Ngokungena esikoleni, izingane ziqala ukwakha ubungani bazo bokuqala. Kungenzeka ukuthi kusukela eminyakeni emithathu uqale ukubiza abanye ngokuthi 'abangani'. Izingane ziqala ukuqonda ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba nobudlelwano nabanye nokuthi kunabantu abangazwana kangcono nabo kunokunye. Ubungani bokuqala nabangane bokuqala empilweni yezingane zakho bayazalwa.
Abangane, njengoba nje bekwazi ukudlala, bangaba nokungaqondi okujwayelekile besebancane. Abafana namantombazane abaneminyaka engu-3 no-4 ubudala bazicabangela bona bodwa futhi banemizwa kakhulu ngakho-ke kuyinto ejwayelekile kubo ukuba nobudlelwano 'benzondo yothando' nontanga yabo. Kepha ungayisiza kanjani ingane yakho encane yakhe ubungani obuhle?
Ubungane obusenkulisa yesikole ngokuvamile bunedrama eningi kunamanoveli wehora lesine. Iningi labantwana abaneminyaka emithathu nemine ubudala bakhathazeka ngokuba nabangane, kepha futhi kungenzeka ukuthi bacabanga ngokuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba nomngane omuhle. Izingane ezikule minyaka zingatshela enye ingane ukuthi zingumngane wazo omkhulu futhi umzuzu ezingazitshela ukuthi ziye emcimbini wazo wokuzalwa futhi ngosuku olulandelayo zingathukuthela nganoma yisiphi isizathu, kodwa kuzohlala imizuzwana emibili ngaphambi kokuba zidlale futhi.
Kule minyaka, izingane zinothando olukhulu futhi ziyathanda ukuba ndawonye nabangane bazo., kodwa futhi bayathanda ukuphikisana futhi babe neqiniso. Konke lokhu kudinga ukubhekelelwa ukusiza izingane ezisencane zakhe izibopho eziqinile, ezinempilo. Ngakho-ke, ungaba umhlahlandlela omuhle ukuze babe nobudlelwano obunempilo nokuthi bazizwe bejabule nabangane ababenzayo kukho konke ukuphila kwabo.
Khuluma ngemizwa njalo
Abasafunda esikoleni baqala ukuqonda ukuthi abanye abantu banemicabango nemizwa engahluka kweyabo. Leli yikhono elisha elivumela izingane zasenkulisa ukuba zikhulise futhi ziduduze umngane lapho zinenkinga… ziqala ukuzwelana. Uzwela kufanele lunakekelwe kusuka kule minyaka ngoba kuyadingeka ukukwazi ukwakha ubudlelwano obuqinile nobuhlala njalo.
Ngenkathi izingane ezincane zingabheka kunina ukuthi ziduduze enye ingane ekhalayo, izingane ezineminyaka emithathu nengane ziyaqaphela ukuthi umngane wazo uzothanda unina kunanoma imuphi umuntu omdala. Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi lapho abazali bekhuluma ngemizwa njalo njengoba ivela empilweni yangempela, kumamuvi, noma ezincwadini, izingane ziyakwazi ukusebenza ngozwela ngaphakathi futhi zicabange umbono ongcono wabanye. Bafunda ukuqonda imizwa yabanye nokuzibeka ezicathulweni zabanye abantu.
Ukukwazi ukuzibeka ngombono wabanye yisisekelo esiyisisekelo sobungani. Ungakhuluma nezingane ngezinto ezinjengokuthi: 'Uyesaba ngoba akakaze akwenze lokhu phambilini' noma mhlawumbe: 'Uyajabula ngoba umngani wakhe wabelane naye ngemibala yokudweba ndawonye'.
Hlela izikhathi zokudlala nezingane
Ukudlala ndawonye kuyithuba elihle lokuthi izingane zizwane, ngakho-ke ukuhlela isikhathi sokudlala kuwumqondo omuhle wazo ukuthi ziqale ukusebenza ngezibopho zazo ezingokomzwelo. Yize amaqembu amakhulu emidlalo engaba mnandi kakhulu, ingane yakho ingajabulela kakhulu uma uhlela isikhathi sokudlala nenye ingane eyodwa. Abasafunda esikoleni banezintandokazi zezingane ezithile kunezinye, ngakho-ke angafuna ukunquma ukuthi imuphi umngane afuna ukumumemela endlini yakhe azodlala.
Lapho abancane beneminyaka emithathu nengane ubudala, kuyisikhathi esihle kubo ukuthi bathokozele umdlalo ongokomfanekiso futhi bakwazi ukulingisa izigcawu eziyinkimbinkimbi zokucabanga. Bangaba nobumnandi belwa nabanye njengokungathi bayizimpi, ngokuba odokotela bezilwane ... noma yimuphi umdlalo omele iqiniso lomuntu omdala ngumdlalo omuhle kubo.
Ngoba izingane zazana kahle impela lapho zenza ubungani, zizokwazi ukuxhumanisa kahle emidlalweni engokomfanekiso, kangangoba uma ubuka isikhashana uzomangala ngenhlangano yazo. Thina bantu abadala kufanele sifunde emakhonweni abo.
Lapho uhlela i-aphoyintimenti yengane yakho ukuthi idlale nenye ingane phakathi kwehora nengxenye namahora amabili ingaphezu kokwanele ukuthi bakhe izibopho eziqinile ezingokomzwelo. Yize bebonakala bezwana bodwa ngokungenasidingo, iqiniso ukuthi kuwumsebenzi onzima kubo ukwenza abangane. Ngakho-ke kungcono ukuqeda usuku oluhleliwe ngenothi eliphakeme kunokulinda izingane zikhathele futhi zingemnandi emoyeni, okuthile okungathinta izibopho zazo zobungani.
Fundisa uzwela
Yize izingane zasenkulisa zifunda ukuba nozwela, kwesinye isikhathi zingabazwela abanye. Izingane zivame ukucabanga ukuthi ezinye izingane zicabanga ngendlela efanayo, kepha lapho umngane engakwenzi lokho akufunayo bangazizwa bethukuthele futhi bengasafuni ukuba umngane wakho - okwesikhashana.
Izingane zingaxoxa ngezinto, ukuthi ubani ozogibela ngaphambi kokunikeza ibhayisikili, noma yimuphi umlingiswa azommela emdlalweni ongokomfanekiso. Bangakwazi futhi ukukhipha ezinye izingane emdlalweni ... lokhu kwenzeka ngoba befuna ukuvikela indawo yabo noma ngoba bekhungatheka lapho bezama ukuhlanganisa umdlalo futhi kuvele izingane eziningi, futhi lokhu kungalinganisi ukuhleleka kwabo komdlalo.
Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuthi ibingelele abangane bayo, ithi ngicela futhi ngiyabonga, ukuze ikwazi ukushintshana futhi yabelane nabanye. Uma ulwa nenye ingane, kubalulekile ukuthi uchaze ukuthi uzizwa kanjani umngani wakho bese ubuza ukuthi yini ongayenza ukusiza umngani wakho azizwe engcono. Uma ubona ukuthi akazi ukuthi enze njani, ungasiqondisa kabusha isimo futhi nenze nobabili nizizwe kahle.