Kula masonto edlule bengikhuluma nawe ngokuba ngumzali ngokunamathiselwe futhi ngicabanga ukuthi kungubuzali ukuthi bonke abantu kufanele balandele okungenani iminyaka yokuqala yezimpilo zezingane zethu ukuze bezwe sengathi abazali babo bayazithanda futhi banikeze konke uthando abaludingayo ukuze bakhule kahle. Okunamathiselwe umzali Isekelwe ekuthintaneni nasekuhlonipheni izidingo zezingane, ukubeka lokho abakudingayo ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuqinisekisa ukukhula kwabo okuhle ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo.
Lapho izingane zikhula futhi ukunakekelwa kokunamathisela kugxilile emndenini, Kuyadingeka ukuqhubekela phambili isiyalo esihle lapho izingane zingabalingisi bokufunda kwansuku zonke nalapho ukuqinisa okuhle kubalulekile., ukukhuthazwa nokwenza kusebenze ukuzethemba okuhle kuyadingeka ezinganeni ukuze zifunde konke ezikudingayo ukuze zikwazi ukuqhubeka nokuthuthuka kuzo zonke izindawo zempilo yazo.
Abazali kufanele baphathe izingane zabo ngendlela abangathanda ukuphathwa ngayo. Ukuziphatha okuhle kuyifilosofi ephelele ehlose ukukhuthaza izingane kanye nentsha ukuthi iziphathe kahle futhi ihloniphe ngokuqala ngokubabekela isibonelo esihle. Isiyalo esihle sisekelwe othandweni nenhlonipho, okuqinisa ubuhlobo bomzali nengane, kuyilapho... isiyalo esiqinile Lapho igunya nesijeziso kusetshenziswa kabi khona, lokhu kuhlobana kuba buthaka kangangokuthi izingane nabazali bangase bagcine bengazani nhlobo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, incike ezinsikeni eziqondile kakhulu: imingcele ecacile nengaguquguquki ukuxhumana ngenhlonipho, ukusetshenziswa imiphumela enengqondo nengokwemvelo Esikhundleni sokujezisa, ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nokwakha amakhono okuphila (ukuzithiba, ukuxazulula izinkinga, uzwela, nokubambisana) kuyisihluthulelo. Ngokulinganisa ukuqina ngomusaIzingane zifaka imithetho ngaphakathi ngokuqonda, hhayi ukwesaba.
Kuthiwani uma unganaki isiyalo esihle
Okulandelayo, ngifuna ukukhuluma nawe ngezinye Izizathu zokufundisa izingane zakho ngokunamathela ekubeni umzali kanye nesiyalo esihle ukuze bakhulele endaweni egcwele uthando nenhlonipho, nokuthi yilokhu abakufundayo ukuze bathuthuke ngokomzwelo ngendlela engcono kakhulu.
- Hlonipha ukwesaba izingane zakho ezingaba nakho ekukhuleni kwazo, uma uhleka ukwesaba kwazo (okujwayelekile ekukhuleni) uzobe udala imizwa yokujabha nokululazeka.
- Ungamenzi ingane yakho ikusabe nge amanani aqinile ngoba lokho kuholela kuphela engcupheni yokuziphatha okuphambene nomphakathi esikhathini esizayo, okuhlanganisa imisebenzi yobugebengu nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa.
- Ungalokothi ushaye izingane zakho ngoba lokhu nje uzobe umfundisa ukuthi naye angakwenza kokunye futhi uzobe udala izinkinga ezingokomzwelo nezokuziphatha.
- Uma unesiyalo esiqinile noma esinodlame ekhaya, sizofundisa izingane ukuthi udlame kuphela kwendlela yokuxazulula izinkinga nabanye.
- Ukuziphatha okulawula kabi noma okulawulayo kuzodala ukwethembana phakathi kwabazali nezingane Futhi lokhu kungalimaza kakhulu ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali nezingane.
Kanye nalezi zingozi, kuphinde kubhekwe ukuthi ezindlini lapho kukhona ukumemeza, ukusola noma izinsongo, ukuphilisana kuba muncu. Ukucindezeleka nokungqubuzana kuyandaIzingane zibambisana kancane futhi abazali bazizwa bekhungathekile. Ngokuphambene, indlela enhle inciphisa ukukhuphuka kwezingxabano, ikhuthaza ukuzithiba, futhi Ithuthukisa ukusebenzisana okuzenzakalelayo. wezingane.
