaphandle kokwazi ukuthi bakuthatha kanjani ukuvela kokuziphendukela kwemvelo kulokho okwenziwe ngokuqinile lapho kungagcini nje ngezigaba ezithuthukile, kepha futhi nezisekelo ze ukuzihlonipha kanye nomqondo wokuzimela oyiqiniso.
Wonke umama uzokhumbula leso sikhathi lapho savuka ebusheni simagange ukuzama i-lipstick, ukuya kwelinye igxathu futhi sishiye ikhabethe lezingane zethu ukuze zithole isibindi esithe xaxa. Ziyizinqubo ezijwayelekile, ukuvuswa okujwayelekile okungahlangene namantombazane amaningi namuhla. Kukholwe noma ungakukholwa ngaphezu kwamakhosazana, amantombazane amaningi alangazelela ukuba yizindlovukazi, izindlovukazi zobuhle nobuhle obuyingozi lokho kugcina izikhathi eziningi lapho kufanele siphathe izingane ezineminyaka engu-9 nge-anorexia noma i-bulimia. Sikumema ukuba uzindle ngayo.
I-Hypersexualization iyathengisa
I-Hypersexualization inenzuzo ezinkampanini ezinkulu futhi iningi lezimpahla zokugqoka nezimonyo ziyakwazi lokhu. Njengamanje, sinesibonelo secala elaziwa kakhulu likaKristina Pímenova, the «Kuthiwa intombazane enhle kunazo zonke emhlabeni», ukuthi nabalandeli abacishe babe yizigidi ezimbili ku-Instagram, imikhiqizo yezingubo iyakucasula ngenkathi umama wakhe onekhono ephatha lokho kungena kusenesikhathi emhlabeni wabantu abadala, wentombazane esencane eneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-12 ubudala ephila izinsuku zayo ngaphansi kwezithombe nomphakathi obukeleyo obonayo ikhule.
Futhi asikwazi ukukhohlwa imincintiswano yobuhle yezingane edume kakhulu e-United States futhi ikakhulukazi eLatin America. Lapha ukuphendukezelwa kwemithombo yezindaba kuya kwelinye igxathu ukudala izimo ezikhohlisayo nezikhathazayo ngokuphelele. Amantombazane aguqulwa abe ngabesifazane abancane, abenza ucansi oluphelele ukuze bancintisane ngaphambi kwezithameli ezikhethiwe.
Isenzeko sesekisi sikhokhwa ikakhulukazi yimindeni ehola la mantombazane ngenani lokuthi ubuhle bungamandla, ukuthi ubuhle buyisimo. Emazweni afana neVenezuela, lezi zenzo zithandwa kakhulu, futhi kunamacala aziwayo amantombazane asevele ehlinziwe ukulungisa imininingwane, "ukugcwalisa" ama-nuances ngaleso sikhathi, ngokwawo, ngabe asevele abumba ngesikhathi sawo. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanele.
Ukwenza kahle kanye nesidingo "sokushisa ngezigaba"
Ngonyaka odlule, uchungechunge lwezingubo olwaziwayo lwasungula isudi yokubhukuda yezingane lapho ingxenye yebra yayihlanganisa nephedi elicashile ukuze amantombazane aneminyaka engu-6 noma engu-7 abonakale emdala kakhulu. Ngenhlanhla, ukusabela kokuxhumana nabantu kuphele ngokukhumbula lezi zinto zokugqoka.
Konke lokhu kusikhombisa ukuthi ngenhlanhla iningi liyazwela kulolu hlobo lwamaqiniso lapho kutholakala uchungechunge lwemibono:
- Njengamanje siphila umusa dingcindezi yomphakathi ukusheshisa izinqubo, ukushisa izigaba. Sifuna izingane zethu zifunde ukuhamba ngokushesha, bona sisusa inabukeni Ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, sisuka ekudleni okuthambile siye kokuqinile, futhi sifuna nokuthi izingane zifunde ukufunda nokubhala zineminyaka emihlanu.
