Ungayigwema kanjani i-Parental Alienation Syndrome (SAP)?

Marta Castelos

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ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali syndrome

Ukuthi umshado ochithekayo unzima kakhulu kulabo abathintekayo, kepha kwesinye isikhathi kuyisixazululo esihle kunazo zonke. Kepha ngeshwa akuyona yonke imibhangqwana ehlukana ngokuthula. Inkinga ifika lapho iphela kabi kakhulu, nothando ababekade benalo luphenduka inzondo.  Lokhu kuthinta kakhulu izingane, okungaholela kuParental Alienation Syndrome (SAP).

Yini i-Parental Alienation Syndrome?

Noma lesi sifo sisasebenza ayemukelwanga kumanuwali yezengqondo, ubukhona bayo abunakuphikwa. Le syndrome iyi- ukwehlukaniswa kwengane komunye wabazali bayo, ngemuva komzabalazo wabazali bayo ngemuva kwesahlukaniso. Kuyindlela yokuhlukumeza ngokwengqondo ezinganeni.

Kuyaziwa yibo bonke abantwana ezikhathini eziningi, zisetshenziswa njengezikhali ngokwehlukana nabazali bazo. Umzali angayisebenzisa ngendlela yakhe, ngokuthukwa, ukuthukwa, ukuhlekwa usulu, izichasiso ezilulazayo ... ukuhlambalaza nokudicilela phansi omunye ukuze anqobe impi yokuwinwa.

Lokhu inikungaholela ekwehlukaneni kwengane komunye umzali, lokho kuvame ukudluliselwa emndenini wakhe, bemdelela ngomuzwa wobutha nononya. Bathatha njengeyabo imizwa efakwe kubo ngokukhohlisa ngokomzwelo.

Inhloso ukuthola ingane ukuthi iphule isibopho ne-ex yayo futhi ibenze budlelane ubudlelwane, ngokwazi noma ngokungazi. Izisulu eziyinhloko zalezi zinto zokukhohlisa yizingane ezinemiphumela emibi kubo. Kakade isehlukaniso siyinhlupheko enkulu ngoba abaqondi ukuthi kwenzekani futhi bazizwa benecala, njengokungathi baphonsa emahlombe abo amancane umthwalo wokuthwala icala namaphutha abadala.

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Ungakugwema kanjani ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali ngesifo?

Uma uthathe ifayela le- nquma umlingani wakho nokuthi nihlukane kufanele ubeke izingane zakho kuqala. Akudingeki ukuthi bahlupheke ngemiphumela yabantu abadala, noma baphathwe njengezikhali eziphonswayo. Izingane ezihlushwa yilesi sifo zizwa ukuthi kufanele zizonde enye ukuze zizizwe zithandwa ngomunye.

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Ukwehlukana noma isehlukaniso sekuvele kuyinkinga enkulu engokomzwelo, ungavumeli izingane zakho zihlupheke kakhulu kunalokho okufanele. Ngaso sonke isikhathi kufanele ufune inzuzo yabancane.


Kungani ukhumbula ... singavimba kuphela ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali kwesifo ngaphambi kokuba kuvele. Ungavumeli intukuthelo ikufiphaze.


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  5. Isitoreji sedatha: Idatabase ebanjwe yi-Occentus Networks (EU)
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