Ukukhishwa kobukhokho, kuyadingeka?

Izingane zidinga ogogo nomkhulu bazo futhi zibathanda kakhulu abazukulu bazo. Kujwayelekile ukuthi ogogo nomkhulu 'batotobele' abazukulu babo, indima yokufundisa ngabazali. Kepha ogogo nomkhulu baphinde badlulise izimfundiso nezindinganiso ezinhle kubazukulu babo ezibaluleke kakhulu. Kuyadingeka kuphela ukuthi kubekwe imingcele ukuze izingane zingasizakali ngesimo sogogo nomkhulu wabo kanye nomusa wabo.

Lapho izingane zichitha isikhathi nogogo nomkhulu wazo, ungaqaphela ukuthi ngemuva kwalokho isimilo sazo asifanele, siyisidina futhi siyadlubulunda, futhi asilaleli! Bangafuna kubazali babo izinto ngokuvamile ogogo nomkhulu babo abanika zona njengamaswidi noma ushokoledi.

Kungathatha isikhashana ukuthi izingane zibone ukuthi akufani nokuba sekhaya kogogo nomkhulu wazo njengalapho zisekhaya kunina noyise. Kepha empeleni, yize kuliqiniso ukuthi ogogo nomkhulu bangakwazi futhi kufanele babe nomusa kakhulu kunabazali, kumele balandele umugqa ofanayo wezemfundo njengabazali bafuna ukusebenzisa ezinganeni zabo ukugwema kwabancane, izimo zokudideka ekuziphatheni kwabo.

Izinyathelo ukuze kungabikho zinkinga nogogo nomkhulu

Kufanele ube nokuqonda

Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi imikhuba emibi ithatha isikhathi ukuyeka ukuyifunda. Kufanele ube nokuqonda ngokuziphatha kwabazali bakho kanye nasezinganeni zakho. Mhlawumbe ingane yakho ibuke ithelevishini eningi endlini kagogo nomkhulu ngoba bekhathele kakhulu ukubanakekela noma ukuyisa epaki.

Ukuthi ubuke ithelevishini isikhathi eside endlini kagogo nomkhulu wakho akusho ukuthi kufanele wephule imithetho maqondana nesikhathi sesikrini ekhaya. Ngakho-ke kuzodingeka ukunciphisa isikhathi sesikrini kancane kancane usuku nosuku. Ungasebenzisa lesi sikhathi ukwenza ezinye izinto nezingane zakho.

Qina

Ogogo nomkhulu abanabazukulu 'abaqinile' ngoba lokho kungumsebenzi wakho njengomzali. Uma kamuva ekhaya izingane zakho zinokuziphatha okudlubulundayo ngemuva kokuba sezikubo kogogo nomkhulu wazo, sebenzisa ukuqina futhi uthando lokuqalisa kabusha imikhawulo nemithetho ekhona ekhaya lakho.

Mhlawumbe, ngokuchitha isikhathi endlini kagogo nomkhulu wabo, izingane zakho azizange zilandele inqubo yazo futhi manje, ekhaya, zifuna ukuziphinda futhi. Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kuzofanele uqine futhi uguquguquke futhi uqonde ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuthi lokhu kujwayelekile nokuthi uzodinga ukubekezela kuphela.

Imiphumela iba ngabalingani bakho

Uma ingane yakho iqhubeka nokuziphatha okudlubulundayo, lapho-ke kuzofanele ubatshele ngomoya ophansi ukuthi uma beqhubeka benokuziphatha okungamukeleki, kuzofanele kube nemiphumela ngokungayinaki imithetho nemikhawulo ekhona ekhaya lakho. Isibonelo, uma ufuna ukungena embhedeni bese uqhubeka nokudlala ngaphandle kokuzwa ukuthi udinga ukubeka izingubo zakho zokulala ngaphambi kokudla, umphumela owodwa ukuthi uzophelelwa yithelevishini ngemuva kokugqoka izingubo zakho zokulala.

