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Ukuphumula kukamama lapho ekhulelwe kuyinto engokwengqondo. Lapho owesifazane esekhefini lokuyobeletha, uyabona ukuthi ukuba ngumama kungumsebenzi ongakhokhelwa ohlala usuku lonke onyakeni. Asikho isikhathi samakhefu.
Uvuka ekuseni wazi ukuthi kufanele unikele ngakho konke ukuze ukhulise izingane. Ukuba ngumama (futhi ikakhulukazi umama omusha) kudinga umzamo oqhubekayo ngesivinini esikhulu. Izimpelasonto zingabonakala zide kakhulu futhi ngoMsombuluko ungakhathala kakhulu kunangoLwesihlanu ntambama.
Kuyadingeka ukuthi ube nempilo ehleleke kahle enezakhiwo ezinhle ukuze ukwazi ukufinyelela kukho konke. Awukwazi ukuhoxa ngokomzimba ezinganeni zakho, ngakho-ke ukususa ingqondo yakho kuwo wonke umsebenzi ongokomzwelo odingwa ukuba ngumama kunzima. Noma ungaqasha umuntu ogcina ingane ukuze ube nentambama wedwa, uzoba ngumama, ngoba ukuba yinye kuyinto ehlala isikhathi eside. Uma ufuna ukuphuma nomlingani wakho ebusuku futhi ushiye izingane zakho zinakekelwa umuntu omethembayo, kudinga nokuhleleka, ukulungiselela nokulindela izingqinamba ezingaba khona.
Umama ushubile
Nezingane noma unazo empilweni yakho, ukuba ngumama kukhulu kakhulu. Izingane nazo zidinga ukunakekelwa okuqhubekayo nokulinganisa umama ngomsebenzi futhi impilo yakho iyonke inzima, noma kungenzeki, kunjalo. Kepha uma ubona ukuthi ukukhathala kukuthatha nokuthi ubusesimeni esingesihle isikhathi eside futhi ukhathazekile, kungenxa yokuthi umzimba nengqondo yakho kukutshela ukuthi udinga 'iholide' ngokushesha.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele ugibele isitimela uye kude, futhi akusho ukuthi kufanele uthathe indiza yokuqala ukuya epharadesi lesiqhingi uwedwa. Cha, Akuhlangene ngalutho nakho. Unezibopho njengomama okufanele uzifeze nsuku zonke. Kepha kufanele ube nekhefu lengqondo ngenxa yakho, futhi ukukholelwe noma ungakukholwa, nezingane zakho. Bafanelwe ngumama ophumulile, onelisekile futhi ojabulayo, ngoba yile ndlela ongabakhulisa ngayo ngendlela engcono kakhulu.
Enye indlela yokuqala ukwehlisa okulindele kuwe bese uvumela umlingani wakho noma amanye amalungu omndeni ukuthi athathe izintambo ngezikhathi ezithile. Khulula isikhathi sakho nobuchopho bakho ukuze uvuselele amabhethri akho. Uma uzwa ukuthi udinga iholide kepha awukwazi ukuya noma kuphi, ungakhathazeki, kunezindlela zokulithola ukuze ukwazi ukulinganisa ingaphakathi lakho nokuthi inhlalakahle yakho ayilimazi.
Ungaba kanjani neholide ekubelethweni kwakho
Chazela umndeni wakho ukuthi unjani bese ucela usizo
Ungachazela umlingani wakho ukuthi kuzofanele benze okungaphezu kwesabelo sabo, bahlele isikhathi ukuze nobabili nibe nemithwalo yemfanelo ekhaya nokuthi yini eningayenza ukuthuthukisa ukuqwashisa njengomndeni nokuthi ningazithwesi umthwalo ngayo yonke into ekhaya. Ngokwesibonelo, ungacela umlingani wakho ukuthi kube nguye owenza ukudla izinsuku ezimbalwa ngesonto noma ukuya esitolo uyothenga ukudla okudingekayo kwesonto.
Kwesinye isikhathi ukuphumula nje emithwalweni yakho yansuku zonke (noma ngabe akuyona yonke) kungakusiza unqamule futhi ube nesikhathi sokuzivuselela ngokomzwelo.
Yiba nesikhathi sokuphumula
Ungakhetha intambama yokuya endlini kanyoko uma unethuba lokwenza kanjalo futhi ngaleyo ndlela ujabulele isikhathi sakho nomndeni wakho. Ungakhetha intambama ozoyiqoqa nomndeni wakho, ngakho-ke, lapho ubuyela ekhaya ungaba nawo wonke lawo mandla obewasebenzise phakathi nesonto. Uzozwa ukuthi bayakunakekela esikhundleni sokuthi ube yisikhathi sonke unakekela abanye. Lokhu ngeke kwenze noma ngubani azizwe kabi!
Cabanga ngesikhathi lapho izingane zisesikoleni
Uma ungasebenzi ekuseni, ungakhetha isikhashana ngenkathi abancane besesikoleni ukwenza into oyithandayo futhi ekwenza uzizwe kahle. Kungaba ukufunda, ukuzivocavoca umzimba, noma nje ngihleli phambi kwe-TV ngibuka izindaba futhi ngikwazi ukuzilalela buthule Labo abahlala nezingane bayazi ukuthi ukubukela ithelevishini noma ukuxoxa nabanye abantu abadala kuyinto enhle.
Uma usebenza ekuseni, ungakhetha isikhathi lapho izingane zakho zisemsebenzini wesikole esengeziwe noma lapho zilala kancane. Isikhathi sokuthula sibaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Cabanga kuphela lapho ungathola lokho kuncipha kwengqondo okuncane. Ezimweni eziningi kuba lapho izingane sezivele sezilele.
Beka phambili izinto ezibaluleke ngempela
Udinga nokuthi ufunde ukubeka phambili lokho okufanele ukwenze namuhla ngoba akukwazi ukulinda nokuthi yini ongayibekela ikusasa. Udinga ukwenza lokhu ngoba uma uzama ukwenza izinto eziningi ukwedlula lokho ongakwenza ngempela, uzozimela ngokweqile ngokucabanga ngakho konke osele ukukwenza futhi uzokhungatheka ukuthi awukafiki kukho konke ngemuva kosuku olunzima engami.
Ngalesi sizathu, Kungumqondo omuhle futhi ukubhala phansi yonke into obeka phambili ukuyenza nokuthi yini engabalulekile kangako. Ukwehlukanisa izinto ozenzayo kuzokunikeza ukwaneliseka okuthile futhi uzozizwa ungcono.
Ungahluleli okwenziwayo ungekho
Kungenzeka ukuthi uma ungekho phambi kwezinto ngoba uphumule awunahluleli ukuthi benzani uma ungekho. Isibonelo, uma usebhavini bese umlingani wakho ethatha izingane zakho amnike nesidlo ngaphandle kokubonisana nawe, ungamgxeki ngemuva kwalokho uma wawungavumelananga phambilini ukuthi yini eyayizonikezwa izingane zakho. Umlingani wakho naye uyakwazi ukwenza izinto kahle, noma ngabe akuyona indlela yakho.
Futhi-ke, ungazizwa unecala ngokudinga ukuphuka kwengqondo.