Ukungazinaki isiyalo esihle futhi kunciphisa ukufunda okubalulekile: izingane zingakhula ngaphandle amakhono omphakathi okuqinile (njengokulalela, ukuxoxisana, noma ukulungisa amaphutha), nge ukuzihlonipha intekenteke kakhudlwana futhi kancane ukuzethemba ekwenzeni izinqumo. Isiqondiso esinenhlonipho sibasiza ukuba baqonde izizathu zemithetho, bazibophezele, futhi bathuthuke ukuqina ebusweni bobunzima bansuku zonke.
Qonda ingane yakho ngokuziqonda wena kuqala
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abazali bakwazi ukucabanga ngendlela abaziphatha ngayo nezingane zabo nokuthi bayihlaziye ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo ebuntwaneni, bacabange ukuthi kungayilimaza kanjani imfundo yezingane zabo ngokususelwa empilweni yabo. Ngalo mqondo, kubaluleke kakhulu funa usizo kuchwepheshe uma ungazi ukuthi ungasisebenzisa kanjani isiyalo esihle ekhaya.
Ukusebenza ngokwakho kubalulekile: ukuzithiba kwemizwa yabantu abadala Kwenza umehluko. Ngaphambi kokungenelela, phefumula, usho lokho okuzwayo, bese unquma ngokuthula ukuthi wenze kanjani. Sungula ukuzinakekela (lala, isikhathi sakho, ukucela ukusekelwa) kuzokuvumela ukuthi uphendule uzwela nokuqinaukugwema ukusabela okungalindelekile okungalimaza isibopho.
Futhi buza ngezinkolelo zakho: ingabe uhlobanisa isiyalo nesijeziso noma nokufundisa? Ukushintsha lowo mbono kwenza kube lula ukusuka ekulawuleni uye umhlahlandlelaUma ungazi ukuthi uqhubeke kanjani, thembela ezinsizeni ezinokwethenjelwa namasu aphathekayo.izivumelwano, isimiso(izinketho ezilinganiselwe, imiphumela enengqondo). Ngokulungisa okuncane, okuqhubekayo, isimo somkhaya siba ngcono ngokuphawulekayo.
Dala isibopho esihle somzali nengane ngokuzethemba
Ukwethembana nezingane kwakhiwa kusukela ngesikhathi ingane izalwa, lapho abazali behlangana njalo ukuhlangabezana nezidingo zomzimba nezingokomzwelo zengane yabo. Ngokuyala okuyikho Amasu anjengalawa alandelayo adinga ukusetshenziswa ukuvimbela ukungqubuzana, ukuphambukisa ukunaka ekuziphatheni okungafanele nokuqondisa izingane ukuba zibalekele ingozi noma zibhekane nezimo eziveza ukwesaba noma ukukhathazeka.
Ezinye izinqubo ezilula eziqinisa ukuxhumana yilezi isikhathi sokudlala nokunakwa okukhethekile (ngisho noma kuyimizuzu eyishumi nje), ukulalela ngenkuthalo nokuqinisekisa imizwa: “Ngiyaqonda ukuthi ukhungathekile, nginawe. Masithole isixazululo.” Lokhu kuxhumana ngaphambi kokulungisa kwenza izingane zizizwe iphephile futhi iyaziswa, futhi kanjalo nihlanganyele kalula.
Imingcele evikelayo nayo yakha ukwethembana. Chaza izizathu zemithetho, lindela izimo ezinzima, futhi uvumelana ngemithetho ecacile Sebenzisa amagama alula. Gwema "ngoba ngishilo" bese ushintshela kokuthi "ngoba siyanakekelana futhi lokhu kusiza wonke umuntu." Lapho izinto ziphuma esandleni, sebenzisa i- isikhathi esihle sokuphuma (iphelezelwa futhi iqondiswe) ukuze ingane iphinde izole, esikhundleni sokumhlukanisa njengesijeziso.
Siza ukuqonda umhlaba
Kuyadingeka ukuthi abazali basize izingane zabo zihlole umhlaba ngamehlo abo, ukuze abazali bazwelane nezingane zabo futhi baqonde ukuthi bangathola kanjani imizwa ehlukeneKumele futhi babavumele baqonde imiphumela yemvelo yezenzo zabo ukuze abantwana ngokwemvelo bafunde ngokwenzeka eduze kwabo.
