Ukuzalwa kwengane kungumcimbi komalume, ogogo nomkhulu, abangani, ngisho nomakhelwane. Kungokwemvelo ukuba nentshisekelo kumama nendodana yakhe encane, kuyinto ejwayelekile sifuna ukubona eduze lobo buso obuncane obuhehayo izingane ezisanda kuzalwa ezinabo. Kepha uma ungomunye walabo bantu abanenhlanhla osezohlangana nomshana wakhe wokuqala, noma indodana yalowo mngani omthanda kakhulu, sincoma ukuthi uqhubeke ufunda, ngoba ngaphezulu kwesifiso onaso sokuvakashela umntwana, kukhona ukusondelana komndeni osanda kukhula, kanye nelungelo lokuphumula abakufanele.
Kuyaphazamisa kakhulu ukuthi ngobusuku bokuqala ngemuva kokubeletha, kufika abantu abayishumi egumbini lesibhedlela! Okungenani amahora angama-10 okuqala, izivakashi kufanele ziyeke ukubonakala, okusho ukuthi azikhathazeki. Umama omusha nengane yakhe basanda kuhlangana, ubaba udinga isikhala sakhe ukuze afuduke, abanye kufanele nje ithumele imilayezo noma (okungenani) ikholi ukubuza ukuthi izinto zihambe kanjani, nokunikeza usizo uma kudingeka.
Qaphela ukuthi ngalo mqondo, ubuchwepheshe busisiza kakhulu ngoba uma abazali abasha benesikhashana esincane, bangathumela izithombe ezikhethekile ezizothokozisa noma ngubani ozitholayo.
'Knock, knock', ngivakashele
Njengoba sishilo, akukho okuzovela ngesikhathi sokuqala, kusukela lapho kuya phambili, qaphela! Akunandaba ukuthi ungumngani noma ugogo. Kuyinto elula ukuthi ushayele ngaphambili ngocingo ukwazisa: Ukuvakashelwa okungalindelekile kulezi zimo kungacasula.
Ucabanga ukuthi kunzima ukuhlela lapho unengane, abazali bangazizwa bengakhululekile uma othile evela ngo-12 emini kanti usagqoke izingubo zokulala; Ngaphezu kwalokho, umama angafuna ubumfihlo ngenkathi encelisa, noma bamane bakhetha ukungakhathazeki nganoma yini enye ngaphandle kokwakha umndeni osanda kulungiswa.
Ukuvakashelwa okuhle kunezici: kuyamenyezelwa, kufushane (cishe imizuzu engama-30), akuqali ngemuva kwehora lesikhombisa ntambama ukuze kungaphazanyiswa inqubo yokugeza, ukubhucungwa, njll. Kepha kuningi: ingane nomama kumele bakhe isibopho, umama kufanele ahlangane naye endimeni yomama, impela unokungabaza, kepha kwabaningi babo kungumzwelo wakhe ozophendula; noma ngabe unolwazi njengomama noma ubaba, ake ngikubuze imibuzo kunokuba ngiphakamise noma ngeluleke. Isekela ngaphezu kokwahlulela, imkhuthaza ukuba azithuthukise kunokuba amenze abone amaphutha akhe.
Kunoma yikuphi, uma ufuna ukusiza ukubuza ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani. Kwesinye isikhathi kuba nzima ngathi ukubona ukuthi ngaphezu kokushiya ingane kwezinye izandla, umama omusha angafuna ukuthi umlethele ukudla okuphekiwe, noma ufake umshini wokuwasha, uma kunokuzethemba, kunjalo. Uma ungeyena owomndeni kodwa unobudlelwano obuhle nabazali, kungahle kwanele ukuthi ulalele (umkhuba odingekayo kodwa onqenqemeni lokuqothulwa), kunezinto eziningi ongabelana ngazo, namabhizinisi amaningi asalindile.
Ngabe kukhona engikushilo ngokubamba ingane? Yebo, nginakho: akunakuphikiswa, kepha noma ungathanda ukumbamba, buza kuqala, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ungamkhuthazi ukuthi ahambe engalweni. Manje usegcwele 'idyll' nonina, futhi uma uyicela, ngokuqinisekile ngeke ukuthole ukuphikiswa kunoma ngubani, kodwa ukuyithatha kube kuhle, cha.
Ungumama wesikhathi esizayo, noma ubaba wesikhathi esizayo ... futhi sincane isikhathi sakho sokuthi uhlangane nengane yakho
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ube namandla okuhlela ukuvakashelwa, khumbula ukweluleka ukuthi bangezi ukuzokubona kuze kudlule okungenani amahora angama-24; Khumbula ukuthi ngenkathi usesibhedlela kungcono kakhulu uma kuphela amalungu omndeni aqondile noma abangane abaseduze.
Uma ususekhaya, uma unomndeni owandisiwe futhi uvumela ngamunye avele noma nini lapho ethanda khona, kungenzeka kuwe njengoba kwenzeka kimi cishe eminyakeni eyi-12 eyedlule: ngosuku lokuphuma esibhedlela, indlu yaba isidleke sabantu abafikayo nabahambayo Babeze ukuzobuka kuphela, ukuzonikeza umbono wabo futhi bangenze ngibe novalo. Uma kukhona abaningi abafuna ukuhamba ungalinda usuku lwesibili lokuba sekhaya bese ubeka ihora ukuze beze ngasikhathi sinye, inqobo nje uma bazi futhi bethobela ukuthi ukuvakasha kuzoba kufushane.
Uma sebehlangane nengane, sebebonile ukuthi ngabe ulungile, kuzofanele bashayele ngaphambili lapho befuna ukubuya
Ngenhlanhla, ikhefu lobaba namuhla, noma lingafanelekile, lide kakhulu kunaseminyakeni embalwa eyedlule ... Ubaba kuzodingeka anakekele ukuvakasha ezinsukwini ezimbalwa zokuqala. Ungathenga izingilazi, amapuleti epulasitiki futhi ube nama-napkins ephepha kusengaphambili, akukhona ukuthi kufanele uhlele ukudla okulula, kepha ungamema ikhofi / ukumnika, ukhiphe namakhekhe asekhabetheni futhi.
Lapho unengane, ungasebenzisa ithuba labanye abantu, kepha thatha isinyathelo kuqala uzibuzeNgakolunye uhlangothi, kungaba kuhle ukuthi ushiye ikhaya, kepha nguwe ohlela isikhathi. Ah! Futhi mangingakhohlwa, uma ungesona isikhathi sokuqala, faka ukuqonda okuncane kwabanye okungenzeka ukuthi abawazanga imininingwane: uma bezoletha ingubo, ubhasikidi owamukelekile noma yini enganeni, yini unikeze nabafowenu okuthile (indaba, ipeni elihle, unodoli omncane ... ngokweminyaka).
Izinto eziningi esengizibalulile zibukeka zingenakwenzeka ukufeza ngoba sikholwa ukuthi kungaba yinto ecasulayo ukumemezela emndenini ukuthi ngeke bakwazi ukuvakasha ungamaziswanga, nokuthi awufuni izeluleko, kodwa ibhokisi lesidlo sasemini. Noma kunjalo cabanga ukuthi lapho izinto zishiwo ngenhlonipho, amathuba aphezulu ukuthi azokwamukelwa kahle.