Njengomama, ungazizwa ubugovu njalo lapho uzicabangela wena, kepha udinga ukwenza kanjalo uma ufuna ngempela ukuba ngumama ongcono, unkosikazi ongcono, nomngane omuhle. Mhlawumbe uzwe ukuthi ukuba ngumama kunamanzi angcolile noma ukuthi uzizwa ezweni elitatazelayo lizama ukwenza okulindelwe umphakathi, umndeni wakho kanye nokulindela kwakho.
Uma lokhu kwenzeka, kuzofika usuku ozobheka ngalo esibukweni futhi uzibuze ukuthi ngubani lowo muntu okugqolozele emuva. Uphi owesifazane obukade ukhona nokuthi ungubani? Ufihle kuphi? Uyabona ukuthi awazi ukuthi kwenzekeni kuwe, futhi awazi ukuthi lowo wesifazane owake waba kuphi ukuphi. Kepha Lowo wesifazane usahamba nawe, ulele ... futhi sekuyisikhathi sokumvusa futhi.
Ingabe uzibeka ekugcineni kohlu?
Omama (ngamunye wethu) banomkhuba wokuzibeka ezansi ohlwini, kubonakala sengathi yilokhu okwenziwa omama abahle, akunjalo? Akukho lutho ngalokho. Akudingekile ukuthi uyeke ukuthenga izingubo - okudingayo- ngoba izingane zakho zidinga izicathulo ezi-3, mhlawumbe ezimbili zibukeka njengezicathulo zibanele futhi ungaba nezingubo ozidingayo.
Cishe awunaso isikhathi sokuya ejimini ngoba awufuni ukuchitha isikhathi nezingane zakho, kepha kungani ungeke ulunge? Dlala imidlalo nezingane zakho noma uma zisesikoleni ngemuva kokuphuma kwesikole. Ngabe wake wadla ukudla umile ngoba wabeka phambili idina lezingane zakho ngaphambi kwesakho? Kwenziwe kabi, isidlo sakusihlwa yisikhathi sabo bonke abantu, hhayi izingane zakho kuphela.
Awunaso isikhathi sokugeza izinwele zakho ngoba unesheduli yakho egcwele imisebenzi yezingane zakho? Kuphi okuza kuqala kuwe? Angisho ukuthi uyakhohlwa ngezingane zakho noma ukuthi uzisebenzisela wena sonke isikhathi, kodwa ngithi ubeka kuqala isikhathi esithile osukwini ukuze ube nguwe futhi, uzinakekele, ukwazi ukuba umama ongcono futhi unempilo enhle ngokomzwelo. Kuzwakala kukuhle? Yenza kwenzeke!
Ufuna ukukwenza konke
Omama abaningi banomkhuba wokufuna ukulawula yonke into, babe nokulawula konke ngoba bacabanga ukuthi ngaleyo ndlela konke kuzolunga. Esinye sezizathu esenza omama bafune ukuphatha yonke into, ngoba bathanda izingane zabo kakhulu, ngaphezu kwabo ... futhi kuyinto ejwayelekile, imvelo impela. Futhi, abezindaba basigcizelela ukuthi omama baphelele. Kubukeka sengathi abantu besifazane kumele bafunde ukugoba kaninginingi, kepha kwenzekani uma uwa ngokweqile ugobe ngaphezulu?
Kwenzekani uma ugoba uze uwele?
Uma uwa, uzozizwa kabi, uzocabanga ukuthi impilo yakho iyanyanyisa futhi uzokhala, uzokhala kakhulu. Uzobe ukwenzele izingane zakho, umndeni wakho ... uzocabanga ngezinye izibopho futhi ngeke uzicabange wena. Kuze kube yilapho uwa futhi uzwa ubuhlungu bokudilika. Umzimba wakho uzoba sezweni elihlukile kunengqondo yakho, ngoba ingqondo yakho ivele nje yeka ukucabanga kudala.