- Sibhekene nalokhu kusheshiswa ... Singamangala kanjani ukuthi amantombazane aneminyaka eyishumi ubudala aya esikoleni nezimonyo noma ukuthi abafana bethu abaneminyaka engu-10 baletha izintombi zabo ekhaya ukuze ziye egumbini labo?
- Izigaba ezivuthayo azibangeli ukuvuthwa okukhulu, hhayi ukuzazisa okungcono komuntu noma ukuzethemba okuhle. Lokho okubanga empeleni "ukuhlangana," imvula ekwindla yamahhala evame ukuletha ukungajabuli.
- Amantombazane nabafana abathola le milayezo ye-hypersexualization besebancane kakhulu ngabezindaba noma emindenini yabo, bakha ukuzethemba kwabo ngokususelwa ebangeni elihlukile: umzimba nokubukeka kwabo.
- Ukubukeka kufana namandla nendlela yokuziqinisekisa "njengabantu." Uma ekuqaleni bebefuna ukuqiniswa emndenini wabo, njengoba bekhula bazoyifuna kwabobulili obuhlukile.
- Yile ndlela engazi ngayo ukuthuthukisa amaphethini wobuntu obuthakathaka futhi obuthakathaka, abantu abanezitha zabo uqobo, abalwela ukupheleliswa njalo, bayathandwa futhi bayafisa ukuze bakwazi ukuziqinisa njengabantu. Kubuhlungu ngempela.
Yiba nozwelo futhi ube enembile emhlabeni owenza i-hypersexualize
Umhlaba ucindezela ocansini. Ithelevishini iyakwenza lokho, izimboni zamathoyizi zikwenza ngokusinikeza onodoli abanamajika aphelele nezinwele ezinde ezimhlophe kanti iDisney iyakwenza lokho, kufanele sikhumbule "imikhiqizo" yabo emibili emihle kakhulu njengoMiley Cyrus noSelena Gomez. Onke amantombazane ayefuna ukufana nawo, manje, sonke singofakazi balokho kuziphendukela kwemvelo lapho i-hypersexualization yabo ibalethele impumelelo, udumo namandla.
Ngokusho a umbiko weqembu elisebenza nge-American Psychological Association lAmantombazane nabafana abadalulwe kwimilayezo yezocansi ejwayelekile yalesi siko lezokuxhumana kungenzeka ukuthi bathuthukise ukungazethembi nje kuphela, kepha futhi nengcindezi nezinkinga zokudla.
Sidinga ukuba ngabantu abanembile nabazwela kulezi zinhlobo zamaqiniso. Amadodakazi ethu namadodana ethu alingisa konke abakubonayo futhi afaka ngaphakathi kubo konke okuyingxenye yendawo eseduze kakhulu.
- Ukugwema i-hypersexualization, akusizi ngalutho ukususa iphasiwedi yabo yasekhaya ye-Wi-Fi noma ukuyeka ukuvuselela inkontileka yabo yeselula. Imfundo ngezocansi iqala ebuntwaneni, ngokusebenzisa amathoyizi, izincwadi, opopayi. Nathi ngokwethu sisebenza njengezinkomba.
- Akukona nhlobo ukuthi "ukubenqabela ukuthi badlale nama-barbies." Banikeze ezinye izindlela lapho ama-nuances akudala wezocansi nobulili engekho.
- Fundisa ngokulingana, ekuvuleni izingqondo, ekufuneni ukwazi, ungabavumeli bathande kusenesikhathi ezindaweni ezingayifanele iminyaka yabo. Bazoba nesikhathi sayo yonke into, kepha ngesikhathi esifanele, hhayi eminyakeni eyisithupha.
Ungalokothi utshele intombazane kule minyaka ukuthi yinhle ngoba ifake i-lipstick yakho noma i-mascara. Ungabuzi ingane eneminyaka engu-7 ukuthi unezintombi ezingaki esikoleni.