Imiphumela yemvelo (ukuthi lokho okunengqondo ngokwakho kuyenzeka) kanye imiphumela enengqondo (Kuvunyelwene, kuhlobene, kunenhlonipho, futhi kunengqondo) kufundisa kangcono kunokujezisa. Isibonelo, uma echitha amanzi, ubamba iqhaza lungisa umonakalo ukomisa phansi; uma ingane ingahlanzi ngesikhathi, igeyimu iphinda iqale lapho itshelwa. Ngale ndlela, ingane ixhuma ukuziphatha nemiphumela futhi ifunde. umthwalo wemfanelo.
Ikhuthaza ukuxazululwa kwezinkinga ngemibuzo eshukumisa ingqondo: “Iziphi izinketho esinazo?”, “Iyiphi ocabanga ukuthi ingasiza kakhulu njengamanje?”. Le ndlela ikhuthaza ukucabanga okubucayi, ubuciko kanye ukwenza izinqumoLapho izingane zizizwa ziyingxenye yesixazululo, ziba nokubambisana okwengeziwe futhi oziqashile ukubhekana nezinselele ezintsha.
Uzoqonda ukuziphatha kwabo
Lapho ingane inokuziphatha okungafanele kuzohlala kunesidingo esijulile emuva lapho kuzodingeka ukuthola ukukuqonda nokwenza lokho, Kungale ndlela kuphela lapho ingane ingasizwa ekutholeni inhlalakahle engokomzwelo eyidinga kakhulu.
Ukuziphatha kuwumlayezo. Izingane zivame ukufuna ukuba yingxenye futhi uzizwe ubalulekileFuthi uma bengayitholi indlela efanele, basebenzisa amasu angenalusizo (ukufuna ukunaka, imidlalo yamandla, ukuzwakalisa ubuhlungu, ukuyeka). Isiyalo esihle sisimema ukuba sibheke izinto. ngale kwesibonakaliso futhi uphendule esidingweni sangempela ngoxhumano, isiqondiso, nokuzijwayeza kwamakhono.
Esikhundleni sokulebula (“uhlala wenza…”, “awusoze…”), chaza okubonayo kanye ifundisa ikhono elingekhoUkulinda ithuba labo, ukucela usizo, ukubekezelela ukukhungatheka, nokulungisa. Ngokubekezela, ukuphindaphinda, nokungaguquguquki, ingane ihlanganisa izinsiza ezintsha zomzwelo nezokuziphatha. Lokhu kunciphisa ukucasuka, kuthuthukisa ukuxhumana nomphakathi, futhi kuqinisa ukuzethemba.
Uyisibonelo sabo
Kubalulekile ukuthi ungalibali iqiniso lokuthi izingane zifunda ngesibonelo Kubazali babo, yingakho kubalulekile ukuthi ulwele ukuba yisibonelo esihle kakhulu sezenzo ezinhle kanye nobudlelwano nalabo abaseduze kwakho. Okwenzayo noma okushoyo kuzoba uthisha omkhulu wengane yakho.
Uma uphendula esimweni esifaka izingane zakho ngengcindezi enkulu, ukukhathazeka, intukuthelo, ubuhlungu noma ukusabela okungalingani, ungalimaza unomphela ubuhlobo futhi kuzothatha isikhathi ukuxhumana kabusha ngokomzwelo nezingane zakho. Ngalo mqondo, kudingekile impela ukuthi abazali bakwazi ukulawula imizwa emibi kunoma yisiphi isimo phambi kwezingane zabo (kunoma yisiphi isikhathi). Udinga ukusebenzisa uzwela nenhlonipho ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuze ugcine ubuhlobo obuhle.
Kufanele udale indawo enhle, lapho ukuxhumana, uzwela nokuqina kuyizinto eziyinhloko ezibalulekile. Ungalokothi uphoqe ingane yakho ukuthi ixolise kuze kube yilapho isilungele ukwenza kanjalo, nikeza izinketho ukuze ikwazi ukukhetha ukuthi yenzeni ngesikhathi esithile futhi ihlale izama ukuqonda imizwa enamandla ... khumbula ukuthi ungumqondisi wayo.
Lingisa okulindele: khuluma kahle (“Ngicela uhambe kancane”) esikhundleni sokugxila kulokho ongafuni bakwenze; xolisa uma wenze iphutha futhi ukulungisa (“Ngizozama ngenye indlela”). Sebenzisa ithoni ezolile nokuma okuvulekile: umthetho wakho Uveza ukuzola futhi ufundisa ukuphatha izikhathi ezinzima. Ngalesi sibonelo, izingane zifunda inhlonipho, ukubambisana, kanye ukuzithiba.
