Ukufa kuyinto engokwemvelo kumuntu, kuzosithinta kungekudala. Futhi lapho thina bantu abadala (kungaba njengelungu lomndeni, umngane noma isilwane) sizithola sisesimweni sokubhekana nobuhlungu bethu futhi ngasikhathi sinye nezigidi zokungabaza mayelana ukuchaza kanjani ukufa ezinganeni. Sifuna ukuyithola kahle, kepha iyisihloko esibucayi futhi esingakhululeki.
Ukufa kuyinto ekhona kakhulu osukwini lwethu nosuku futhi okufanele inikezwe ngokwemvelo. Kubalulekile ukuthi singakugweme futhi sazi ukuthi kufanele sixhumane kanjani nakho ukuze bafunde umqondo ofanele futhi bangawenzi ube yinto engafanele.
Ingabe kufanele baqanjelwe amanga?
Impendulo icacile cha. Izingane ziwabona amanga zisencane kakhulu. Bafanele ukutshelwa iqiniso, ukuyivumelanisa neminyaka yabo nokukhula ngokomzwelo.
Yize inqubo yabo yosizi ihlukile kweyethu, nabo banayo. Kuvela ngokweminyaka yabo. Njengoba bekwazi nje ukuhlanganisa ulwazi oluncane, kungcono ukunikeza izincazelo ezimfishane nezifushane. Izingathekiso azinconywa, ngaphandle uma ingane isencane kakhulu.
Kuyinkimbinkimbi kepha kuyadingeka emfundweni yabo yezemizwa, uma bengatshelwanga yona noma kwenziwa ngendlela engafanele, bangakhula babe nemikhawulo ezingeni elihambisanayo. Akulula ukubhekana nodaba, ngoba ingane kuzodingeka ithole izindlela zayo zokuzivumelanisa nokuqonda okwenzekile, kepha kuyisinyathelo esidingekayo. Izokwakhiwa ingxenye yokukhula ngokomzwelo nangokuvela kwezingane zethu.
Ubatshele nini
Uma ucabanga ngemvelo yokufuna ukwazi yezingane, kungcono kakhulu uma zivele zinomqondo owakhelwe ngaphambili ngaphambi kokuba zenzeke eduze kwethu. Amathuba anjengokufa kwe-movie noma umlingiswa wezindaba angasetshenziswa ukuyelapha.
Uma kwenzeka eduze kakhulu, inhloso ukuyichaza ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzekaNgaphambi kokuthi uqaphele okuthile okuxakile futhi ungazi ukuthi kungani. Lokhu kungakwenza ukhathazeke.
Bakuphatha kanjani ukufa ngokweminyaka
- Ngaphambi kweminyaka engu-2 bayazi ukuthi kukhona okuxakile okwenzekayo yize bengawuqondi umqondo wokufa. Bangayizwa imizwa yokulahlekelwa uma ivela kothile osondelene kakhulu, bese bephendula (njengoba bekhawulelwe ngomlomo) ngendlela yokuziphatha: ukuphelelwa isifiso sokudla, inkathazo yokulala, ukukhathazeka ngokweqile, ukukhala ...
- Phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 nengu-5 Sekuvele kukhona ukuqonda ngomqondo wokufa, kepha bakuthatha njengento ebuyisekayo. Banekhono lokukhuluma kodwa bangaba nokuziphatha okufana nokwasesigabeni esedlule (ukucela i-pacifier futhi, ukuba sezandleni ...)
