Ekuqaleni kwalo nyaka 2017, ukwandiswa kwe- ikhefu lobaba (Izindaba ezimnandi!), Futhi obaba abaningi abasha bajabule kakhulu ngoba bazokwazi ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi beshumayela amasonto okuqala engane eduze, futhi bangasebenza njengabasizi noma “ukwesekwa” kubalingani babo. I-Postpartum yisikhathi esibucayi kakhulu emjikelezweni wokuzala wesifazane: lapho kunezandla eziningi zokuhlinzeka ukwesekwa emisebenzini ehlukahlukene yempilo yansuku zonke, ukucindezeleka okuncane kuzoba kumama omusha.
Ngicabanga ukuthi i-priori, indlela kababa ngamunye ehlukile ngayo, yebo: sifakaza ezinye izitatimende kwabezindaba ngomqondo wokuthi "kuhle kangakanani, ngizokwazi ukumnika ibhodlela!". Futhi yize ngingelona ibhodlela, uma ngingumvikeli we izinzuzo nezinzuzo zokuncelisa (uma kuphela ngenxa yesibopho somama nengane); Empeleni, ukuncelisa ibele isenzo somzimba esifana nezilwane ezincelisayo (futhi sinjalo, noma ngabe siphila ngekhulu lama-XNUMX). Kungakho ngimangele, futhi ngabona isidingo sokuphikisana ngale ndaba, ngoba ... Ngabe siyazi ukuthi ukuncelisa ibele yikho kuphela abesifazane abangakwenza kepha abesilisa abakwazi?
Ngisho: uma ungubaba, cabanga ngenani lemisebenzi ongahileleka kuyo, kufaka phakathi ukwenza lula ukuncelisa ibele, Ngikunikeza imininingwane kuwe? Ngizonikeza izibonelo ezimbalwa nje: ukuyothenga, ukufaka imishini yokuwasha, ukubamba ingane ezandleni ukuze umama akwazi ukuphumula imizuzu embalwa noma ukugeza, ukuphendula izingcingo, ukuhambisa abantu abadala esikoleni, ukuthatha baye epaki, baya ezifundweni zokufundisa esikoleni, ukwenza ukudla, ukugcoba, ukushintsha ingane, ukuyibamba futhi ngenjabulo yokukwenza, ukubona ukuthi umama uncelisa kanjani, ulungiselela isikhwama ukuthi aphume ahambe nengane .. . Impela ungacabanga ngokuningi, kungani udinga ukumnika ibhodlela uma kuningi okumele ukwenze?
Ubaba: iqhaza lakho ekunceliseni ibele liyanquma.
Uzongitshela: "kahle, kepha umndeni ngamunye unquma ukuthi ngabe ukudla kuzoba ubisi lukamama noma ngebhodlela", Yebo kunjalo, kepha ukuthi isinqumo sifaka phakathi isidingo sengane. Futhi ngisho nokwazi ukuthi kunezikhathi lapho kungenzeki khona, ngizibona ngisesibophelweni 'sokugcizelela ukuthi izinhlangano ezahlukahlukene zikazwelonke nezamazwe omhlaba ziveza ukuthi ukuncelisa ibele kufanele kube kusuka ezinyangeni ezi-0 kuye kweziyisithupha zokuphila; nokuthi kufanele ihlale kuze kube yiminyaka emi-6 kanye nokuphakelwa okuhambisanayo.
Okokuqala, ukhulula umama ozohlala ekhaya (okungenani yena Isikhathi sekhefu lokubeletha) yokwenza imisebenzi eyahlukahlukene, okuthi, noma ngabe ihlobene nokunakekelwa kuphela, izomkhathaza kakhulu. Noma singakhohlwa ngemisebenzi ethile yasendlini, kukhona eminye edingekayo (okokugqoka, ukondleka kwabazali nezinye izingane, inhlanzeko ...).
Umama unamasonto angama-40 ekhulelwe futhi ubelethileLokhu akumenzi agule, kepha manje kufanele anakekele isidalwa esiyigugu, asungule isibopho esihle kakhulu naye. Ngokwencazelo, izilwane ezincelisayo zasolwandle nezasentabeni, senzelwe ukuba ukuxhumana njalo nomnakekeli oyinhloko (Lokhu akuxhomekile emibonweni), futhi kunempilo kakhulu. Kepha ungacabanga ukuthi kungaba njani ukunakekela ingane, ukuyondla, ukuyigcina isondele emzimbeni wayo, ... ngaphandle kokusekelwa futhi kungekho noyedwa ongasiza ngezinye izinto?
Ngokuqinisekile manje usukuqonda kangcono kakhulu. Kepha uma ngikutshela ukuthi nawe ungafunda mayelana nokuma, inkinga yokuncelisa noma obunye ubunzima, futhi lokho nakho Ngeke nje ukhule njengomzali, kepha ungaba wusizo olubalulekile ...
Ithuba elihle lokusekelwa ngokomzwelo.
Njengokungathi lokho bekunganele, wena nomlingani wakho ninethuba elihle lokuphatha imizwa ethile futhi nenze ngcono ubudlelwane benu. Abesifazane abaningi bazizwa bedabukile ngemuva kokuzalwa (akudingeki kube njalo ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha, kodwa ukudabuka), zidinga ukuzwakala, nokuthi 'intaba' engokomzwelo abakuyo, ayizishwabadeli. Ngalokhu nawe, uzophuthelwa izinsuku zekhefu lobaba, kepha siyakuqinisekisa ukuthi lokho okuhlangenwe nakho kufanelekile ngokuphila kakhulu.
Amabele nesinqumo sokuncelisa.
Akudingeki ukuthi, umsebenzi oyinhloko wama-boobs ukondla izingane ezisanda kuzalwa (yize izikhangiso zezingubo zangaphansi nezingubo zangaphansi zenzelwe ukusiholela ekukholweni ngenye indlela). Ngakho-ke, ngicabanga ukuthi ngeke ube mdala kakhulu noma ulangazelele 'ukumaka insimu' yomuntu, kepha noma kunjalo, futhi Kumele uhloniphe isinqumo sokuncelisa, uqonde ukuthi le ngxenye yomzimba womlingani wakho ngeyabo.
Bengingafuni ukwandisa lokhu okuthunyelwe kakhulu, okukhombisa ngokuningiliziwe yonke imisebenzi ongayenza ukuthuthukisa imizwa kamama omusha, kepha futhi nokwenza ikhaya lakho lijwayeleke ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi wonke umuntu unakekelwe izidingo zakhe . Uma unenhlanhla yokuba nomndeni eduze, imisebenzi izosatshalaliswa kakhulu, uma kungenjalo, ngena ngaphakathi bese ukhombisa ukuthi uyaqonda ukuthi lokho kokubambisana kusebenza kanjani. Futhi ungakhathazeki, kwesinye isikhathi uzokwakha isibopho nendodakazi yakho noma indodana yakho, unesikhathi esiningi phambi kwakho; empeleni, usuvele uyakwenza lapho umqukula futhi umomotheka naye.