Sonke sifuna ukuba bahle njalo, kodwa ubuhle buhlala buhlobene Futhi kwesinye isikhathi, kuya ngomcimbi, ukuthi ukubukeka kwethu kufanelekile noma cha kunganquma ukuthi abanye, noma nathi uqobo, babukeka noma ababukeki bebahle.
Kodwa-ke, le yincazelo yobuhle yobuhle, ukuba muhle ngesikhathi esithile, esikhathini nesikhathi. Empeleni, Yini esingayenza ukuze sihlale sibahle?Yini ngempela enhle?
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Muhle.
Kusuka lat. vappa 'isikhohlakali, isigelekeqe'; cf. 'indoda exabanayo' ebukekayo.
- isi-adj. Ukubukeka kahle.
- isi-adj. Uzilungisile, ugqoke kahle.
- isi-adj. colloq. Unesibindi, uyinqaba futhi uzimisele, uyazidelela izingozi azenze.
- isi-adj. colloq. U. ngokuzikhandla, engenalutho, njengesibonakaliso sothando, kwesinye isikhathi ngokuthimula noma ngezwi lokucasuka. Thula kancane, muhle.
Okusho ukuthi, uma sinaka i-etymology yaleli gama, ukuba muhle kuhlobene kakhulu nomlingiswa okhulumayo, onempilo nozimisele kunangezici ezinhle noma usayizi esiwugqokayo.
Ingabe lokho kusho ukuthi akufanele ugcobe izimonyo noma ugqoke kahle ukuze ube muhle?
Kusho ukuthi akudingeki ngokuphelele, ngoba ngaphakathi kwezincazelo kungena ukubukeka okuhle nokuzilungisa kahle noma ukugqoka kahle. Okubalulekile ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi ukuba muhle kuhlobene nomlingiswa wakho. Udinga ukuba nesibindi futhi ujabulise, owesifazane obandayo nodabukisayo, akayona ngempela intokazi enhle.
Into ebaluleke ngempela ukuba muhle ukuzizwa umuhle ngawe. Ukuze ube muhle udinga ukuzijabulisa futhi uhlanganyele ngendlela enempilo nezingane zakho, nozakwenu, nabangani bakho kanye nabantu osebenza nabo.
Ungaba muhle ngamabhulukwe nehembe ehhovisi, noma ngezingubo ezindala kakhulu ongazithola usekhaya udlala nabancane futhi udweba. Umlingani wakho ngeke akhathalele ukuthi ugqoka amasilika noma ukotini, inqobo nje uma zikwenza uzizwe kahle futhi ufuna ukubukeka kahle enkampanini yazo.
Kusukela ukhulelwe, umzimba wakho usushintshe kakhulu kangangoba awuzizwa ukhululekile uma uzidinga.
Akunandaba ukuthi umzimba wakho ushintsha kangakanani, kubalulekile ukuthi uwunakekele lowo mzimba nokuzethemba kwakho ngaphezu kokubukeka kwakho.
Ukukhulelwa kusishintsha ngaphakathi nangaphandle, asiseyena lowo muntu owayengenazo izingane futhi kufanele samukele ukuthi lokhu kufaka nezinguquko zomzimba. Kwesinye isikhathi kube nezinguquko zesikhashana, ngoba kukhona ukudla kanye nokuzivocavoca umzimba okungakusiza, uma kungenjalo ukuthi ubukeke kufana nokwangaphambili, okungenani ukuze uzizwe ungcono ngawe.
Kungani kubalulekile ukuzizwa njengomama omuhle?
Ngoba izingane zethu zizofunda esibonelweni sethu, futhi ukuzethemba kwakho kuzoxhunyaniswa nokuthi sibabonisa kanjani ukuthi sizizwa ngathi. Uma sivumela ingcindezi yezenhlalo esitshela ukuthi sikhuluphele kakhulu noma siwumzimba omncane noma side noma sifushane, nabo bazobanjalo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane izwe ukuthi imvelo yabo enobungane, imidlalo yabo nenjabulo iyahlonishwa kwazise imfundo yabo iqala kusukela ekuzalweni futhi ubuhle babo buyingxenye yobuntu babo ngakho-ke yilolo hlobo. Uma sivusa iphrojekthi yokufundisa kaRousseau, kubalulekile ukuthi sigqamise isimangalo sakhe sokuhlonipha imvelo yomuntu enkululekweni nasekuzenzeleni kwayo. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi izingane zakho zibe nesibonelo esifanele, ukuthi uyihloniphe inkululeko yakho nokuthi uzenzele yona ngokwakho. Kubalulekile ekukhuleni kwabo futhi, yilokho ubuhle bangempela obuqukethe, ukuba yimvelo, ngokwakho, ukujabula nokwaneliseka ngokubukeka kwabo nempilo yabo.
Kepha ukuthi ngibukeka ngimuhle akusho ukuthi nabanye bazokukwenza
Akunjalo neze, ngenxa yezizathu ezilandelayo:
- Indodana yakho iyohlala icabanga ukuthi ungumama omuhle kunabo bonke emhlabeni, ngoba ubona kuwe bonke lobo buhle obukhona kuzo zonke izenzo ezinhle onazo naye.
- Umlingani wakho uzokubona umuhle ngesizathu esifanayo, ngoba ubona zonke izenzo zothando onazo futhi uyakwazisa, lokho kumenza akubone njengowesifazane omuhle kunabo bonke emhlabeni.
- Abangani bakho bazokubona umuhle ngoba ubenza babe nezikhathi ezimnandi futhi ngoba bayabona ukuthi nawe usezikhathini ezimbi.
Ngoba kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi ukuba muhle kungaphezu kwezinwele ezinhle, ubuso bukadoli, nemilenze yokubulala. Ukuze ube muhle ngempela, kufanele ube nguwe futhi ukujabulele.