Imvamisa sihlobanisa ukukhulelwa nomzuzu okhethekile futhi omuhle, kepha lokhu akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ukukhulelwa kuguqula impilo yakho, futhi esimweni se ukukhulelwa kwentsha okuningi namanje. Badinga ukusekelwa kwethu kunanini ngaphambili, noma ungazi ukuthi wenzeni njengamanje. Namuhla sikhuluma okufanele sikwenze uma indodakazi yakho ikhulelwa ebusheni noma uma indodana yakho izoba ngubaba.
Kuliqiniso okwenzeka kakhulu namuhla, noma ngabe unolwazi nezinyathelo ongazithola ekuvikeleni ngokocansi. Izinkulungwane zentsha ziyakhulelwa futhi kuzodingeka zibhekane nobunzima obuningi. Ngokomzwelo kungukushaqeka okunesihluku, kokubili kowesifazane osemusha kanye nasemndenini. Kuyinto evamile ukuzwa imizwa eminingi esukela osizini, intukuthelo, intukuthelo, ukushaqeka, ukukhungatheka, ukudumazeka nokuzizwa unecala. Akekho umzali okufunela lokho izingane zakhe, kepha asikwazi ukuphika ukuthi sekwenzekile futhi kuyenzeka. Imizwa yakho isebenza ngokuphelele futhi ijwayelekile, kuyadingeka ukuthi uyisebenzele ukucubungula okwenzekile. Ungakhuluma nomuntu omethembayo noma uchwepheshe okusizayo ukunqoba nokuphatha le mizwa.
Indodakazi noma indodana yakho nayo ihlushwa yimizwa enamandla njengokwesaba, ukushaqeka, ukukhathazeka noma nokudangala. Umhlaba wakhe uyathuthumela, futhi ukukhathazeka kwakhe kokungenzi lutho njengomuntu osemusha ojwayelekile kubaluleke kakhulu futhi kungashintsha impilo yakhe unomphela. Ukuba nemininingwane kuzosenza sikwazi ukubhekana kangcono nalesi simo, manje indodakazi noma indodana yakho ikudinga kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili. Ukuxhumana okuhle phakathi kwenu kuzosiza ukumthathela izinqumo ezingcono kakhulu, ngaphandle kokubeka intando yakho kulokhu kukhulelwa kwentsha.
Uma kuyindodana yakho ezoba ngubaba, naye uzoba nemizwa enamandla kakhulu emhlula. Uyabadinga nabazali bakho kulezi zikhathi zokudideka ukuze ukwazi ukukhuluma nokuncika kubo. Kubalulekile ukuthi bamukele izibopho zabo, ngaphandle kokubaphoqa ukuthi bashade.
Yikuphi ukukhetha indodakazi yethu eyeve eshumini nambili ekukhulelweni?
- Qhubeka nokukhulelwa. Kule nketho uqhubeka nokukhulelwa futhi uhlala nengane. Kungakuhle ukuhlola yiziphi izinselelo nezibopho, futhi yiziphi izisekeli zokuqhubeka ufunde. Muse kudokotela ngokushesha okukhulu ukuze athole usizo oludingekayo ngaphambi kokubeletha.
- Nikela ingane ukuze itholwe. Enye inketho etholakalayo, lapho ingane inikelwa khona ukuze itholwe komunye umndeni. Phenya ifayela le- izinhlobo zokutholwa ezweni lakho kanye nemiphumela engokomzwelo engayifaka endodakazini yakho.
- Qeda ukukhulelwa. Enye indlela ukuqeda ukukhulelwa ukuze kungaqhubeki. Futhi kumele sihlaziye izindleko ezingokomzwelo ezingabandakanya lokho dabula indodakazi yakho ukukhipha isisu. Ngale ndlela futhi kufanele wazi kusengaphambili, futhi intsha eningi ifihle ukukhulelwa kwabo kubazali bayo ngokwesaba ukubadumaza. Emadolobheni amaningi kunezinhlangano ezikhethekile ezeseka abesifazane kulesi simo, lapho zikunikeza lonke ulwazi oludingayo ukuze uthathe isinqumo esingathathi hlangothi.
Izinguquko empilweni yendodakazi yakho ekhulelwe
Izinguquko zokuqala zizoqala emikhubeni yokuphila ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Ngeke ukwazi ukuphila impilo yobusha, ngoba ngeke ukwazi ukuya ephathini, noma ukubhema, noma ukuphuza, ingasaphathwa eyomuthi. Uzodinga ukugwema i-caffeine eyeqile, ubuke indlela odla ngayo, futhi uthole ukuphumula okuningi.
I-Las ukuvakashelwa ngaphambi kokubeletha Zizomakwa ngudokotela, lapho uzohlolelwa khona umchamo negazi, uhlolwe izifo ezithathelwana ngocansi bese ubona ukuthi ngabe uhlaselwe yini yizifo ezifana nesimungumungwane, i-rubella noma imigwaqo.
Ngokwesinqumo okufanele ukwenze maqondana nengane ukungabaza kuzohluka. Uma eqhubeka nokukhulelwa, ngubani ozonakekela ingane? Kuzofanele ayeke isikole? Ngabe ubaba uzohlanganyela yini empilweni yengane? Ngubani ozonakekela ingane ngokwezezimali? Kubalulekile ukuthi usungule ungasiza ngezinga elingakanani Kokubili ngokwezomnotho nangokunakekelwa. Ukuqeda isikole kubalulekile emsebenzini wakho wesikhathi esizayo, ukuze ukwazi ukuthola imisebenzi engcono, futhi ube nekusasa elingcono.
Ngoba khumbula… kubalulekile ukuthi indodakazi noma indodana yakho izwe ukwesekwa kwakho futhi ingumuntu abangaphendukela kuye.