Abazali abaningi bakhathazekile ngokuthi bangakuthola kanjani ukwethenjwa izingane zabo, ikakhulukazi lapho iminyaka yobusha isondela. Kepha lokho kuthenjwa kufanele kwakhiwe kusenesikhathi ukuze kube ne- isibopho senhlonipho nokusondela, lapho izingane zethu zizizwa ziphephile ukusitshela izinto ezibathintayo noma ezingaphendukela kithi uma zinenkinga.
Kuhle ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuqala ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Sikushiya nochungechunge lwezeluleko esizishiya lapha ezakho ubuhlobo abazali-izingane babe ngaphezulu kusuka kuwe kuwe, futhi wakhe ukwethembana okudingekayo ekuxhumaneni okushelelayo.
Abazali ababona abangane
Emzameni omkhulu wabazali wokusondela ezinganeni zabo, abanye bazenza "ozakwabo" babo. Izingane sezivele zinabangani abenele, ezikudinga kuwe kungenye into. Bayakudinga ukuze ube isibonelo segunya eliseduze nolwazi. Ungazibeki ezingeni labo noma uzolahlekelwa yinhlonipho yabo.
Njengoba izingane zethu zikhula baba nokuzimela ngokwengeziwe. Abasasidingi ukuthi sibatshele ukuthi bazogqokani noma bazolala ngasiphi isikhathi. Ukuzama ukuqhubeka ubaphatha njengezingane kuzomisa ukuxhumana kuphela futhi kube yi-monosyllabic.
La okuza kuqala kubo bonke abazali Ukuba nobudlelwano obuhle nezingane zakho ukusebenza ekukhulumisaneni okunamanzi. Yize le ngxenye iyinkimbinkimbi nobusha. Akukona ukuba ngqongqo kakhulu noma ukubekezela kakhulu. Imayelana nokufinyelela kufayela le- indawo emaphakathi yokwethembana, igunya nokuhloniphana.
Amathiphu okugwema
- Ungenzi imibuzo- Akekho othanda ukubuzwa njalo ngezinto ezingakuthandi. Mbuze ngezihloko ezingamthakazelisar futhi umbonise ukuthi uyakuhlonipha akuthandayo noma ungakwenzi.
- Ungenzi ama-monologue: Kuhle ukuthi sikhulume nezingane zethu kodwa kungcono kakhulu ukwazi ukuthi ulalela kanjani. Kumele kube khona izingxoxo ezimbili. Ezikhathini eziningi ingane yakho izofuna ukukhuluma nawe kodwa uma ibona ukuthi ayivunyelwe ukukhuluma, izobeka umgoqo futhi ngeke isho lutho.
- Ungahluleli: Nansi iza ingxenye enzima. Njengabazali sicabanga ukuthi sazi konke okuhle nokubi okulungele izingane zethu. Singamajaji nabakhiphi bezahlulelo yakho konke okwenzekayo, futhi senza izahlulelo zenani ngaphandle kokubuzwa. Okudala lokhu ukuhlukaniswa ngokwesaba ukwahlulelwa.
Amathiphu okwenza ukwethenjwa izingane zethu
- Amagugu okubalulekile kuwe- Bamba iqhaza ezintweni azithandayo nasezintweni azithandayo, ube nentshisekelo kulokho okubalulekile kuye. Ungabheka futhi izinto eningazenza ndawonye futhi enizithandayo nonke.
- Nika isibonelo: Izingane zifunda okuningi kulokho ezikubonayo kunalokho okubonakala ngathi. Ngakho-ke uma ufuna ukudlulisa ukuzola, ukuqiniseka nokuzwela kufanele ukukhuthaze ekhaya lakho ngaphambi ndawo.
- I-Atención: imizuzu embalwa ngosuku kuyadingeka ukusondela kubo, ubabuze ukuthi bazizwa kanjani noma ngezinto abazithandayo.
- Ukwelulekwa ukuthi ungahloliwe: kuhlobene kakhulu nengxenye ye- "hhayi ukwahlulela". Abazali kufanele baphefumule futhi balawule amagama ethu, kungenjalo kuzosiphendukela.
- Hlonipha ubumfihlo babo: izingane njengoba zikhula badinga ukuba nesikhala sabo siqu lapho ongathuthukisa khona ubuntu bakho. Kumele uhloniphe ukuthi kunezinto ezingafuni ukutshela. Sonke sike saba yintsha ngesikhathi esisodwa nokuthi kunzima kanjani ukuba munye.
- Yihlanganise nempilo yakho: umenze abambe iqhaza empilweni yakho, mbuze umbono wakhe ngezinqumo okufanele uzithathe, ubone ukuthi uyamcabangela nokuthi uyalazisa iqhaza lakhe. Ukuze ukudala isimo sokwethembana kufanele kube nokuvumelana.
- Batshele iqiniso: asikwazi ukucela okuthile uma singakuniki thina. Uma sifuna ukwethenjwa futhi sitshelwe iqiniso, nathi kuzofanele sikwenze. Awukwazi ukwethemba umuntu okuqambela amanga noma ukugodlela imininingwane ngisho "ukuze kuzuze wena." Akudingeki unikeze yonke imininingwane, kepha kunalokho khuluma iqiniso.
Zonke lezi zeluleko zinento eyodwa ezifanayo: dala isimo sokuxhumana okuvulekile ekhaya lakho, lapho wonke umuntu ezizwa ekhululekile ukuveza imizwa yakhe.
Ngoba khumbula ... uma umethemba, uzokuthemba.