Insiza esebenzayo yezikhathi zansuku zonke: uma bengafuni ukuqoqa kahle, qinisekisa imizwa yabo (“Ngiyazi ukuthi ufuna ukuqhubeka nokudlala”) futhi unikeze izinketho ezibambekayo (“Ungathanda ukuqala ngamabhulokhi noma ngezimoto?”). Uma kwehla izinyembezi, nikeza ukusekela futhi usho imizwa (“Uthukuthele kakhulu; ngiyakuzwela”). Le nhlanganisela ye uzwela nemingcele uguqula izingxabano zibe amathuba okufunda.
Izimiso zesiyalo esihle
Uma nobabili wena nalabo abasondelene nawe nisebenzisa isiyalo esihle ukuze nisize izingane nentsha emfundweni yazo, niyobona ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani konke. Kuyadingeka ukulandela lezi zimiso ngesiyalo esihle ukuze imindeni ifundise ngezimiso ezinhle:
- Siza ingane yakho ukuthi izwe ukuxhumana kwayo nomndeni kanye nemvelo eseduzane.
- Siza ingane yakho izizwe ibalulekile.
- Khuthaza ukuhloniphana ngokuqinile nangobumnene ngasikhathi sinye. Ukuguquguquka kuyimfihlo.
- Hlala ukhumbula ukuthi ingane yakho icabangani, izizwa kanjani, ifunda futhi ithathe isinqumo ngaye ukuze yazi okufanele ikwenze nokuthi izomqondisa kanjani ngokuzayo.
- Ukufundisa amakhono ezenhlalo nawokuphila kubalulekile ukuthi ubafundise nsuku zonke (inhlonipho, ukunakekela abanye, ukuxhumana, ukubambisana nokuxazulula izinkinga).
- Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi yazi amakhono ayo aphelele namakhono ayo.
Ukusebenzisa lezi zimiso, Khumbula amaphuzu athile ayisihluthulelo:
- Xhuma ngaphambi kokulungisa: Babheke emehlweni, wehlele ezingeni labo, futhi ubonise ukuqonda. Ukuxhumana kuvula umnyango wokubambisana.
- Imingcele ecacile futhi engaguquki: Zimbalwa, ezifanele, futhi ziphindaphindwa ngokuzola. Imithetho kuvunyelwana ngayo, ikhunjulwe, futhi isetshenziswe ngaphandle kokumemeza.
- Imiphumela enengqondo esikhundleni sezijeziso: ezihlobene nokuziphatha, inhlonipho futhi igxile ekulungiseni, hhayi ukulimaza.
- Imiyalo emihle: Yisho ukuthi yini engenziwa futhi ucacise ukuthi kanjani. Lokhu kuqondisa isenzo futhi kunciphisa ukuphikiswa.
- Ukubamba iqhaza kwengane: Inikeza izinketho ezilinganiselwe, imbandakanye ekufuneni izixazululo futhi igubhe umzamo, hhayi umphumela kuphela.
- Imibuthano yomndeni: Izikhathi ezimfushane zokulalela wonke umuntu, nivumelane ngemithetho, nihlele, futhi nivume ukuqhubeka. Bakhuthaza umuzwa wokuba ngabangane.
- Ukuzinakekela kwabantu abadala: Ukuzola kwakho kuyithuluzi lokufundisa. Beka kuqala imigudu ekusiza ukuthi uphendule, ungasabeli.
Ukuhlanganisa lo mbono kunomthelela kuwo wonke umndeni: ukumemeza kancaneUkubambisana okwengeziwe, izingxabano zixazululwa ngezingxoxo, kanye nendawo lapho ilungu ngalinye lizizwa libonwa, laziswa, futhi linekhono. Isiyalo esihle akukhona ukuyekelela: Kuwukuqina ngenhloniphoimingcele ekhulisayo futhi efundisayo, kanye nobudlelwano obuba yisisekelo esivikelekile lapho izingane zikhula khona ngokuzethemba, ukuzimela, namakhono okuphila.
Ukwamukela le ndlela kuguqula okuhlangenwe nakho kokubili izingane kanye nabantu abadala: ngokubeka phambili ukuxhumana, ukubeka imingcele enenhlonipho, nokufundisa amakhono angokomzwelo nawezenhlalo, ukuphilisana kuyathuthukaKunciphisa ukucindezeleka kwansuku zonke futhi kwakha isibopho esiqinile esihlala phakade.