Uma incazelo yakho enqunyiwe isaphumela ekuthukutheleni okukhulu, kungahle kube yisikhathi sokuqasha isu elithile lomphumela onzima. Uma kukhulunywa iqiniso, akuyona impi elungile. Vele, izingane zikhetha ogogo nomkhulu kunomama uma kukhulunywa ngezindinganiso eziguquguqukayo. Kepha lokhu akufanele kwesabise inhliziyo yakho, kungumsebenzi wakho ukufundisa izingane zakho ngemikhuba nemikhawulo ukuze ngale ndlela zizizwe ziphephile futhi zivikelekile ngaso sonke isikhathi, futhi, ukuze zazi ukuthi yini elindeleke kuzo.

Ngokwemvelo, izingane zizokulwa nawe ngayo yonke inhlobo yazo yokuba nethemba lokubalekela endaweni lapho amaphupho azo efezeka khona: ekhaya logogo nomkhulu wabo. Imiphumela ingaba isikhali sakho kuphela ngokumelene nabo, njenge, "Yeka ukumemeza uvuke phansi kungenjalo awuyi ukuyobona uGogo kusasa!"

Funa usizo uma kunesidingo

Kwesinye isikhathi ukunqoba okukhulu kakhulu ukuvuma ukwehlulwa ngesikhathi. Kunezikhathi lapho iseluleko sikanyoko noma sikababa (yebo, ogogo nomkhulu bezingane zakho) kungaba ngumlingani wakho omkhulu. Shayela unyoko umcele ngaleso seluleko osidingayo njengamanje.

Uma lokhu kungeyona inketho yakho kepha ufuna ukuthi ukuvakashelwa kogogo nomkhulu kungabi ngumzabalazo oqhubekayo nezingane zakho ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, iya kuchwepheshe ukuze akuqondise ngokuthi izenzo zakho kufanele zibe kanjani ekhaya ucabangele udaba lwakho ngqo, ngakho-ke ingakunika imihlahlandlela eyenziwe yaba ngeyakho.

Khuluma nogogo nomkhulu ukusetha imingcele

Uma ubona ukuthi isimo sesiqala ukuphuma esandleni, ukuthi uhlala ubonakala ungumuntu omubi kumabhayisikobho noma ukuthi ogogo nomkhulu bakho baze bathathe negunya lakho phambi kwezingane zakho… Bese kufanele ulilungise. Esikhundleni sokuthukuthela futhi uxabane nabazali bakho phambi kwezingane zakho, kungcono ukukhuluma nabo ngasese kusuka kuzwelo nasekuqiniseni.

Kwenze kucace ukuthi ubethemba ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye, kodwa ukuthi unendlela yokukhulisa izingane zakho engqondweni futhi kuyadingeka ukuthi babambe iqhaza emigqeni efanayo ukuze kuzuze izingane ezingokomzwelo.

Ngalesi sizathu, Bangaqhubeka nokuba nobudlelwano obufanayo nabazukulu babo futhi babanikeze nokuphatha ngasese uma kubenza bazizwe besondelene nabo. Kepha kunemithetho eminingana ekhaya lakho okumele nayo bayilandele, efana: nezimiso, ukungabi noshukela ngemuva kuka-6 ntambama, badle lokho okudliwa yiwo wonke umuntu (ungazenzeli ukudla okwehlukile kwezingane ngoba nje 'zingakuthandi' okunye ukudla '), ungavumeli imicabango engadingekile noma yokuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo, njll. Lezi yizibonelo ezimbalwa nje zemithetho ongatshela abazali bakho ukuthi bonke balandele umugqa ofanayo, kepha kuzofanela ukuthi uguqule leyo mithetho ihambisane nokuthi ungumzali owenzayo nezingane zakho.

Ngale ndlela, ogogo nomkhulu bazokwazi ukulandela umugqa ofanayo wemfundo owufunela izingane zakho, futhi izingane zizokwazi ukuthi ogogo nomkhulu nabazali bahlala njalo kulayini owodwa, nokuthi bayaziswa ngezinto ezenzekayo lapho abanye bengekho nabanye bayakwenza.