- Kusukela eminyakeni engu-6 kuye kwengu-9 ubudala sebevele bahlukanisa okucacile nokufa. Ngisho nokuba namandla omlomo amaningi kunasesigabeni esedlule, abazi namanje ukuthi bangayisingatha kanjani futhi bayiveze ngokucasuka, ngokuba necala, ukuzihlukanisa ... Bangabuyela nasekuziphatheni kweminye iminyaka esivele yadlula (ukuthukuthela, ukukhala, .. .), izinkinga zokuhlushwa esikoleni, ukusebenza okuphansi…
- Es kusukela eminyakeni engu-9 ubudala lapho umqondo wokufa ungokuthile okufana kakhulu nokwabantu abadala. Sebevele bekuqonda njengento engenakuphikiswa futhi engenakugwemeka. Ukuphendula nakho kufana kakhulu nokwabantu abadala, bazizwa becasukile, benecala, bakhathazekile, bedabukile ...
Izimpendulo zizohluka futhi kuye ngengane eyodwa, ngoba ezinye izinto ezifana nomndeni, umqondo wokufa endaweni yabo, ithonya labo lokuthuthuka nokukhula ngokomzwelo ...
Ungakuchaza kanjani ukufa ezinganeni
Kukhona lokho chaza ukufa ezinganeni ngendlela emfushane futhi elula kungenzeka. Gwema zonke izinhlobo zezichasiso ezingadala ukudideka okunjengalezi:
- "Yena uhambe": Ijwayelekile kakhulu, futhi ingadala ukwesaba ukuthi abazali bakho noma labo osondelene nabo bazohamba besaba ukuthi ngeke besabuya.
- "Kusezulwini": ngomcabango wezingane bangakholelwa ukuthi lo muntu usomkhathi noma uyahamba nokuthi uzobuya.
- "Uphumule": kungadala izinkinga ukulala ngokwesaba ukungavuki.
- "Ukhuphukele ezulwini": bangesaba ukuphakama, amakheshi, izitebhisi ...
Ngembaba. Njengoba ubungasho kunoma ngubani. "Ushonile umkhulu u-Antonio." Isinyathelo esilandelayo kungaba ukulinda ukubona ukuphendula kwengane, ngokucophelela kepha uyivumele icubungule imininingwane. Uma ucela imininingwane engaphezulu, inganikezwa kepha futhi nangendlela emfushane, ngaphandle kokuyicabanga kakhulu. Ungamniki imininingwane angayicelanga, ngoba uzodideka kakhulu.
Uma ememeza, ekhahlela, ekhala ... kuzoba ngenye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokuphendula njengoba ezwakalisa imizwa yakhe. Mnike yonke into ocabanga ukuthi uyayidinga: uthando, ukunaka, ukuphepha ...
Ungayilawula kanjani imizwa yakho phambi kwabo
Awuyisizi ingane yakho uma ufihla usizi lwakho, ungayifihli imizwa yakho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izingane zihlakaniphe kakhulu futhi ziyaqaphela konke. Uzobe umthumelela izimpawu zokuthi lesi sihloko akukhulunywa ngaso, sizodala isibalo sokwesaba futhi sizoba yinto engathandeki.
Izikhathi eziningi kungakholelwa ukuthi ngokungalubambi lolu daba bagwema ukuhlupheka futhi kuphambene impela. Ngokungayiphathi kahle kulapho ukuhlupheka kwakheka khona, ungazi ukuthi ungayiphatha kanjani ngendlela efanele. Singabazali esingakwenza ukubanika uthando, ukuphepha nothando, kanti ukwesaba nokudabuka kuzophela. Ngaphandle kwalokho ukwesaba kuzosuka ekubeni kwemvelo kuye ekuguleni futhi kuzodala izinkinga eziningi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ezingagwemeka.
Uma beqala ukwesaba ukufa kwabo noma okwabazali babo, batshele ukuthi ngeke ufe isikhathi eside, eside, eside, eside, futhi kulapho-ke abantu, kakhulu, kakhulu, kakhulu kodwa kubi.
Ingabe kufanele zifakwe kuma-goodbyes?
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Ngamafuphi nje, izingane kuzofanele zibhekane nokufa kungekudala, futhi lapho sibavulela indlela, kuzoba lula ngabo ukuthi bakuphathe.
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