Omama abaningi bakhathazekile ngalolu daba, futhi abazi ukuthi kungaba ngumqondo omuhle kangakanani-noma cha- ukuthi amadodana namadodakazi abo ababone behamba-ze, ikakhulukazi lapho izingane ziqala ukukhula futhi zidlula umkhawulo weminyaka emithathu. Omama abaningi bayazibuza ukuthi yisiphi isikhathi esifanele sokuba izingane zabo ziyeke ukuzibona zihamba ze -uma ushintsha izingubo, lapho ugeza nengane yakho encane, njll.
Kepha angisho nje ukuthi omama babonakala benqunu, kepha nobaba. Abafana namantombazane bangaqala ukubuza imibuzo mayelana nepipi labazali, ipipi uqobo, isitho sangasese sikamama noma isitho sangasese uqobo lwaso… abazali abaningi basala bengenalutho futhi abazi ukuthi kufanele baphendule bathini noma baphendule bathini.
Okubalulekile kuyo yonke le ndaba kungaphezu kokucabanga. Mhlawumbe lapho ingane yakho isineminyaka engaphezu kwengu-7 ubudala iyoyeka ukubuza ngokuzimela kwayo, kodwa ukukwenza ngaphambilini kunempilo futhi kuyimvelo. Uma ngephutha izingane zakho zikubona unqunu eshaweni, uma zikubona ushintsha izingubo zakho noma zikubona nje unqunu ngenxa yanoma yisiphi isimo, kungani kufanele zithuke? Uma wethukile uzobe ufundisa ingane yakho ukuthi umzimba onqunu uyinto embi, kanti kuyinto engokwemvelo kakhulu emhlabeni. Kuyadingeka nje ukusetha imingcele ethile ukuze izingane zazi ukuthi kunemigomo ethile yezenhlalo mayelana nobumfihlo okufanele ibhekwe.
Iqiniso ukuthi ayikho iminyaka yemilingo yokuthi kufanele uyeke nini ukugeza nengane yakho noma ushintshe phambi kwayo. Umndeni ngamunye wehlukile futhi banamazinga abo enduduzo uma kukhulunywa ngobunqunu phambi kwezingane. Izingane, noma kunjalo, zivame ukufuna ukuba ngasese ngesikhathi esithile futhi empeleni, lokhu kufanele kuhlonishwe. Lapho izingane ziqaphela kakhulu imizimba yazo ziqala ukucela ubumfihlo futhi sekuyisikhathi sokubasiza baqonde ukuthi kuyini nokuthi kungani kubalulekile.
Okulandelayo okuvela komama Namuhla sizokunikeza izinkombandlela ezithile ukuze ukwazi ukunquma ukuthi yisiphi isikhathi esihle sokumisa ingane yakho ikubone unqunu, kepha khumbula, kuncike kakhulu ekunethezekeni onakho ngale ndaba ekhaya kanye nezindinganiso zakho .
Cishe iminyaka eyisithupha
Kucishe kube yiminyaka eyisithupha lapho izingane ziqala ukuqonda umqondo wobumfihlo futhi zingakwamukela futhi zikuhloniphe. Ungathola ukuthi ingane yakho ayifuni ukugeza nomfowabo, ukuthi ivala umnyango lapho isendlini yangasese ngisho nokuthi ivala ekamelweni layo ukuze igqoke ekuseni futhi noma ifuna ukuzidlala ngaphandle ephazanyiswa yinoma ngubani. Lokhu kujwayelekile futhi kufanele kuhlonishwe.
Lapho ingane yakho ikukhombisa ukuthi ifuna ukuba wedwa, empeleni kuyisibonakaliso sokuzimela. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ingane yakho iyakhula futhi iyakhula, izifunela isikhala esincane. Lokhu kuhle. Into enhle kakhulu ukuhlonipha le mikhawulo futhi ubonise ingane yakho ukuthi uyakuqonda ukubaluleka kokuba nemfihlo encane yokugeza, ukuya endlini yangasese noma ukugqoka ... nokuthi ngendlela efanayo, kufanele ayihloniphe nakwabanye.
Khuluma ngemingcele yomuntu siqu
Ngenkathi abanye beqala ukukhombisa isifiso sobumfihlo abaneminyaka eyisithupha, kukhona nezinye izingane ezingakwenzi lokho. Ezinye izingane ziyakujabulela ukugeza nezingane zakubo futhi azizizwa zodwa njengesidingo. Zingahle zibonakale zinganaki ubunqunu bakho lapho ushawa noma ugqoka. Kulokhu, kuyadingeka ukukhuluma ngemingcele yomuntu siqu ngaphakathi nangaphandle komndeni,
Sonke sinezindawo zethu zokunethezeka futhi kufanele zifunde ukuhlonipha umkhawulo womunye nomunye. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ukhulume ngezinto ezinjengokungqongqoza emnyango ngaphambi kokungena, ubuze ukuthi ungangena yini egumbini ngaphambi kokuphazamisa kulo, njll. Lo mthetho udinga ukusungulwa futhi ngaleyo ndlela, futhi uzoqala ukuqonda imingcele yokubona abanye abantu benqunu. Uma kujwayelekile ekhaya lakho, kulungile, kepha ngaphandle kwekhaya kusekhona abanye abantu abangenawo umbono ofanayo futhi nezingane kufanele zikuhloniphe. Ukukhuluma ngemingcele yomuntu siqu kusiza izingane ukuba ziqonde imikhawulo yabanye futhi zizibekele eyazo.
Cabanga ngezidingo zakho
Lokhu kuzoya ngalowo nalowo nokuthi uzizwa kanjani ezimweni ezahlukene. Uma ngokwesibonelo uzizwa ukhululekile phambi kwengane yakho ngenkathi uhamba ze, kungani kufanele ukuguqule lokho? Mhlawumbe ungumuntu onqunu futhi ubona okwemvelo njengokufanele. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ungaba umuntu onesizotha futhi uqale ukuzizwa unesizotha esithile njengoba ingane yakho ikhula futhi ikubona unqunu, kulokhu uma udinga ubumfihlo obuningi ukuze ugeze noma ugqoke, nakho lokho kuhle. Okubalulekile akukhona nje kuphela ukubeka imingcele ebumfihlo, kodwa nokuthi ingane iqonde ukuthi kungaba namazinga ahlukene ngokuya ngabantu. Izingane akudingeki zibone ubunqunu njengento eyihlazo noma engalungile, umane ukuthi kunezikhathi lapho udinga khona ubumfihlo obuningi kunabanye.
Comfort is key
Induduzo iyisihluthulelo futhi awukho umthetho onzima futhi osheshayo walokho. Abazali kufanele balandele isibonelo sengane, okungukuthi, lapho ingane yakho icela ubumfihlo lapho ifuna ukushintsha izingubo noma ukuya endlini yangasese, ikuthumelela umyalezo ocacile wokuthi yisidingo okufanele usihloniphe: idinga isikhala somuntu siqu futhi ukhombise ukuzimela kwakho. Lokhu kuwuphawu oluhle lokuthi abazali bayeke ukuhamba-ze noma ukugeza phambi kwezingane zabo. Uma ingane yakho ihlala ingenandaba, akudingekile ukuphoqa isimo.
Ukuze uthole induduzo enkulu, kubalulekile ukwazi izinga lenduduzo umndeni onalo maqondana nalokhu. Lokhu kusho ukuthi kufanele kunakwe kakhulu indlela izingane ezizizwa ngayo lapho zigeza nabazali bazo noma lapho zibabona ziguquka. Akubalulekanga kangako ukukhathazeka ngakho, kufanele ukuvumele ukuthi kwenzeke.