Ukuze ungawi, kufanele uhambe nomlingani wakho njengeqembu, kodwa futhi nibe njengabashadikazi. Uma ungaphilile kahle emoyeni, umndeni wakho ungadilika, umsebenzi wakho ungaphela, uthando lungaphela ... uzozizwa sengathi uminza, impilo yakho izoqala ukonakala futhi ungaqala nokuthandabuza injongo yakho yansuku zonke empilweni .
Ngemuva kokuchitha iminyaka embalwa usebenza ungacabangi ngomhlaba wesipoki, kufanele wazi ukuthi umiselwe ukulahlekelwa. Ingcindezi eyengeziwe oyifaka empilweni yakho ayizukuzuzisa, futhi nomndeni wakho ngeke uzuze. Uma ufuna ngempela ukuba ngumama omuhle, unkosikazi omuhle, umngani omuhle futhi ube ngumuntu olungile ... lapho-ke kufanele ube yinto eza kuqala kuwe. Udinga ukuxhuma kabusha nokuthi ungubani nokuthi ufuna ukuba yini. Bhala phansi ephepheni lokho ofuna ukukufeza, ukuthi ufuna ukuzibona kanjani enyangeni ... bese uqala ukushintsha izinto empilweni yakho uze ukufeze.
Zibeke wena kuqala
Yebo, zibeke kuqala wena nobabili nomndeni wakho niyojabula. Lapho usubona ukuthi kunenkinga, uwena kuphela umuntu ongayilungisa. Ngakho-ke yilokhu okufanele ukwenze. Funa umgomo kuqala, futhi yebo… ungabeka umndeni wakho nezingane zakho kuqala, kodwa ngeke uze uzibeke ngaphansi kwabo, kodwa eceleni kwabo.
Izingane zakho zingakujabulela ukwenza into eyodwa nawe esikhundleni semithathu ... ungabeka imingcele yesikhathi somsebenzi wakho, unganqamula ocingweni lapho uzizwa ugcwele ... setha imingcele. Thola umsebenzi ohambelana nempilo yakho kangcono, noma ngabe uhola kancane futhi ulungise okuningi. Xhuma nomlingani wakho futhi nibe nobusuku obuseduze nezikhathi lapho ningebona abazali kuphela, kepha futhi nemibhangqwana nabathandi.
Qala ukubeka phambili umzuzwana osukwini ukuze nonke nidle ndawonye njengomndeni, kungaba ngesidlo sasemini noma esidlweni sakusihlwa ... ukusebenza ezingxoxweni ezingaphazanyiswa, ngaphandle kwe-TV ... noma izingcingo. Thatha uhambo lomndeni ... zibophezele kuwe nomndeni wakho, yenza izinto ndawonye kabili noma kathathu ngesonto futhi kungekudala kuzoba yinto ejwayelekile futhi uzokwazi nokuzitholela isikhathi. Thatha isithongwana ntambama ngeSonto ngaphandle kokuzisola ... Inhloso ukuthi uma uchitha isikhathi nomndeni wakho ukhona, ukuthi uyakujabulela ... futhi nabo bazokujabulela.
Injabulo yakho ibaluleke kakhulu
Ufanelwe yizo zonke izinjabulo emhlabeni ngenxa nje yokuthi ungumlwi onjani. Uma ungenalo uhlelo lokusekelwa - umlingani noma umndeni - ungacabanga ukuthi lezi zinguquko azinakwenzeka. Iqiniso ukuthi zizoba nzima kakhulu, kepha akudingeki ukuthi zenzeke.
Ungakhuluma nabangani, omakhelwane noma izihlobo abasesimweni esifanayo nawe. Ningashintshana ngokunakekela izingane, nikwazi ukupheka kancane ebusuku ukuze ungadingi ukupheka kakhulu emini, ungahlangana nabangane ngenkathi unezingane zakho… cabanga ukuthi uzokuthola kanjani, bese uyakwenza.